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cuddleheart50 -> RE: BBW (6/18/2006 6:46:19 PM)
I'm not exactly skinny, I'm overweight. And lot of men have no problem with that...hey, that didnt come out right..lol But anyway...there are men out there that like BBW. And I am so glad they are out there!

farmersdaughter -> RE: BBW (6/18/2006 6:49:54 PM)
greetings...i am a slave...i personally like the Master to be a "meaty" man myself...i am not too thin, but i am not a bbw...but when i was in drug rehab there were eating disorder groups also(both sides)...several of the men that went to the group said they liked women with meat on them...that this society has put skinny girls on a pedestal...hummmm, and all this time i thought any girl in general was to be put on a pedestal, so the guys could look up her skirt..(giggles)...unowned, unashamed & unimaginable...sharon

ocmistress -> RE: BBW (6/18/2006 7:13:27 PM)
Ya know it's amusing to me, as a former 330 lb woman, currently a nice mini-bbw at about 165 (I'm never going to be a little woman, and I don't want to be), but in the end I'd have to agree with what Kree wrote, alot of it rings true for me. By the way, I'm a dominant bisexual woman, and while I can enjoy the beauty of a well formed lucious BBW sub, most who claim the title are very B, not so B, and W. I think beauty is in the eye of the beholder, and excess weight the way some people wear it is very unattractive to me. Excessive skininess is also unattractive to me, but being small is not. I guess I'm attracted to healthy, vital, vivacious, enthusiastic, considerate, people who take good care of what looks they were given, don't waste time or money putting on lots of make up or doing their hair for an hour (unless I tell them to for some reason) I want a sub who looks as good as we skinny dip at the end of a 10 mile hike, as lucious, and glorious and flushed with health (not a heart attack) as she does lying in my bed in the Air Conditioned house, and eating ... well ME. There are many men who found me attractive at 330, and there are many who find me so now, and no one has ever told me to lose weight as a condition of their relationship with me, then again, I never applied to be someone's sub. Side note: I consider my subs to be moving, living, breathing, art, if I am not enjoying watching them serve me, without judging the WHY then they are not the right sub for me(regardless of wether it's the way their skin mves or flesh jiggles or that they've died their beautiful brown hair blonde, or because they walk in a way that doesn't appeal to me or WHATEVER) YES emotional, psychological, character based attraction is important, but so is being sexually attracted to someone who is supposed to be filling a sexual role in your life. To the original poster, the fact that you carry so many extra pounds and the way you carry them does not attract me to you, THAT BEING SAID, the fact that I am lacking a DICK does not attract many to me. Mistress Heather

SweetSlaveGirl -> RE: BBW (6/18/2006 7:41:10 PM)
It's amusing to me that Dom's have problems with BBW or even slightly overweight women, YET...they are usually overly fat themselves. Bugs them when I mentioned I like thinner Masters. LMAO. I'm a big lady with a metaboliptic problem that makes loosing weight for me near to impossible. Seems to me the Dom wanting skinny should get off his fat ass and loose some weight his own damned self. For them it's more like the pot calling the kettle black.

MLadyQueenowands -> RE: BBW (6/18/2006 8:32:39 PM)
Hello everyone, Three months prior to embarking on my first D/s relationship as a sub before coming out as Domme I had a gastric band. It was my fourth attempt to shed weight gained from changes in drug treatment and I had the surgery because when I tried to get fit in the midst of my nursing studies I damaged my feet. In the past 1 1nd 1/2 hours of walking exercise and moderate attention to diet plus changing whatever drug that had caused me to gain 30 kg or so worked the magic. But not this time while sudying I became unfit and my once broken ankles became so lame I was on crutches and at risk of being unable to complete my degree. The band worked, I lost weight, physio etc restored most of the use of my feet and I walk pretty religiously the hour and a half a day. What I have noticed is that the assistance with control I have noted with the band has had huge impact on my self esteem and personal development as of course does the regular exercise. I began as a size 24-26 99.5 kg woman and I now sit around 70 kg despite the stresses of studies. I am 5 foot 2 inches and a size 14 on average. I am proud of my body image and will decide what to do with the remaining excess weight when my life is settled again. Like anything, you can make the band work for you or you can sabotage it by consuming liquid kilojoules, really bad food choices and snacking. I have made the band work ok for me and I know what to do to make it work better. But the impact on my self esteem and life choices regarding the weight loss has been considerable, it has sort of kick started psychological healing in this patriarchal society that places such stigma on body weight and image. As a teenager to my early 20's I had an eating disorder but I kicked that in the guts by the time I was 23 via a self help book and some counselling therapy.. However I can only say I agree with the health issues of obesity, the impact on my musculoskeletal system and career was a shocker. My blood pressure rose to 160/110 and I was a sitter for diabetes yum yum. Now my blood pressure circles around 120/80 -70 I can walk long distances (but not fast, over uneven ground, or carrying weights) I can continue with my career choice and many men call me beautiful despite the few extra pounds. I'd do it all again. I love the extra confidence that this weight loss has brought. If I became involved with a Big Beautiful Trans Person or other overweight slave (My alpha slave is trans, lesbian in a mans body and as slender as a reed) I would certainly assist them with fitness and weight loss, I'd plan it with them and we would do it together. ~ MyLady Queenowands

SirDaniel -> RE: BBW (6/18/2006 11:06:07 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: SweetSlaveGirl It's amusing to me that Dom's have problems with BBW or even slightly overweight women, Lets not generalize so much. I am Dom and have no problem, infact I enjoy a slave with 'some meat on her bones' My grand mother told me to get a chubby girl. You can sleep on the shady side in the summer and she will keep you warm all winter,.

sweetnurseBBW -> RE: BBW (6/18/2006 11:12:16 PM)
There are Dom/mmes that prefer BBW. I personally have never had a Dom/mme have a problem with my weight. So if they don't like you for your weight either move on or if it will make you feel better lose weight. Personally I think you look fine the way you are.

perverseangelic -> RE: BBW (6/18/2006 11:24:06 PM)
Taking a moment to be incredibly vain, I'm fat, and I find myself desired a bit more than I'd like, by a few more people that I'm....well...used to. I think it's all about being healthy and carying yourself well and proudly. For a LONG time I was ashamed of who I was, and how I looked. As soon as I learned to start lovign my body and embracing the fact that curves can be sexy, I found a lot more people pursuing me. Please pardon the vanity. My point is that if you can make sure you're healthy, and -carry- yourself like the sexy woman/man yuo know you are, that's more than half the battle. (edited for clarity)

KSControl -> RE: BBW (6/18/2006 11:34:16 PM)
Physical attraction is, by nature, somewhat 'shallow', regardless of what body types we are attracted to. It's hardly likely that any of us will look for the person we consider least attractive in the room and gravitate toward them. It's human nature to gravitate toward those we find more attractive. Yet, even those who may not seem as attractive to us, may seem extremely attractive to someone else. The bottom line is that the 'magic' happens when two people find each other attractive, and beyond the physical level, also find a deeper connection. We can wax philosophic about how someone should look 'beyond' the physical, but the reality is that nearly all of us are going to be attracted physically to someone before we will even allow ourselves to look deeper. I am a big guy myself, and my slave is a BBW, and we found a deep connection that goes much beyond the physical. But, like nearly everyone else, we were initially drawn together because we liked what we saw. If a Dom is approaching you with an offer, provided you are willing to change... say thanks but no thanks. When the 'right' one comes along, he will offer himself to you as he is, and accept you as you are, and that will be enough for both of you.

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