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sleeping arrangements - 3/11/2012 12:56:57 PM

ScoutsHonor

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I read an article on another site a while back regarding sleeping arrangements. It was written by a sub and she outlined how she and her Dom slept and how things changed if he was upset with her or she was in trouble. I’ve also seen the topic of sleeping arrangements pop up in a thread from time to time on here. I thought it would make an interesting conversation.

What arrangement do you and your partner have? Sub at the foot of the bed, separate rooms, cuddled together?

What is your favorite way to sleep?

Do things change in accordance with emotions and other factors? Such as time of the month or something such as bondage.

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RE: sleeping arrangements - 3/11/2012 1:16:09 PM

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What arrangement do you and your partner have?

Well, if you consider passing out in the spot you ended up in after sport fucking....

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Sub at the foot of the bed, separate rooms, cuddled together?

Usually i untie the slut, after that she's on her own.

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What is your favorite way to sleep?

Quietly.

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Do things change in accordance with emotions and other factors? Such as time of the month or something such as bondage.

The only thing that changes around here is the sheets. Although I have locked her in bondage over night on occasion. That'll teach her to leave the cap off the toothpaste!

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RE: sleeping arrangements - 3/11/2012 1:30:03 PM

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Thank you, Endivius, for that, ahem, masterful display of what I sincerely hope was tongue in cheek wit.

To the OP- Master prefers for me to sleep with him, as he likes to cuddle before dropping off. Most of the time I'm just fine with this, as I like to cuddle as well.

My FAVORITE way to sleep is all sprawled out over most of a king sized bed, but I haven't been able to do that for years.

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RE: sleeping arrangements - 3/11/2012 1:49:40 PM

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Separate rooms.

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RE: sleeping arrangements - 3/11/2012 1:49:56 PM

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Most of the time we snuggle up together. He likes to have me there to cuddle with and I'm not complaining one bit.

There are times though when he has me sleeping on the floor...usually when he's in a bad mood or just wants to be really sadistic.
He's also talked lately of buying me a dog bed. I'm just hoping most of the time he'll still want in the bed to cuddle with lol.

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RE: sleeping arrangements - 3/11/2012 1:50:47 PM

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My Master and I sleep in the same bed, cuddled up in a tangle of limbs. Sometimes he will be holding me (spooning) from behind, sometimes I will be resting on his chest, sometimes the position we are in is so oddly tangled it is hard to describe it, but we are always snuggled right next to each other throughout the night. We both like it, it's a big part of how we show affection to each other. It's comforting both emotionally and physically, it lets us be close, and we keep each other warm. I absolutely love it. There is no place in the world that feels more like home than in my Master's arms. That is my favorite way to sleep.

The way we sleep doesn't change. We have a rule that even if we are angry at each other or having an argument, neither of us will ever sleep on the couch or sleep separately in some way. This is, in our opinion, a perfect way to affirm "I still love you and want to be with you"--no matter how mad or upset we are, we still love each other and thus we're still going to sleep cuddling each other. I don't like going to sleep mad anyways, so if there is something bothering one of us, we have always worked it out before sleeping. I feel this is a good way to keep tabs on any issues that pop up--not letting them last into the night and the next day. Maybe that won't always be possible, but even if one day we run into something we can't work out in one day, we'll still sleep together just the same, each assuring the other that we're on the same team here, and we'll work on it together. :)

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RE: sleeping arrangements - 3/11/2012 1:53:25 PM

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For both Carol and I, morning and night are precious opportunities for full-on, skin on skin cuddling. Very little is allowed to interfere with that. Arguments are required to be done by bed time. I wouldn't introduce any sort of bondage that interfered with it. Heck, I can't even seriously manage to watch a movie with her at my feet. Inevitably I end up pulling her up into my arms on the couch. I just REALLY like the feeling of her pressed against me -- preferably bare skin.

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RE: sleeping arrangements - 3/11/2012 2:01:42 PM

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I always think this "sleeping at Master's feet" bizzo is a waste of resources. The female body was made to be groped and I don't do that with my feet. So yeah, my girl sleeps butt naked and right next to me so that any wandering hands during the night have something to grab hold of....

Re bondage, yeah, maybe once or twice a week she sleeps with hands cuffed behind but mostly, I quite like a loved one's hands on me, too. Though it's never happened, if I was really pissed at her over something then I'd likely consign her to the spare bedroom. But that level of anger would've had to come about right on bed time. Like I said, never happened....

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RE: sleeping arrangements - 3/11/2012 2:06:26 PM

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Sleeping at my partners feet, means my icy cold very restless feet... are in line with his crotch... the only man stupid enough to not consider this... Well.. That was an interesting evening...

I sleep besides my partner....or i sleep alone....

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RE: sleeping arrangements - 3/11/2012 2:09:48 PM

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I sleep cuffed, naked and usually nestled up to my Owner

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RE: sleeping arrangements - 3/11/2012 2:18:37 PM

JulianVanPatten

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Well, that all depends on how well I know the girl. If she's just some hardbody I picked up at a club then I'm calling a cab for her. A lot of sluts have sticky fingers and I have a lot of cool things in my apartment. I learned that lesson a long time ago in college when a girl stole a pair of Ray Bans from me after we hooked up at a frat party and it was unpleasant for both of us when I had to go get them back from her.

