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RE: becoming more submissive - 2/28/2012 2:19:45 PM   
Lockit


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RE: becoming more submissive - 2/28/2012 2:25:19 PM   
mnottertail


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Status: offline 		Teaparty of the Dead is at midnight, and the tea doesnt have to be hot, wouldnt do any good.   Maybe pick the grubworms out of the plot and shoo the skunks away.

You could be as sloppy as you want about the service, and who would know?  

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RE: becoming more submissive - 2/28/2012 3:06:17 PM   
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ORIGINAL: poise


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ORIGINAL: hangemhigh1953

Pardon me if my assumptions are incorrect, but... do you know your Mistress
in real life or is this online only? Your profile seems to imply the latter.


It get's worse. His profile was created on 2-12, and he claims it's only to communicate
with MistressHeidi, who happened to have passed away in January of 2011.


To be fair, we could give her the benefit of the doubt and assume it's a different Mistress Heidi (he spells it Misstress of whom there is also a profile).

EDIT: Although that profile has been inactive for a few months, apparently.

< Message edited by hangemhigh1953 -- 2/28/2012 3:07:30 PM >

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RE: becoming more submissive - 2/28/2012 3:59:31 PM   
poise


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ORIGINAL: hangemhigh1953

To be fair, we could give her the benefit of the doubt and assume it's a different Mistress Heidi (he spells it Misstress of whom there is also a profile).

EDIT: Although that profile has been inactive for a few months, apparently.


You're absolutely right, it was a very unkind thing of me to say.
My apologies to HEIDISslave, and to anyone else I may have offended.


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RE: becoming more submissive - 2/28/2012 6:03:22 PM   
Madame4a


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Status: offline 		If you can't be submissive quit calling yourself a slave... ditch that third person crap -- its obviously not helping you and makes it evern harder to understand you... is English your first language? If it is -- you might get some help in learning to express yourself better...

if this is an online thing, then being submissive is a snap.. do what she says... if you don't like what she says.. move on

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RE: becoming more submissive - 2/29/2012 11:21:04 AM   
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ORIGINAL: HEIDISslave
slave wants nothing more in the world then to make her happy

That's it. You're done. If it is honestly and authentically true that pleasing your owner is, in fact, the highest thing on your priority queue at every given instant of the day then I don't see how you can do much better than that.

Personally, I suspect that's not a true statement since such perfection is seldom seen in the real world. So then I'd advice figuring out the places in your life where it's not true, figuring out why, and figuring out if that can change.


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RE: becoming more submissive - 4/12/2012 1:38:54 PM   
DominaCeleste


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Status: offline 		Pay attention to the things she requires of you. Do it to her specifications then.... go beyond what she has required. A slave who obeys with alacrity (look it up) and goes above and beyond what is called for is worth his weight in gold.

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RE: becoming more submissive - 4/12/2012 3:20:12 PM   
RedMagic1


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ORIGINAL: HEIDISslave
slave was wondering if there is any advice anyone could offer slave to improve?

The #1 piece of advice I can give you -- and this is something I don't see or hear very often -- is: learn to create a safe space for your partner to exert dominance.

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RE: becoming more submissive - 4/12/2012 3:27:25 PM   
sunshinemiss


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Status: offline 		Well, darling, you're already more slavier than anybody I know. ahem.

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RE: becoming more submissive - 4/12/2012 3:54:38 PM   
RedMagic1


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ORIGINAL: sunshinemiss

Well, darling, you're already more slavier than anybody I know. ahem.

I can't tell if you're joking, Sunny. Whether you are or aren't, I believe your statement makes a real point about me. I think there is almost no distinction between dominance and submission for someone who tries to lead a goal-oriented, self-aware life.

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RE: becoming more submissive - 4/12/2012 4:05:02 PM   
sunshinemiss


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Status: offline 		It's kind of tongue in cheek Red. Third person? Calling oneself "it"? That alone is ... not my cup of tea. Sure I can do it and rather easily in fact (passive voice takes the whole thing to a simplified linguistic level for me).

I recently wrote on another thread about the "slavier than thou" contest between some s-types. It feels like that's what we have here. As I read the OP's posts, it feels like someone has forgotten what's important: being with the person I care for, doing what I can to help and support them, loving them with my whole being. The question itself suggests to me that this is about "ME being slavier" rather than focusing on the other person.

best,
sunshine


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RE: becoming more submissive - 4/12/2012 4:09:15 PM   
RedMagic1


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ORIGINAL: sunshinemiss
As I read the OP's posts, it feels like someone has forgotten what's important: being with the person I care for, doing what I can to help and support them, loving them with my whole being.

Heh. That's why I believe "It's not all about ME" is a mantra that is at least important for the dom as it is for the sub.

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