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How to deal with possible faker? - 2/23/2012 11:30:49 PM

JJohnsJR24

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In a bit of a pickle here. So I recently started talking to a new "domme", and thins have been going great. She seems great. Gave me her number and have been talking and I have gone on cam for her. But tonight I came across a submissive profile (albeit one from another country across the Atlantic, that said that her profile is actually a guy pretending to be a girl. She has said that he is fake, even in a journal entry.

My question is how do I get her to give me a voice identification or even cam? I fear all I will hear is " in time slave, you have to earn it, I'm the dominant ect). So I'm not sure what to do because it seemed to be going very well now I have some doubts and would like some advice on this? Ugh it would be my luck that she ends up being a guy. I hope to god it's not true. I mean , I won't feel completely comfortable being on cam until I know for sure. Any advice? Thanks so much everyone

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RE: How to deal with possible faker? - 2/23/2012 11:33:03 PM

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Also, I have her number to text only, I have not been allowed to call yet.

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RE: How to deal with possible faker? - 2/23/2012 11:36:30 PM

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Tell her (or him) that you won't cam or anything else until you get to talk to her for a few minutes. You'll pay for the call. It's not asking too much at all. If you continue to do what you've been doing for this person, you're doing it with the full knowledge that it's probably a guy.

Good luck to you.

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RE: How to deal with possible faker? - 2/23/2012 11:52:49 PM

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My biggest hope is the guy who made this accusation is just mad because maybe she turned him down because he is all the way in Denmark I believe. I mean she has been very real, we talk a little bit , some about kink, some about real everyday situation that either she or I have been involved in. There has been absolutely no demands for money or for me to join some site where I have to use my card. Which I would know right away that it's fake. It's been very real , which has been great. So I'm just really hoping that she is who she says, it's been by far the best first couple days of talking to a domme I have ever had, how ironic would it be if it were actually a guy? - -
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RE: How to deal with possible faker? - 2/23/2012 11:55:26 PM

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Not very. There are a lot of scammers on here. If she doesn't want to speak, how about a picture of her holding up a fan sign with something you've requested or today's newspaper?

I hate to say this, but you're not thinking logically. She's given you her number. (something I don't do, except my pay to play number) So why on earth would she refuse a two minute convo? Too busy?

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RE: How to deal with possible faker? - 2/24/2012 12:02:22 AM

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Well she has not really refused. I have not really asked her yet, I planned on it in the next few days regardless, but now that I have just a smidgen of a doubt, I am as soon as she gets a hold of me Tommorow. I never really took this into consideration before only because of how real she seems, like I said before. Maybe I am thinking illogically because I'm trying to grasp at nothing because I never have had a decent chance before really. It's been such a long and painful search that I just really want this to be real. Aaaahhh idk :/ I'm going to ask her first thing though. I hope I get something besides a " no not yet, I'm the domme and I'll decide when you have earned the right". Which I can see happening... I guess we will see in a few hours.

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RE: How to deal with possible faker? - 2/24/2012 12:06:33 AM

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I think especially in online situations pointing out that both people is real either with pictures with dates specific saying etc cam or phone conversations is important i don't do it in the first conversation typically because i'm seeing if they person is someone i'd connect with but i think it's important either way that eventually that is established. if it is a guy then your ripping off a band aid and moving on.

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RE: How to deal with possible faker? - 2/24/2012 12:19:19 AM

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Mistress (insert name here), Respectfully, I would like to verify that you really are who you say you are. You come across as so real and perfect to me, it sometimes makes me a little nervous.

Please let me know the most convenient time for me to call you, and we can talk for a few minutes. I won't take up much of your time, just talk to you about things we've already chatted about here, and then let you go. I'm asking for three minutes at the most.

I want to serve you and take this relationship as far as we can, and I don't want you to have any doubts about my sincerity, nor do I want to have any doubts on my end. So far, I think you're wonderful, and I just want to put a voice with everything else I've learned about you.

