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RE: advice - 2/22/2012 12:01:44 AM

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The real tragedy is that this all started simple because she was jealous of a girl I was speaking to and things were happening much faster with the other girl then with her and the other girl had more then I wanted then this girl, honesty, integrity, sanity.

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RE: advice - 2/22/2012 12:11:07 AM

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well, dude, how can she leave you or you leave her when you apparently have never even met each other in real life???

Maybe both of you should just cut your losses and not contact each other ever again and leave it at that..

just had a brilliant thought.. with all the drama that goes on here at CM, how about a CM reality show.. sorta like The Bachelor...

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RE: advice - 2/22/2012 12:13:28 AM

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yep, what tj said.

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RE: advice - 2/22/2012 12:18:08 AM

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ok now he's messaging me with info that I never told him

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RE: advice - 2/22/2012 12:25:20 AM

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you know.. whenever i am chatting with a guy that is a possible Dom for me,... one thing i do is read his forum posts.. that can sometimes be very enlightening..

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RE: advice - 2/22/2012 12:25:48 AM

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I just wish i had some popcorn for this

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RE: advice - 2/22/2012 4:23:16 AM

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ok but I need to know if there is anything he can really do with out physical proof not just words that were said

Not really no. He can go to the FBI and say he met a female on an internet BDSM site who has done something he doesn't like, and the FBI will explain to him they are up to their black helicopters in antiterrorism, murder, and organized crime investigations so would he kindly fuck off.

Don't seek any legal recourse yourself unless he moves first though. Contrary to popular belief your anonymity isn't protected.

The most important thing to do when someone attempts to blackmail you is to not panic. When you panic, answer back to them, plead for them to not act, you just weaken your own position and strengthen theirs. Once it starts it never ends.

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RE: advice - 2/22/2012 5:53:15 AM

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Several posts have been removed from the thread. Please remember that all posts on the forums must abide by TOS and/or the forum guidelines.

Thank you.

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RE: advice - 2/22/2012 6:39:42 AM

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ok I need some help and advice....... I have someone on here that is trying to ruin my life because I rejected him..... he knows some things about my life that he did and says he is going to try and get a federal investigation against me and my ex...... can he do this?

In the future, be very careful with your last name, address, home phone number, and other identifying info. Obviously, you are going to have to start sharing info as the relationship progresses, but do it slowly and at the appropriate points.

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Learn the ground rules of online dating and privacy.

This article on the reputation and privacy risks of online dating addresses online dating privacy in depth, but key points are worth emphasizing. Too many people treat online dating as they treat Facebook, but there’s a big difference between sharing personal information with friends and sharing it with potential romantic partners. Consider the following principles essential:

* Never share your full name, telephone number, address or place of work via the Internet.
* Aim to share information about your personality, goals and tastes without giving specifics that would allow someone to identify you.
* Never send money to someone you haven’t met. Besides, if a new suitor starts hitting you up for money, regardless of whether you met online or at the local bocce tournament, you’re most likely with a bad match.
* When meeting in person, arrange for your own transportation. Meet in a public place at a time when lots of people will be around.
* Don’t be afraid to say no if the person asks you for personal information that you’re not yet comfortable sharing.
* Avoid sending digital photos, which may contain metadata on where and when they were taken.
* Don’t use your regular email address. Instead, get a separate address just for that relationship.
* Avoid using the same user name that you use for other services because someone could use to track you down elsewhere.
* Wait a long time before “friending” your new suitor on Facebook. Access to your Facebook network provides an individual with detailed stores of personal information that can be misappropriated for online reputation attacks, identity theft or other violations of your digital privacy. As this MSNBC article suggests, you should wait until you have been dating for a few months, and then friend the individual using sensible privacy controls.

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RE: advice - 2/22/2012 6:56:30 AM

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NOW I remember!

Submit2MeForever had posted here previously stating that he was upset because a young woman he was talking with had engaged with another man when she was underage, and because she was doing drugs. Evidently, that young woman was collarmeplz89.

1. collarmeplz89, you're 22. An issue with you being underage would be over four years old. And a high chance of he said, she said. I doubt any authorities would want to get involved. As far as the drugs go, if you smoke a joint every day, nobody cares. If you snort coke every hour, they might.

2. Submit2MeForever, you're not looking so good here. It seems like you pulled all sorts of info from her, and tried to use it to blackmail her into fucking you. When she said no, you actually threatened to go to authorities, and bluffed her that you could get a federal investigation (REALLY?) about some stuff unless she put out. A REAL Dom would be concerned about her and getting her off drugs instead of worrying about just getting laid. Come to think of it, a real Dom would have less worried about getting laid.

collarmeplz89, just letting you know - if you were mine, I'd be making you kick drugs pronto. What's stopping you?

That said, printed records of online chatting are *ahem* not considered to be the best evidence in the world. Hell, a goodly portion of online interactions are totally bogus. His "evidence" will get laughed at if he submits it.

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RE: advice - 2/22/2012 6:33:15 PM

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ok I need some help and advice....... I have someone on here that is trying to ruin my life because I rejected him..... he jnows some thongs about my life that he did and says he is going to try and get a federal investigation against me and my ex...... can he do this?

Yes. Yes he can.

Here's how it works:

First, he explains to the feds that he jnows everything.

Second....he tells them about your thongs.

Well, I think it's fairly obvious....I don't think I need to go much further....as you can see by the above....you're pretty well fucked.

I'd move if I were you. (Like, tonight).

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RE: advice - 2/22/2012 6:39:11 PM

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I would confront him with the fact that he is threatening you, that is a crime, and if he wants the law involved, you will be happy to oblige him, since he is the one who would end up in jail...

I would absolutely advice against confronting him. No good can come of it. Change your phone number, block any known email addresses and don't ever speak of him or to him again. He's a pissant and will be a laughing stock as soon as he calls up the FBI and says... "I have been talking to this girl on a kink sight and I think she's a _________ (fill in the blank). We haven't actually met and I don't know if anything she's said is actually true but can you start an expensive investigation into this internet person for me?"

OP: He's already deleted his profile. You won. Let it go.

QFT ...she seems pretty smart. I would listen to her

Bita is more than"pretty smart"she's someone I would take advice from....and I'm damm near a genius, so there you go

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