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RaspberryLemon -> RE: Thoughts on play rape? (3/15/2012 8:57:05 PM)
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My Master and I wrestle each other all the time (though he always quickly overpowers me, so it looks more like him getting a hold on me and me struggling against him; I enjoy it, but it is short-lived) and it often leads to sex where he's pinning me down and being very aggressive, but it is all done in a fun and emotionally intimate context--we are smiling and laughing with each other while we struggle, just being playful. I want him and he wants me, and it's very intimate and personal, and there's no "force" or "non-consent" aspects to it. This is as far as anything constituting "resistance play" goes for us.
We don't do any "play rape" or false resistance type of things. It just doesn't appeal to us on any level. It's very impersonal, pretending to be different people--rapist and victim, rather than our reality of loving Master and pet. Any and all roleplay type things we ever do have to be context-based with us "playing" ourselves in the scenario, or it doesn't work for us. A lack of intimacy is definitely not appealing to me. I love the connection between us, how we do things. Taking the personal aspect out of what we do would ruin it for us.
The idea of pretending I don't want him or don't wish for his advances also seems oddly dishonest to me, because my entire being purposes itself to consenting to everything that he desires of me (willing obedience.) Pretending I am not consenting holds no appeal to either of us--and quite frankly, it would probably hurt his feelings in a way, to see me acting like I desperately don't want him. And he has no interest in seeing me scream, cry, or look fearful of him. It's not a turn on to him and that sort of behavior is not something he ever wants to see me directing at him. We are also not into pain or degradation in any form--he does not want to or like hurting me and I do not want to or like being hurt by him. Emotionally, it would be awful for both of us. That's just how it is for us, and the reasons it would not work. For others, this is not the case, and they might see things very differently, but there you have it from my perspective.
For reference on our experience with "play rape": I have never engaged in any "play rape" type of scenario. However, my Master, before he met me, experienced the "play rape" thing once with a previous girlfriend because she was into it and begged him to try it. He disliked it immensely and quit halfway through the scene. He was rather disgusted with it and vehemently expressed the same standpoint towards it currently.
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