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RE: How to manage a dom advice? - 2/20/2012 4:53:26 AM   
kalikshama


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Status: offline 		A survey by America Online and Salary.com concluded that employers spend nearly $760 billion a year paying employees to goof off on the Web. And with the ever-increasing popularity of YouTube, Facebook, Twitter, and other social media sites, the urge to goof off instead of working increases daily.

While a certain degree of personal online usage may be perfectly okay, the goal here is to stop employees who waste HOURS online and/or to prevent employees from accessing damaging online content such as pornography or gambling web sites, as well as preventing them from downloading illegal software, inviting viruses into your network or spamming out racist or off-color jokes using your company e-mail – all of which can create bigger problems legally and financially.

Two Simple Fixes

So what’s a business owner to do?

1. First, make sure you have a good AUP or acceptable use policy in place that outlines what employees can and cannot do online or with company e-mail and resources. If you have one, make sure it’s updated to include the use of social media sites and rules on sharing confidential company information.

2. Next, we recommend installing good content filtering software that will “police” the network for you 24x7x365.

Although we cannot provide any legal advice, one of the things we recommend is working with a computer consultant to establish an “acceptable use policy” that outlines how employees can use company resources, such as their e-mail, Internet, and electronic equipment. Your consultant should also be able to help you set up the monitoring software that can either allow management to govern employee access to certain web sites, such as gambling, porn, career sites, etc., or block employees from those sites all together.

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RE: How to manage a dom advice? - 2/20/2012 4:54:49 AM   
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Yeah, thats too bad. I'm confused too or maybe just concerned why my other topic was deleted. Hate to see things like that. That happens all the time here?


Probably because you outed someone by name which is a terms of service violation, thereby not allowed. Such things happen when the rules are broken. Most people abide by them.. a few don't and when they don't they are, generally, either moderated or the threads are pulled. There are people who have repeat violations which have resulted in temp banning and, in some cases, permanent banning.

It's all rather uneven though and still in some sort of weird flux. Hopefully, things will get balanced soon but I doubt outing someone is ever going to be okay.



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RE: How to manage a dom advice? - 2/20/2012 10:43:01 AM   
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Such a cynical lot. Trust must be an issue for many of you, yes? I don't mind her checking this place out when we have a little down time Not that big of a deal. I check out porn sites on my laptop on occasion. It's that friggin Facebook that's got to go.


The only issue I have with trust on these sites is after seeing 1000+ phony topical scenarios, is going against my trust in that my BS detector is malfunctioning.

It is beyond me how you hope to exemplify trust, when by your own "admission" here, the issue Im having here is not that you have checked your employees online history, many employers do this, but that instead of confronting your employee directly and outlining what is expected of them in terms of online habits and office decorum, you have supposedly made a choice to come *here* and engage us strangers in a conversation on how to manage your employee knowing that she is a female dominant.

Our answers have been fairly consistent, you manage the individual as you would any other employee. Most of us are saying inappropriate computer use (and inneffective managerial techniques) is just that: inappropriate computer use (and ineffective managerial techniques). Nothing more, nothing less. Do not pass go, no special "Dom card" that we get to carry through life that allows us a special set of circumstances. The last I checked, you as an employer do not have the right to discriminate based on sexual orientation, and even though you have taken a cavalier attitude in this regard, this what I see here.

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RE: How to manage a dom advice? - 2/20/2012 4:05:52 PM   
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I own 5 companies. Doesn't mean two flips to me what my employees do outside of work. If they are professional at work, and do their damn job, its not my business. If they don't then they are no longer my employee. Simple.

Their sex/personal life does not inform how I manage them in any way shape or form, nor should it.

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RE: How to manage a dom advice? - 2/20/2012 4:18:41 PM   
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ORIGINAL: TheBootyMan
What's the deal with all this stuff anyway? Born this way or shitty childhoods? Please enlighten me. Seems all kind of goofy no offense.

Which means that you probably don't belong here.


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RE: How to manage a dom advice? - 2/20/2012 4:20:37 PM   
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Status: offline 		Oh come on.. This cat doesn't want to hear any common sense or logical answers to his original post, he wants to hear answers that rather involve furthering his fantasy of the domme taking over at the office. He just brushes aside all the common sense stuff.

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RE: How to manage a dom advice? - 2/20/2012 5:20:08 PM   
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RE: How to manage a dom advice? - 2/20/2012 6:54:29 PM   
TheBootyMan


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Status: offline 		Wrong. I just wanked to your comment. :)

Be the boss, be professional..yeah, all good stuff. Not exactly all that insightful really coming from a gang of doms and subs but thanks just the same. I guess I will just treat her like a regular employee, like a human regardless of her private life. God forbid I try and get advice from the experts on how to best manage someone who walks guys around the park wearing a dog collar for money.

Ps: is anyone here into vomit?

