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Rochsub2009 -> RE: Virtual Chastity: Battling urge to masturbate (3/7/2012 4:35:38 PM)
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ORIGINAL: fermat5
I have been told not to masturbate. This I have no problem with. I enjoy obeying, relinquishing control of my penis and control of my orgasms. However, I still feel the strong urge to masturbate.
And you're going to feel the desire to masturbate. There's something within humans that makes us desire things more once we've been told that we can't have them.
If you're used to masturbating regularly, your body has grown used to frequent sexual release. Once you're told to stop masturbating, it's going to be difficult because you've essentially established a masturbation habit. Breaking any habit takes time. It usually can't be done instantaneously simply because a Domme told you to. Initially, she may need to use a chastity device to help you resist masturbating.
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She says this desire to masturbate should be eliminated so that I can focus on hers.
I've got sad news for her. You may develop the discipline to avoid masturbating, but the desire probably won't go away. The mere fact that you are not allowed to masturbate is going to make you think about it even more than you usually would.
It's like people who go on diets probably find themselves thinking about food MORE, not less.
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Is my desire to masturbate not a tribute to her?
Dude, get real! I know that it sounds noble to say that your masturbation is a tribute to her. But think about it for a moment. What does she get out of your masturbation? Diddly squat, that's what. Your masturbation is all about YOU. It's for your enjoyment. It feels good to you.
I hate to be the one to tell you this, but she can't feel all of those wonderful endorphins that are running through your body when you cum due to masturbation. Nope, only you get to feel that sensation. [;)]
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Should I feel ashamed for wanting to masturbate? Is it actually possible to remove the desire to masturbate?
"No" and "no". Why feel ashamed? It's simply biology. Your male body desires to spread your seed and propagate your genetic code. It's the most natural thing in the world for the male of any species. And masturbation feels really good to. [:D]
I doubt that it's possible to remove the desire to masturbate. But it is possible to develop the discipline to not masturbate.
I enjoy forced chastity. But I find that forced chastity without a chastity device is more enjoyable for me. I'm not saying that it's better. Nor am I saying that being able to do it without a device makes me superior. But what I am saying is that for me, it takes a greater degree of discipline and obedience to resist masturbating when She still allows you full access to your cock. When placed in that situation, you have to ask yourself which is stronger, your desire to masturbate or your desire to obey Her? I find that dilemma forces me to truly come face-to-face with how important submission is to me.
To be honest, there have been times when I've masturbated when I wasn't supposed to. But that showed me that I was still placing my own desires ahead of Hers.
It may take time, but eventually you'll learn to subordinate your own desires and make hers preeminent. IMO, there's something very rewarding about obeying your Domme even though you know that the urge to masturbate is just killing you. Learning to obey Her, even when your body is screaming for release, is a critical step towards real submission.
Good luck.
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