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ORIGINAL: angelikaJ

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ORIGINAL: lostinmyownmind

So, you did it, you liked it and now, you are having problems with your self image of masculinity because you liked it. You're depressed and anxious because what liking it goes against that self image of masculinity. Oh yeah, therapy is in order here....

We don't even know IF he liked it... but he is depressed and anxious now.

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ORIGINAL: mnottertail

So, what was their advice when you told them about the big dildo up the ass?

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ORIGINAL: Steve2199

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ORIGINAL: Killerangel

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ORIGINAL: Steve2199



Www.live person.com is what I used

http://www.liveperson.com is a business consulting service. Not anything to do with therapy that I saw.

http://www.liveperson.com/experts/professional-counseling/

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ORIGINAL: mnottertail

boss me about (thats canuck at least, not here)  and how did you come across the /professionals/headshrink/so on and so forth from the main site while not finding kink aware professionals on a dating site?

and you didnt tell us their advice, but you answered the wank.   

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ORIGINAL: mnottertail

no put a period after the live, before the person.
Free Worldwide Webcam Chat & Dating
Wank by QED. 

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ORIGINAL: Killerangel

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ORIGINAL: mnottertail

no put a period after the live, before the person.
Free Worldwide Webcam Chat & Dating
Wank by QED. 

Got it, thanks. The OP somehow left out the period [8|]

So yeah, hey OP, you used a "Free Worldwide Webcam Chat & Dating" site to talk to someone and you're calling it talking to a kink-friendly therapist? Sorry, calling BS on all of that. That's like saying you went into the chat rooms here and got some kink-friendly counseling on your issues.

So either you did go see a professional Dominatrix and are having issues and just made up the stuff about the online therapy for whatever reason- or you're here trolling for attention and wanted to make things look more legit for whatever reason by mentioning that you did talk to a 'therapist'. Honestly though....calling a chat site online therapy was pretty lame. If you honestly do have a problem you didn't do yourself any favors by pulling the online therapy comment out of your butt.

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ORIGINAL: hausboy

Steve--

I'm not a therapist so I'm not about to tell you why you feel the way you do.  I only know that I've been in the BDSM community for over 20 years, and for many of those years, my entire social circle consisted of leatherfolk/kinky folks.  I've never seen BDSM "mess someone up"--I've seen people who were already messed up, had some mental health issues, and for some of them, certain types of BDSM play exacerbated their problems. 

Taboo sexual desires and fantasies can sometimes live deep within us, and they can invoke some very heavy duty emotions, which sounds like that's what it did for you.  If you already had anxiety in your past, obviously something you did or experienced may have awakened some of those fears and anxieties.  Some scenes can definitely leave a person feeling exposed, vulnerable etc.  

My recommendation, like the others have said,  is that you definitely seek the care and guidance of a caring, non-judgmental mental health professional and not delve into BDSM unless you feel like you are in a healthier place to do so.

Good luck to you--I'm sorry it was not a positive experience for you.

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ORIGINAL: Steve2199

This is what I used,

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ORIGINAL: Steve2199

I'm not winding anyone up it's true, it's also messing my head up now so can people please let the thread drop, you say I'm not behaving normal but neither is it normal to let someone abuse you, but everyone has different morals, please let the thread drop though, because I know it's gonna sink from here on in and I dotn want that, I've not come here to argue.