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Steve2199 -> Can bdsm mess you up? (2/14/2012 4:07:35 PM)
Hi guys, I tried bdsm for the first time a few months ago, I'm not sure why u did it, but I did it, with a dominatrix and it's totally destroyed me. I have had anxiety attacks ever since, I used to get them when I was younger but this has brought them back. It's like since I did it I don't feel manly or human anymore, just really weak and timid. Where I work it is with mostly men and they all seem to have stopped talking to me, they've noticed how ive changed, even though they probably don't know why. Is this common? Is there anyplace I can go for help?

LadyHibiscus -> RE: Can bdsm mess you up? (2/14/2012 4:09:06 PM)
Therapy. Crisis hotline. Your church, if you are religious. Are you sure that this one incident is enough to have pushed you into a whole new zone?

mnottertail -> RE: Can bdsm mess you up? (2/14/2012 4:09:18 PM)
google Kink Aware Professionals, see if theres someone in your area........but it ain't BDSM messed you up.

Steve2199 -> RE: Can bdsm mess you up? (2/14/2012 4:10:14 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: LadyHibiscus Therapy. Crisis hotline. Your church, if you are religious. Are you sure that this one incident is enough to have pushed you into a whole new zone? I can't think what else it could be, I felt great before I did it, it's kind of freaked me out I dunno why.

Fornica -> RE: Can bdsm mess you up? (2/14/2012 4:11:23 PM)
What does "tried BDSM" mean for you?

Steve2199 -> RE: Can bdsm mess you up? (2/14/2012 4:12:03 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Fornica What does "tried BDSM" mean for you? Visiting a dominatrix

angelikaJ -> RE: Can bdsm mess you up? (2/14/2012 4:12:44 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Steve2199 quote: ORIGINAL: LadyHibiscus Therapy. Crisis hotline. Your church, if you are religious. Are you sure that this one incident is enough to have pushed you into a whole new zone? I can't think what else it could be, I felt great before I did it, it's kind of freaked me out I dunno why. Your feelings about yourself and the experience are more likely to be impacting you negatively than the experience itself.

mnottertail -> RE: Can bdsm mess you up? (2/14/2012 4:13:00 PM)
She didn't cb6000 you or whats the fuckin beef?

Fornica -> RE: Can bdsm mess you up? (2/14/2012 4:13:00 PM)
Dude. You need to give us more to work with here. You had coffee? You sucked cock? You fucked a horse? what we talking about?

OsideGirl -> RE: Can bdsm mess you up? (2/14/2012 4:14:08 PM)
I'm with the others. You need to talk to a professional.

mnottertail -> RE: Can bdsm mess you up? (2/14/2012 4:14:37 PM)
no profile, no info, not at all forthcoming, spanish prisoner emergency, finds CM today and needs the advice of his 300, 000 closest friends, can't find a phonebook of head mechanics ;starts with a W, wot?

Steve2199 -> RE: Can bdsm mess you up? (2/14/2012 4:14:58 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Fornica Dude. You need to give us more to work with here. You had coffee? You sucked cock? You fucked a horse? what we talking about? I didn't suck any cock. Just kind if got naked and dominated/humiliated etc, I'm sure most of you can imagine, I felt aroused but also angry and a bit weak, I feel like half the man I did before I tried it, I feel confused, maybe it's my own fault for doing it but I guess it's too late now,

lizi -> RE: Can bdsm mess you up? (2/14/2012 4:15:52 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: angelikaJ Your feelings about yourself and the experience are more likely to be impacting you negatively than the experience itself. I think Angelika has hit this one on the head. As the others have said, you need to talk to a professional about this as it seems fairly significant.

LadyHibiscus -> RE: Can bdsm mess you up? (2/14/2012 4:16:27 PM)
Professional help. Get it. Because this little experience is not what is messing with you.

Fornica -> RE: Can bdsm mess you up? (2/14/2012 4:16:59 PM)
So you're questioning whether you're still a man after submitting to a (I'm assuming you paid) professional Domme? Are you coming from a religious background? I know that sort of thing can be trigger-ish

Steve2199 -> RE: Can bdsm mess you up? (2/14/2012 4:17:29 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: LadyHibiscus Professional help. Get it. Because this little experience is not what is messing with you. Ok I will get help, don't understand what you mean when you say this little experience is not messing with you though

mnottertail -> RE: Can bdsm mess you up? (2/14/2012 4:18:18 PM)
Get an english teacher too then.

Steve2199 -> RE: Can bdsm mess you up? (2/14/2012 4:18:49 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Fornica So you're questioning whether you're still a man after submitting to a (I'm assuming you paid) professional Domme? Are you coming from a religious background? I know that sort of thing can be trigger-ish I am religious but haven't been to church for ike 10 years so it's not a big thing, I guess honour is a bi thing for me, I feel ive lost that I can't help it.

LadyHibiscus -> RE: Can bdsm mess you up? (2/14/2012 4:18:50 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Steve2199 quote: ORIGINAL: LadyHibiscus Professional help. Get it. Because this little experience is not what is messing with you. Ok I will get help, don't understand what you mean when you say this little experience is not messing with you though I mean that this experience might have triggered you, but an hour with a pro dom is not enough to shatter your psyche. Really, it's not. Kink-aware professionals. Google.

mnottertail -> RE: Can bdsm mess you up? (2/14/2012 4:19:59 PM)
and he got the quotes feature and reply to right off the bat...........

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