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Finding a master - 2/19/2012 6:51:52 PM

Andoshollack89

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Hello, i am a 22 year old submissive who is bisexual and currently unowned. so my question is, for all of you masters out there, what would be your suggestions for me on finding a REAL Master, and one who specializes in oral fixation, i am extremely partial to oral service and would like a master who has total control of me, but would specialize or appreciate my love for oral servitude.

Thanks for reading and any help.

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RE: Finding a master - 2/19/2012 8:39:04 PM

Wantstocontrolu

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Look in the "ads" be yourself, be honest.
You may find that what you seek in the place you least expect.

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RE: Finding a master - 2/21/2012 11:55:46 AM

mnottertail

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Welcome.

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RE: Finding a master - 2/21/2012 12:00:48 PM

OsideGirl

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I would suggest getting out and meeting your local community. Attend, volunteer, get to know people.

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RE: Finding a master - 2/21/2012 12:01:05 PM

jennileigh8182

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Welcome...and be patient. Don't be sucked in by the first...or second...10th one to make an offer if they're not right for you. Patience.

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RE: Finding a master - 2/21/2012 1:14:32 PM

JeffBC

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Welcome to Collarme. I took a look at your profile and I think you're doing fine. I also think that the advice you've been given here is all excellent advice. I'll toss in some other things. These are personal viewpoints, not "how it must be done".

Be careful with the "total control" thing. To me it reads as "lost in fantasy" since I sincerely doubt your definition of "total" and mine are even remotely aligned. Your profile handles it better than you did in short words in this post.
Resist labels, tight little boxes, and other people's definitions of who you "should" be. In the end, I'm not a "master". I'm some guy who bosses his wife around. Different people call it different things. I call it "being Carol & Jeff". Along these same lines, you will never be a true master, slave, top, bottom, left or right. You can, however be a true "you". Go with that.
NEVER use that word "true" in this context. It speaks of unrealistic expectations as well as a limited world-view. You're not looking for a "true master". You're looking for one who's compatible with YOU. Consider that I am a "true master" for Carol and probably aren't for you. You just don't want to go around offending everyone sight unseen in that way.

For me, what I appreciate in a s-type is someone who reads as knowing themselves reasonably well and having their feet reasonably firmly planted in some reality that I can recognize. I still may or may not be attracted to them and/or compatible with them but I like talking with and being around s-types that are stable and mature.

I hope any of that helps.

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RE: Finding a master - 2/22/2012 11:53:52 PM

Yin2Yang

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Your on the right track. You know what you are looking for and smart enough to ask for help in finding it.
I read your profile and you lay it all out there in plain english. Just give it time and the right one will read it and message you.
Just remember, don't paint yourself into a corner looking for the right one. Someone that may be a little fond of oral but excellent at other aspects could suprise you.

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RE: Finding a master - 2/23/2012 1:23:06 AM

crazyml

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Hello there,

Patience... that's the secret. Your profile re-write is pretty good - Although I'd (and this isn't intended to seem snarky) I'd recommend popping some paragraphs into the main text of your profile and if you could run it through a spell check that would be awesome too.

You'll have to deal with a lot of fakes and flakes but I'm sure you'll find a match.

good luck.

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