If I know the girl pretty well and I trust her I normally tell her to clean up and then she is allowed to sleep in the guest room as long as she is up and out at a reasonable hour.

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RE: sleeping arrangements - 3/11/2012 2:18:51 PM

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Naked, under the covers with at least one of the cats (sweet YinYang) snuggling between us.

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RE: sleeping arrangements - 3/11/2012 2:22:02 PM

Kaliko

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quote:

ORIGINAL: ScoutsHonor

I read an article on another site a while back regarding sleeping arrangements. It was written by a sub and she outlined how she and her Dom slept and how things changed if he was upset with her or she was in trouble. I’ve also seen the topic of sleeping arrangements pop up in a thread from time to time on here. I thought it would make an interesting conversation.

What arrangement do you and your partner have? Sub at the foot of the bed, separate rooms, cuddled together?

What is your favorite way to sleep?

Do things change in accordance with emotions and other factors? Such as time of the month or something such as bondage.

Well, at the moment I'm single, so my answer to the first question would be...whatever arrangements he (hypothetical he) would like.

My favorite way to sleep? I prefer to sleep alone - or at the very least, not touching anybody - and I always felt my best sleeping on the floor while my partner slept on the bed. It didn't happen all the time. Like Little Wonder, we talked of getting a dog bed. (Actually, we talked of me making one.) And I'm quite positive it would have been my spot and I would have loved it. (Actually, I'm thinking we might have even bought one....hmmm....)

Not all the time, to be sure. As you refer to, emotions do certainly play into it and there have been times I really hated, on a deeply emotional level, to be seperated from him in that way. But we were in tune enough with each other so that rarely happened.

We didn't really take part in too much bondage. I've been cuffed up for the night, but that would be whether on the bed or on the floor and there again, not all the time. Not nearly, even.

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RE: sleeping arrangements - 3/11/2012 2:31:56 PM

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Together in bed.

I'm with Focus50 - I love that wandering hand in the middle of the night, when all you can do is smile and make a little pleasurable groan because you're so sleepy.

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RE: sleeping arrangements - 3/11/2012 5:33:51 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: ScoutsHonor

What arrangement do you and your partner have? Sub at the foot of the bed, separate rooms, cuddled together?

What is your favorite way to sleep?

Do things change in accordance with emotions and other factors? Such as time of the month or something such as bondage.

Master and I sleep together in our king-sized bed. We cuddle but, when it's time to do some down and dirty snoozin', we go to opposite sides and curl up with our respective piles o'pillows

This never changes unless I can't sleep and He's snoring to beat the band and then I sometimes head to the couch for relief and to watch TV until I can doze off. He understands why I do and doesn't have an issue with it. And then, sometimes, we have a stripedy, fatass cat curled up between us bathing and hoovering at herself. That's always fun too

luci

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RE: sleeping arrangements - 3/11/2012 5:43:15 PM

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We tend to sleep in separate rooms. Not because we're D/s, but because he sleeps best on the floor and for the past year or so i've needed to sleep in my adjustable bed (I used to sleep on the floor with him). My bed is only a full size so it's also really too small for both of us to sleep through the night together.

So, we usually have him come into my bed to cuddle at the beginning of the night and when he wakes up uncomfortable he goes to his room to sleep.

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RE: sleeping arrangements - 3/11/2012 6:04:41 PM

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FR
Being a bed warmer seems to be
mandatory. I don't really care one
way or the other but I've never known
a man who wanted a woman to sleep
anywhere but in bed with him.
I think those nice big dog beds in the
LL Bean catalog look very tempting.
I'd be very happy to find one with my
name on it under the Christmas tree.

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RE: sleeping arrangements - 3/11/2012 6:45:22 PM

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Naked in bed. Sometimes with light bondage, sometimes not.

If I allow her (or tell her) to wear anything it's only lingerie and heels. I've always had a rule that if she couldn't stand sleeping next to me that night or I didn't want her to, for whatever reason, the only other place that would be allowed is the floor.

I've never been in a position where I had to enforce that rule, although the dog bed sounds fun if I ever am.

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RE: sleeping arrangements - 3/11/2012 7:11:58 PM

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Together in bed mostly with some body parts touching throughout the night. Lots of pillows for both of us. Skin to skin contact is a huge need for both of us, we love sleeping next to each other and crave it when we're apart.

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RE: sleeping arrangements - 3/11/2012 7:16:41 PM

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In bed hopefully together. Although he has the world's worst sleep habits so it's not uncommon for him to wander out in the middle of the night, and fall asleep on the couch halfway through a movie. This happens so much there's now a blanket and pillow there.

Oddly enough, if I wake up and can't sleep and sneak out quietly so as not to disturb him, he'll wake up immediately sensing I'm gone.

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