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RE: Ok did I over react ? - 2/20/2012 6:27:53 PM

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You seem extra fierce tonight, Darling. (Just observing, not being critical)

And JJ? You know where the thorazine is, right? There you go.

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RE: Ok did I over react ? - 2/20/2012 6:41:13 PM

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But if you're a male you learn to look out for the ones who don't chat. The women who are wrong make it just as obvious as those men who'll be 'wrong' to you, only in a different way. Women who are wrong don't ask about your life and what you do, nor what you feel about any matter. If they ask anything at all, it's about what makes your knob hard. I used to think, "Look, I've treated you like a human, why won't you do the same to me?' Nowadays, I don't bother - I just don't answer. It's just not my world.

See? We would have done just fine. I never would talk about the sex part until I was comfortable. I wanted to know about the guy I was talking to.

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RE: Ok did I over react ? - 2/20/2012 6:44:31 PM

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You seem extra fierce tonight, Darling. (Just observing, not being critical)

And JJ? You know where the thorazine is, right? There you go.

I probably should call up some pics of growly looking women. Like OG in her avatar, actually. (OG really does have a good avatar. It says to me: 'You've woken me up, and for that, I'm going to bite chunks out of you, you fucker'. Excellent, even if OG was a bit drunk and about to puke at the time and it was all accidental. All Dommes should emulate that effect.)

Nah, I'm not feeling fierce. Just downed two bottles, that's all. I'll have a hearty hand-shandy in a bit, probably thinking about biting women's bottoms as I do so, then I'll feel as mellow as always.

BTW, could you send me a pic of your knockers, Lady Hib? It could help. Or if you could find a photocopier to sit on?

Well, no harm in asking, I always say. You don't ask, you don't get.

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RE: Ok did I over react ? - 2/20/2012 6:47:51 PM

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Silly! You know I'm a page 22 girl. Or is is 24? 43 for sure, Ash found me. Xoxo

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RE: Ok did I over react ? - 2/20/2012 6:51:29 PM

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Yes, page 43.

Really, we should all spend more time looking at boobies. Much better than deconstructing psychomail.

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RE: Ok did I over react ? - 2/20/2012 10:34:10 PM

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Silly! You know I'm a page 22 girl. Or is is 24? 43 for sure, Ash found me. Xoxo

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RE: Ok did I over react ? - 2/20/2012 11:15:38 PM

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So I just introduced myself, and I'm quite sure I'll be in trouble in no time. I tend to hold my own opinion, and it often is contrary. I don't know the rules about him posting information that was exchanged but as it was posted here's my two cents.

XEN64 : The way I see it your mistake was getting into a message war with her, as if perhaps you had to have the last word. I love to have the last word, but sometimes you have to let it be.

Her problem: First of all, her grammar and punctuation, were horrible. Capital letters anyone? That's offense number one. Number two, she asked a question and then overreacted to your answer. I will agree that her "all the best in finding someone" was a way of blowing you off, but I don't think anything was wrong with your first response. I can understand your thought to clarify, baby is a hard call, but really to me, its her that comes across as shady, or not knowing what she wants. Her messages are short, not well thought out, yours are longer and you put thought into them. My guess is no match anyway, but next time you have to let it go, because sometimes eventually the last word just makes you super annoying.

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RE: Ok did I over react ? - 2/20/2012 11:18:38 PM

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We're all contrary here. We get it. Just say what you believe. (within tos guidelines of course!)

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RE: Ok did I over react ? - 2/21/2012 1:57:34 AM

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XEN64, I thought your responses were fine, even if you (and she) did drag it out a bit longer than you should have.

I think your response back to her that starts with "hi baby" (ugh) was a clarification for her misunderstanding what you wrote, not meant to try to persuade her, but to be sure she's clear in what she's turning away. I don't see a problem with that, and you did say at the end that you leave it to her to continue chatting or not. She chose to continue, albeit aggressively.

Your next reply to her was also just fine. You tried to calm her anxiety and you interjected a little humor.

Your final reply was a touch over the line, yes...as were hers almost from the get go. I understand how sometimes you just want to ram something into someone's head so they understand. Sometimes you're just in the mood for it - which perhaps she was, as well.

I suspect that if she were to see you posting your exchange here, though, you might hear from her again. She seems...um...feisty.

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RE: Ok did I over react ? - 2/21/2012 5:54:54 AM

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I've read his profile: what he said in his reply to this woman only reflects what was in that.
Which time? Because his first reply was "I'm looking for long term" and the second reply was " Well, it doesn't have to be long term....". (Translation: Well, I'd take a piece of ass if I could get one.)