Most humbly and sincerely,

xxx

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RE: How to deal with possible faker? - 2/24/2012 12:21:52 AM

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Yeah it's been almost a week, and I have done everything that she has asked because that's just my nature. But I guess I will actually have to say something to her about doing one of these ideas for proof. :/

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RE: How to deal with possible faker? - 2/24/2012 2:25:49 AM

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Sounds like you have good advise, if she cant come on f 2 f then she is FAKE

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RE: How to deal with possible faker? - 2/24/2012 7:18:49 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: xxblushesxx

Mistress (insert name here), Respectfully, I would like to verify that you really are who you say you are. You come across as so real and perfect to me, it sometimes makes me a little nervous.

Please let me know the most convenient time for me to call you, and we can talk for a few minutes. I won't take up much of your time, just talk to you about things we've already chatted about here, and then let you go. I'm asking for three minutes at the most.

I want to serve you and take this relationship as far as we can, and I don't want you to have any doubts about my sincerity, nor do I want to have any doubts on my end. So far, I think you're wonderful, and I just want to put a voice with everything else I've learned about you.

Most humbly and sincerely,

xxx

I like this!

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RE: How to deal with possible faker? - 2/24/2012 7:21:03 AM

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Nicely worded, Christina!

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RE: How to deal with possible faker? - 2/24/2012 7:46:53 AM

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If she has a picture on her profile, run it thru www.tineye.com . If the pic is from a porn site, I'd strongly suspect that your Domme isnt who she says she is.

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RE: How to deal with possible faker? - 2/24/2012 7:52:52 AM

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Anyone can be anyone on the internet, I'm a bit sad you didn't think of this before finding your warning in someone else's profile but life goes on. She seems real to you and probably is a real human being of some sex or other - what his or her motives we don't know. Which is why more cautious people realize that many times things aren't as they appear and to go at a slower pace until they have verification. How do you even know it's one person as in a single woman watching your cam shows or texting and messaging with you? You could be entertaining a roomful of men/women at the local bar that has internet access.

Here's another couple of things. You've known this woman online for about a week. You've been on the cam for her, naked it seems, perhaps performing sexual acts. You're excited because it seems like she wants you for yourself and has jumped in fully with talking about and doing some kink and sexual acts with you online. I hate to break this to you....women don't generally do that. Especially not Dominant women. Dommes have a line 5 miles long with feverish men wanting to be Dominated sexually online for free. Hell, make that line 50 miles long.

Why do you think it took so long to find someone? Why do you think someone agreed to do this with you instantly? There's a motive (for her)in there somewhere, if it's not money (which could still come up, blackmail seems possible with the cam sessions) then she's a he but it's guaranteed there is going to be something. Because this isn't a lifestyle Domme you're talking to, I'll bet all of my money on it and walk away a winner. A lifestyle Domme would have far too many offers to be wasting time on this. Don't take my word for this, do some reading in the Mistress section of these forums.

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RE: How to deal with possible faker? - 2/24/2012 8:38:56 AM

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Or you could, you know, like meet in real life.

I know, I know, I talk crazy talk...perhaps even babble.
I can't help it. I promise I'll go get my meds. :-)

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RE: How to deal with possible faker? - 2/24/2012 9:13:35 AM

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Why would you submit to someone without even knowing who they are? She isn't your "Domme" she's a keyboard. Assume she's a fat bald dude unless you have proof otherwise, not the other way around.

Lemme guess, she wants you to "tribute" as well?

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RE: How to deal with possible faker? - 2/24/2012 10:18:54 AM

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:( , ugh I will not be happy at all if this is fake. I will feel so stupid, which I guess I should. But she is saying she will call at some point, I guess we shall see.

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RE: How to deal with possible faker? - 2/24/2012 11:19:24 AM

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When?
No cam or sexting until she does. (unless you don't mind getting some other guy off. not that there's anything *wrong* with that...)

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RE: How to deal with possible faker? - 2/24/2012 11:25:58 AM

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You gonna just sit around and wait then? Come on buddy. You're smarter than this. Right?

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RE: How to deal with possible faker? - 2/24/2012 11:50:05 AM

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You know that part in the horror movie where the axe wielding maniac is standing behind the tree that the half dressed blonde chick is hiding in front of to stay away from said axe wielding maniac?

And you know that he is about to reach about and not in a good way?

Ahem.

That's what we have here.

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