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RE: How to manage a dom advice? - 2/20/2012 7:17:08 PM   
ultimatedomme


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Status: offline 		The thing is, Bootydude..... A business owner shouldn't have to seek advice from strangers on the internet on how to deal with your employee(s). Several people correctly pointed out how knowing about her personal/sexual life is something that shouldn't be known by you. But you didn't want to hear about those things, did ya fella?

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RE: How to manage a dom advice? - 2/21/2012 2:38:39 AM   
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ORIGINAL: TheBootyMan


Ps: is anyone here into vomit?




Even if they were, I don't see why they would share that particular fetish with you. I wouldn't trust an introduction from a wanker.

And if you think we buy that you're married with 7 girlfriends on the side (AND that not one of them has an ounce of kink to them), think again. You don't have enough game for that.

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RE: How to manage a dom advice? - 2/21/2012 8:28:07 AM   
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ORIGINAL: TheBootyMan
God forbid I try and get advice from the experts on how to best manage someone who walks guys around the park wearing a dog collar for money.


Does she do it in the office? No? Then it's none of your business.

The part you seem to be missing over and over again.....part of being dominant is being able to control yourself and your behavior. Just because you can, doesn't mean you should. That means that while some "dominants" may be very alpha in the work place, it doesn't mean that the D/s part of their life is on and out in public. Honestly, I've found that people that show the D/s 24/7 aren't really dominant, they're just domineering.

So, yes.....while she is at work she is just an employee and should be treated as such. If you bang heads, behave like the boss and tell her that she needs to find a more acceptable way of presenting her differing views.

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RE: How to manage a dom advice? - 2/21/2012 9:22:22 AM   
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ORIGINAL: TheBootyMan

God forbid I try and get advice from the experts on how to best manage someone who walks guys around the park wearing a dog collar for money.


Yes, because this is what being a dominant female is ALLLLLLL about!

quote:


Ps: is anyone here into vomit?



Must be, because I came back to this thread this morning *boom tish*

On a side note, if do you think insulting us after we've taken the time to give you logical answers is appropriate, you have alot more to worry about than a dominant woman in your workplace.

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RE: How to manage a dom advice? - 2/21/2012 11:38:22 AM   
TheBootyMan


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Status: offline 		Insults? I thought you folks like that stuff? Gets your juices flowin. Haha

Ok, I'm done with that. Just playin some. I'm like that.

Thanks again for the help. Everyday is a new adventure.

I'm actually in love with the girl.

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RE: How to manage a dom advice? - 2/21/2012 11:44:43 AM   
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Status: offline 		Well, this thread took an interesting turn.

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RE: How to manage a dom advice? - 2/21/2012 11:50:52 AM   
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Status: offline 		Oh, please....it's yet another, "This is starting to get stale, so let's throw out an interesting tidbit." Remember the thread awhile back about the dude complaining that his subs aren't submissive enough to him? Awhile into the thread, he was in love with her. A couple pages later, she was pregnant. Let's wait for that revelation: he's knocked her up.

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RE: How to manage a dom advice? - 2/21/2012 12:07:15 PM   
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Status: offline 		Not only is this a unlikely scenario .. Its a HUGE LOAD OF CRAP. Some business owner claiming to be a Master coming to a bdsm board asking what he should do. Give me a fucking break.
Oh and now hes in love with her. BWAHAHAHAHHAHAHAHAHAHHAHAHAHAHAHAHHA

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ORIGINAL: GloriousMorning

I feel that if the OP and the employee grasp that it's not appropriate to be viewing adult websites on company time, then there would be a starting point for discussing an action plan.
The "boss" shouldn't allow an employee's sexual preference to dictate how to utilizes their skills, and the "employee" shouldn't be bringing their "lifestyle" to work.

This does seem like such an unlikely scenario, I can't think of a single reason why anyone in a leadership position would keep an employee who browsed adult websites on a company computer during working hours.




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RE: How to manage a dom advice? - 2/21/2012 12:09:18 PM   
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RE: How to manage a dom advice? - 2/21/2012 12:19:40 PM   
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Oh, please....it's yet another, "This is starting to get stale, so let's throw out an interesting tidbit." Remember the thread awhile back about the dude complaining that his subs aren't submissive enough to him? Awhile into the thread, he was in love with her. A couple pages later, she was pregnant. Let's wait for that revelation: he's knocked her up.


Hmmm, I'm laying my money down on him ending up becoming the domme's sub. But it's been there the entire time.

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RE: How to manage a dom advice? - 2/21/2012 12:21:38 PM   
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RE: How to manage a dom advice? - 2/21/2012 12:23:04 PM   
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Hmmm, I'm laying my money down on him ending up becoming the domme's sub. But it's been there the entire time.


You made a grammatical error. The term "ending up becoming" is future tense.

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