I didn't read it that way at all.

I thought what we had here was a man who didn't express what he felt with total clarity; but much more than that, a woman whose reading comprehension wasn't as sharp as it might have been.

He didn't say that he was looking for 'long term', still less 'long term only'. What he said was:

"most of what I want is in my profile but I will add that long term when I find the right submissive we will have all that a normal relationship has to offer love, trust, honest, and friendship but with a lovely kinky quirk running throw it."

- To me, that says, "*If* - pronounced 'if' - we were to last as partners, over the long term, I'd want x and y in the relationship". 'X and Y' being good and honourable things. Not, at all, low and wankerish things.

Thank you that is the point I was trying to get a cross

I never said I must have a long term relationship and every think is of the table, what I ment is what you said. in the long term if we get there that is what I hope to end up with one day

So when she repley with a no thanks. I can see now leaving it there would have been better.

But I felt it best to clarify what I had ment, I left it completley up to her if she wished to respond or not whitch she did by say I freaked her out and insulting me.

It was at this point that I realy should have stopped but I have never had anyone have a go at me like that so politely I tried to exsplain. I will add at this point I did not think I could talk her round with my charm or magic dom powers :) I new there where going to be no meets or any think further whitch was fine buy me I just did not like the thought of her getting such the wrong inpression of me, It was also ment as a anpolage if I had upset her in any way and that she did not need to walk away feel bad about thinks

I what did I get more abuse

I will learn from this I was a fool to let myself get sucked into this stupid sisuation but you live and learn

As I have said befor I am dislistic so its not always easy for me two get my point across. Any one who is will no how hard it is sometimes, spellcheakers help but often I use the wrong word completely spellcherker will not pic that up or I sometimes miss words out again spellcheaker is no help there

So I am sentive to the fact that when I message or msn it may well be missunderstood

I am also away there are so many men on her do abuse the ladys on here and are well out of order. So try very hard not to do that in any way

I can see that I messed up and will in the future will act diffrentley in this situatons

I will not be posting any more on this thread as it is done and dust for me

Thanks for the input some of it has helped

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RE: Ok did I over react ? - 2/21/2012 8:41:17 AM

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I think the girl sounds like a wack job, thank your lucky stars. Seems You were being a nice guy to me and didnt understand why this chick was responding the way she was. Sounds like she has some real problems to me. So I for one agree with you. I understand completely why you were scratching your head.

Oh my. Pot........meet kettle.

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RE: Ok did I over react ? - 2/21/2012 6:29:50 PM

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You seem extra fierce tonight, Darling. (Just observing, not being critical)

And JJ? You know where the thorazine is, right? There you go.

No, I don't.....someone hid it from me.....and I've asked the voices if they knew.....NO ONE WANTS TO FUCKING HELP ME!!!!!!!!!!

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RE: Ok did I over react ? - 2/21/2012 6:33:39 PM

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I'm sorry, JJ. Maybe the cat hid them? Go look at pictures of boobs, it's very cheering.

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RE: Ok did I over react ? - 2/21/2012 7:01:14 PM

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I think the girl sounds like a wack job, thank your lucky stars. Seems You were being a nice guy to me and didnt understand why this chick was responding the way she was. Sounds like she has some real problems to me. So I for one agree with you. I understand completely why you were scratching your head.

Oh my. Pot........meet kettle.

I agree with chatterbox, La T. I find her view on this subject quite balanced. Just saying.

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RE: Ok did I over react ? - 2/22/2012 8:45:09 AM

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Xena
I think the girl sounds like a wack job, thank your lucky stars. Seems You were being a nice guy to me and didnt understand why this chick was responding the way she was. Sounds like she has some real problems to me. So I for one agree with you. I understand completely why you were scratching your head.

Oh my. Pot........meet kettle.

I agree with chatterbox, La T. I find her view on this subject quite balanced. Just saying.

Did you happen to read her other thread?

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RE: Ok did I over react ? - 2/22/2012 9:21:31 AM

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I will learn from this I was a fool to let myself get sucked into this stupid sisuation but you live and learn

Yup, that's the more succinct way to say what I was trying to say.

That being said, I didn't want to sound all judgemental. Getting sucked into slippery slopes is a part of life... my life anyway. Hell, it still happens between Carol and I and we've been married for 16 years now. It was a mistake. As I said, I'd have been embarrassed by it. But it's a mistake I might have made also. I think pretty much all humans do at one point or another.

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