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RE: Unsolicited Advice? - 3/11/2012 11:25:48 AM

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Periodically I comment on someone's profile. Sometimes those comments are simply "nice profile" and sometimes they contain some "advice". I've gotten a wide range from responses on the advice ones... some small percentage went batshit crazy and told me I wasn't "true". Most of the others simply didn't respond. Some said, "thanks".

In other words, you'll get a mix and if you aren't prepared to deal with the negative end of that spectrum then it's probably best to leave well enough alone.

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RE: Unsolicited Advice? - 3/11/2012 11:26:14 AM

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Why would they want you to 'advise' them?

A few months ago I erased my profile, because I'm not interested in receiving mail at all. I'd probably tell you to go *bleep* yourself if you told me to re-write my profile. So will anyone else who doesn't want you telling them how to present themselves.

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RE: Unsolicited Advice? - 3/11/2012 12:47:36 PM

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ORIGINAL: OsideGirl

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Sometimes I stumble upon profiles here, most being those of Dominate males considering that I am a heterosexual female sub, that could use some work or poses a question I have the answer to or something like that.

Do you advise them that dominate is a verb and that you cannot be a verb?

Oh, gosh I can't believe I did that. Thanks for pointing it out.

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RE: Unsolicited Advice? - 3/11/2012 3:44:32 PM

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It is an interesting question, and made me think, because I also get the urge to offer advice at times. I mean, some of these guys profiles are just lousy! Like 'I'm here, looking. Feel free to contact me'. Yeah, right! Just what I've been waiting for! So I suppose sometimes the helpful teacher urge kicks in and you think 'OK; lets give the guy a hand'. But its true that if you see someone walking down the street with her skirt tucked in her knickers you don't tell her - (as a man, you fall in behind her and just stroll along enjoying the view!) and the same for the 'spinach in the teeth' thing; only if its someone you already know. So I suppose maybe yes; best to just keep your gob shut and let them get on with making their own mistakes, unless they come asking for advice.

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RE: Unsolicited Advice? - 3/11/2012 3:58:51 PM

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Mostly I just simply ignore them and move on (mostly. There are exceptions.), or, if it's someone who's made an ass of themselves on the forums and not taken the hint and started acting in a civilized fashion, I'll drop them a note and 'critique' their profile. Most of the time, I'm not particularly nice about it, and I don't expect (nor have I received) any response. No doubt at least some of the folks who dropped in thinking this was a kinky sex buffet type place that I've subsequently sent notes to think I'm some sort of uber bitch and/or not actually a sub.

Now, if someone comes on the boards and ASKS to have a profile looked at, I'll occasionally go perv it and suggest whatever additions or changes that I think would make it better for the purpose. I don't expect to have such advice always agreed with or taken, and don't get bent out of shape by that.

And I don't mind getting suggestions on changing my own profile. I may, or may not adopt the suggested changes, but I'm not going to get mad at the person giving the advice.

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RE: Unsolicited Advice? - 3/11/2012 4:34:11 PM

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ORIGINAL: Focus50
This is a good point, too. What if it's some abusive arsehole trolling for naive new meat - and you come along and help them hide by pointing out an obvious flaw with their "bait"?

Focus.

THIS!!! ^

I dont help anyone with their profile even if they ask for it, it helps hide their true self and i disagree with that, by "helping" him, you are helping him to con other women.. It helps him to lie better.. I will not be someone's accomplice..

And i will say that when a "helpful" Dom stranger tells me something he doesnt like about my profile, i view his help with suspicion and that he has an agenda.. but that is probably because subs are the ones being chased.. I have never taken any stranger Doms "advice" about my profile anyway..

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RE: Unsolicited Advice? - 3/11/2012 4:43:10 PM

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I hang out in several author forums. People will post and ASK for reviews/critiques/comments on their books or ask why they're not selling. I'll look at the preview of the book and I will say things like- you didn't spell most of the words right, you're not punctuating properly, you can't read the title on your cover because it is too busy...

99% of people react poorly to it - EVEN when they've specifically asked for it.

I kinda doubt people will take it well in a setting where they're not asking for it.

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RE: Unsolicited Advice? - 3/11/2012 4:58:53 PM

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Depends, if they are saying about being new and not knowing how to meet people I might suggest some local groups or a good search. If someone says they like a type of music in my area and I know of a great band I might suggest then too. I'm not sure that any of that is actually advice. If I feel inclined to "help" them be better at something I read then I usually find that my ego has gotten a bit out of proportion (which does happen to me more than I wish it did) and I try to just just up at that point.

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RE: Unsolicited Advice? - 3/11/2012 8:18:42 PM

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I am in the nobody like unsolicited advice. I left my profile blank on purpose. Anyone who would comment with a "fill in your profile" comes across as an ass. People have reasons for what they do even if they dont make sense.

Since this site is known for its trollers and scammers, it is not surprising at some of the things that are written. Many of the "submissives" are fakes who are located in Nigeria or Russia running their online scams.

In short, just hit up those who genuinely interest you and ignore the rest. Sadly, many have agendas that are radically different from yours.

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RE: Unsolicited Advice? - 3/18/2012 3:35:21 AM

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I guess the tone makes the music.

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