GloriousMorning
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I believe you don't have to "be" anything to enjoy domination, just as I don't believe some one who enjoys submission has to be meek and mild mannered as their personality. I used to think along the lines of this doctrine that I was obligated to hold myself to: "a Dominant is this, this, and the other thing.. MUST be in control of every aspect of their lives etc."
Eventually I realized, all I really needed in order to be "a Dominant", was to genuinely enjoy the domination and control of another. If you don't enjoy it, then you probably aren't dominant. It's really that simple.
As some one else said, all it really takes is to make a decision and act upon it. Im still not clear whether this is professional or private, but in your private life, it's fairly easy to find some one who enjoys a woman who takes charge. Start small, baby steps, discover what interests you about domination, educate yourself about your interests, and go forth and be merry!
When you communicate this to your partner, it is important to be honest if you are a beginner, discuss what you are hoping to do with them and how you feel that this is an exciting and safe activity or environment. This is how we gain consent, which is a cornerstone which BDSM and D/s is built upon. If you are in control, you must ensure the safety of you and your partner. Of course there are often unforeseeable circumstances, but you have to exhibit that you have taken precautions and educated yourself to the best of your ability in order to prevent the good from going terribly bad..
You could be so lucky as to find an experienced submissive or bottom, who is willing allow you to "Top" them in a way which will allow you to learn different types of play, but when it comes to the psychological aspects of domination, this is very difficult to teach. This is more a learned activity that evolves and grows over time. We learn through our successes and mistakes, and we apply this knowledge as be develop what types and how much control we enjoy. Whether that be in the bedroom only, or extending into our daily lives is very individual. We must communicate ALOT with our partner so that we can understand where it may not be advisable to exert our dominance, and where it is most necessary or enjoyable.
You could learn to be a professional dominant fairly easily, there's not much point in discussing this at length, but this is also a way in which to learn a certain skillset when it comes to the motions of BDSM and domination. Find a local professional dungeon who would be willing to train you to be a professional dominant. One must consider though, that for most professionals, this is like acting. That while you are enacting these specific types of "play", you really aren't that much in control over what you want to do and how. The client is, that's how you keep them coming back. All in all, it's an effective way to get some play experience under your belt, but ineffective in giving you an understanding of the true intricacies of D/s style relationships.
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RE: thinking about going another way - 
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