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OttersSwim -> RE: Your Opinion please (3/4/2012 9:22:21 PM)
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Hello Michaelann,
So I am not a mistress, but I am a girlile-boy submissive in service to a wonderful Lady Dominant. I will tell you here, that your post on this topic, "testing the waters" so to speak, is not the first, and has come off about like the ones in the past have done - most will say "No", one or two will say "Yes", and almost none will say "Maybe". Replies are couched in terms of preference and it's all good - no really it is all good.
It is a fact that most Dominant Women out there are looking for guys of the more masculine persuasion. And there is nothing at all wrong with that. People need to seek what they like and prefer so that they will be happy.
It does make the pool of women interested or even open to considering a guy who is intimately in-touch with his feminine side fairly small. And that is okay too.
I say it is okay too because the number of guys out there who have some sort of gender expression or kink going on - who are actually ready to engage with a Dominant Female - is even smaller. See many of my other posts as to why I think that.
What's important to me, and that I would like to point you to, is that there -are- Ladies out there who are open and even enthusiastic about having a "softer male" in their service.
But to catch their attention, IMO, you have to be something pretty special - someone who is sane, confident, competent, engaging, and interesting as a person first...and expressing a gender authenticity or even a kink around gender expression is -one facet- of you the overall well rounded person. Ready to engage with a Dominant Lady on Her terms, with your focus on her and not your kink.
That is not to say that we cannot have desires, but relationships work best when the two people involved are "facing each other" and are "Other Focused" rather than being solely focused on ourselves and an expression or a kink. And that is where many many guys out there fall down - they are still just looking inward rather than looking out and putting their focus on "the other".
Anyhoo...my 2c on the subject. Don't put too much stock in anything you read online, and remember that interacting with actual people in your local kink community is I think the BEST way to meet someone.
Cheers! :)
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