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ORIGINAL: menowimp

Is there a school of mistresses that says to be one you need to wear a leather or latex outfit, carry a whip and expose half your body?

I can't speak for other men so I don't know if that is what guys want, but my guess is that there are many like me who are totally put off by it. And probably you attract a lot more of the men you don't want, or give the wrong impression, because it almost always comes with some kind of warning about what you don't offer, what you're not etc.

I would quite like to see some more "vanilla" mistresses, who yes, do session with people in a BDSM manner, but do not feel they need to undress or wear outrageous outfits to do so. I also prefer not to session totally naked, by the way.

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ORIGINAL: RedMagic1

Are you looking for more "girl next door" femdom porn? Or more confident women who just "dress normally"? If the second, maybe go out of your way to chat up some Suicide Girls. Tats and piercings means greater interest in S&M in my experience -- more likely to have explored the pleasure one can get from pain.

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ORIGINAL: poise

Out of curiousity, I just did a search for dominant females, age range between 30 - 50, and living in the UK.
Of the 20 images that appeared on page one, only 6 of them were dressed in the style you dislike.
The bottom line is, you are only one man in a million here, and what you don't like, others do, and vice versa.
Best of luck in finding the woman that appeals to you.

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ORIGINAL: menowimp
Now yes, I know that I can contact pro-dommes and ask them if they like to also session in ordinary clothing in a domestic setting, and I will sometimes get positive replies. But for me first impressions are also important and the first contact I make is via their website.

Now I can understand they may want that website there for those who like that kind of thing, but it would be nice if they offered an "alternative" page for people like me. I can assure you there are lots of people like me. Yes, there are lots who like the other type, who want a well-equipped dungeon and a dominatrix that looks "kinky", but they are well catered for in the femdom world, it would seem.

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ORIGINAL: menowimp
Is there a school of mistresses that says to be one you need to wear a leather or latex outfit, carry a whip and expose half your body?

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ORIGINAL: RedMagic1
This seems like a non-problem. Search for professional disciplinarians and spankers, not dominatrices. The website marketing is completely different, much more "stern governess" or "bitchy sorority girl" type thing. There is no lack of such providers in the UK.

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ORIGINAL: menowimp

Is there a school of mistresses that says to be one you need to wear a leather or latex outfit, carry a whip and expose half your body?

I can't speak for other men so I don't know if that is what guys want, but my guess is that there are many like me who are totally put off by it. And probably you attract a lot more of the men you don't want, or give the wrong impression, because it almost always comes with some kind of warning about what you don't offer, what you're not etc.

I would quite like to see some more "vanilla" mistresses, who yes, do session with people in a BDSM manner, but do not feel they need to undress or wear outrageous outfits to do so. I also prefer not to session totally naked, by the way.