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Duskypearls -> RE: Why are women so hard to understand? (3/11/2012 12:01:03 PM)
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ORIGINAL: MrBukani
You know sometimes a woman starts to cry and I always ask,"Why are you crying?''
Do you know how many times I got the answer,''I dont know.''
I have a theory but could a woman explain this?
Mr. B, on this issue, I can only speak for myself. As a energetically, emotionally, and physically sensitive soul, I am sometimes overwhelmed with emotions and stressors (past or present), which when not talked out, well dealt with or released, can build up quite a bit of pressure. Think of it as being a bit of a toxic waste dump in a pressure cooker, tilting dangerously towards "EXPLODE! Overthinking and negative thinking can greatly contribute to this phenomenon.
This can lead me to feel overloaded with a multitude of unpleasant feelings, i.e., anger, sadness, grief, regret, frustration, shame, confusion, helplessness, powerlessness, etc., which can merge into one big, unidentifiable blob, from which it may be difficult to tease out any individual thoughts/feelings/issues to be faced, resolved, and released.
Nine times out of 10, I know what I am feeling and where it is coming from, as I tend towards self-awareness and consciousness. When I have not teased it all out, sometimes it doesn't take much to make me cry, and I may not know its origin. I do best being with a person (or people) to whom I can truly bare my soul and feelings, use them as a sounding board, and ask (and often), take and follow their advice and guidance as to how I might differently perceive, process, and integrate my thoughts, feelings, and experiences. I nearly always value, and benefit from, another's views, experiences, and suggestions.
I have also been known to spontaneously cry from joy, beauty, happiness and gratitude. Although my feelings and expressions are usually transparent (I tend not to hide them), I am NOT a crybaby, do not manipulate others with my feelings or tears, and can/will quickly rein them in should it make others uncomfortable. Tears are often just my form of pressure release.
Then again, tears might also be hormonally induced. Imbalances/menopause/surgical menopause/hormone replacement therapy), and can trigger teary bouts. While it may be hard to figure out the why of it at the moment, if one examines their unresolved issues honestly and deeply enough, they will often find a connection between hormone surges/retreats and tears. One of the most magnificient things about menopause is it gives a woman one last chance to excavate, face and resolve any previously hidden/obscured unhealthy issues, as the hormonal changes often volcanically forces them up from the subconscious. They can become very eruptive and disruptive if one is not aware of what is happening and why. This is the main reason so many women (and so many men wonder) why they become so angry, depressed, exhausted etc., in all stages of menopause.
While menopause seriously took me by surprise (more like shock!) in the first couple of years, once I understood this was Nature's way of offering me an opportunity to heal all my inner wounds and truly step into my wisdom and womanhood, it became my most sacred and valued friend, instead of my infernal enemy, to be avoided at all costs. I, and others, like me so much more now.
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