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RE: How did you find your dom? - 3/22/2012 3:51:00 PM

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We met when we were 6 years old, and were best friends from the moment we met.We just grew into what the other wanted and needed.

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RE: How did you find your dom? - 3/23/2012 6:25:44 AM

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My story is only helpful to illustrate one point, you can meet the "right" person anywhere, anytime under any circumstances. I was out with my ex (we were trying to build a friendship for the sake of our son) and went to his favorite hang-out to shoot pool. I notoriously overdress for such things so I was the only woman in the place with a tight skirt and heels when my future Master walked in. He happened to be one of my ex's friends and we were introduced. Master tells the story as, "I walked in and saw the hottest woman in the room so I made a bee-line for her." ;) I knew within ten ... okay maybe fifteen seconds that this man absolutely had to be in my life. Three days later we started dating and from the very first conversation he was upfront about what he was and what he wanted. I still can't believe it worked out so perfectly. We live in a TINY community where stuff like this is just ... not commonplace. So, like I said my point is, that person could be standing infront of you at a coffee shop, just keep alert, have an open mind, by all means work on your profile etc but don't neglect the possibility of meeting someone in a more "vanilla" way either.

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RE: How did you find your dom? - 3/23/2012 4:43:28 PM

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ORIGINAL: IrishMist

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ORIGINAL: MistressDarkArt

Hello eager. After reading your profile, I'd recommend you revise it. It's all about what you like, what you want, and what a dominant woman can do for you.

Very unsubly, dude.

Also, pull up your pants, cupcake. Most women do not want to see your jungle down there, 'k? And the shot in briefs is a turn-off to me and will be to most women. Work on getting a nice, vanilla g-rated picture...even if you have to quarter turn your face or blur it out for privacy.

While it's perfectly OK to want a casual play relationship, be advised that most dominant woman want, expect...and easily get...much more of an investment from their partners. With at least a 10 sub/1 domme ratio there is no reason she would have to settle for less. Between that reality and your do-me profile, it's no surprise you've been hit upon by the pros and findommes.

Newsflash: there are no shortcuts, and online you have only your profile, pictures, and forum posts to back you up. When you're ready to approach a dominant woman as a person first in her own right and not as your personal fetish-delivery system, your odds will improve. You'll have to offer something worthwhile in return: at the least, genuine friendship and probably a lot more. You'll have to invest time. If you can't or don't want to...be prepared to pay a professional for your jollies. Pick your preferred currency and get comfortable with it.

You might have better luck finding a lifestyle group/munch in your area, so do a search for what is available locally for you.

Good luck to you, and welcome to the boards. Enjoy the journey.

PS: Read and heed every last word of the Ask A Mistress FAQ.

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ALSO AGREE!!!! Get a grip tootsie!

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RE: How did you find your dom? - 3/23/2012 4:52:34 PM

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I have met most my doms online through kinky dating sites. They were close enough i could spend time with them easily and regularly.

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So my question is, for you all successful subs and even willing to jump in doms, how did you find your partner in crime?

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RE: How did you find your dom? - 3/24/2012 7:36:19 PM

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I currently don't have a Dom, but I met my last one of alt. I have never had any luck here on cm, but am giving it another chance. Maybe it's the area I live in and I should move to a big city!! lol

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RE: How did you find your dom? - 3/25/2012 5:19:33 PM

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i met mine on alt after chatting a few time agreed to meet at the dungon 3hrs away. that was more than 5 years ago

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RE: How did you find your dom? - 3/26/2012 11:09:43 AM

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I got into an argument with my Dom over who could make better pancakes. That was our first conversation. It was over the internet, and through a mutual friend, who told me he had bragged about his cooking prowess. My pride was involved. Turns out I interested him, and I greatly enjoyed his ability to hold an intelligent argument. Life is fun sometimes like that.

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RE: How did you find your dom? - 5/18/2012 5:45:19 PM

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i met him on ALT.com 6 years ago but i deleted him on MSN after the first conversation because i was young, a bit too immature and he scared me off at the time lol. 3 years later, at a more mature 20 years old, we found each other again online by total chance. We met up. i fell in love with him, i've been his slave for nearly 2 years now :)

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RE: How did you find your dom? - 5/18/2012 6:05:06 PM

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Found my best when I walked into the leather bar and he was chatting with my long-time friend, Larry. I walked up and said "Okay, Larry. Introduce me to him and kindly take off." Larry did and did. A Saturday nite, we stayed in each others company until he had to go to work. Lived together for 3-1/2 years. . . . . DAMN! That was fine. Still miss him, more than 4 years later.

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RE: How did you find your dom? - 5/18/2012 6:27:26 PM

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Found my best sub in the gym. Walked past the weight room, saw a gorgeous blond Adonis, shrugged, hit the pool. After my hour of laps, I emerged sopping wet and raccoon-eyed from my goggles, and he came up to me and said, 'You swim like a Nereid'. I almost came!, not only because he used the word, but because he presumed I would know it. We agreed to meet in the foyer after we changed. I waited 15 minutes, then left. I wait for no one. I found out later he was grooming and styling himself to look PERFECT. We met again, he sincerely apologised and told me the truth, I gave him a second chance, and the next night I ground out a great orgasm against him [whoever called it a dry hump doesn't know how to do it right]. As we kissed goodnight, he, hard again, leaned against me, and I instinctively put a hand in his hair and drew him back. He knelt and whispered, 'I would never do anything you don't want me to.'
We discovered each other was an experienced slave and Domme in that very moment, and I came again.
Amazing, and beautiful, that we each recognised what we love in the other.
And he was never late again!

Edited to add: Dang it! Nearly-necrothread.

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RE: How did you find your dom? - 5/18/2012 11:10:23 PM

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He emailed me here on CM. I was SO not looking and almost didn't reply - took me 4 days. We emailed and talked on the phone for a couple of months and then met for dinner and a walk down the harbor - instant chemistry. We're celebrating 3 years, this weekend.

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RE: How did you find your dom? - 5/27/2012 1:22:30 AM

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I have known the man I consider my dominant for more than eight years. He is the only one that I have ever allowed to dominate me and it became as official as it is going to be, while I am on the other side of the country.

Met him online, while we were storyline roleplaying ( That means with a plot and a real story behind it, not just sexual such as rping a scene in a lockerroom or damsel in distress that you eventually fuck.)

He is the only man I trust to be dominant over me.

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RE: How did you find your dom? - 5/30/2012 10:01:55 AM

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I've had 5 Doms thru this site. Finding them is not a problem.....but I'm damned if I can hold on to them.

Signed; Alone again...

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RE: How did you find your dom? - 6/11/2012 10:31:19 AM

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Met my Sir here, on CM. We chatted on Yahoo, then met in person. We've been together for almost 4 years now. :)

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RE: How did you find your dom? - 6/11/2012 6:15:53 PM

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I met my Master when we were 14. Of course, back then I had no idea what would evolve. We were very vanilla. In fact, I hid my desires from him for years, but one day he saw things i was researching online and confronted me. I was super embarrassed but turned out he's a kinkster too so the journey lives :)

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RE: How did you find your dom? - 6/14/2012 10:09:57 AM

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kuppykake...we are almost name twins, hurrah!

To the OP:
We met totally vanilla, at my college. Went on some dates, started seeing each other exclusively. One day we happened to have a conversation about porn, and I mentioned my preference for kink porn, which prompted him to ask a few questions...turns out, not only our porn preferences, but our lifestyle and kink preferences match up pretty well!

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RE: How did you find your dom? - 6/25/2012 9:08:54 PM

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We met via OK Cupid. I'd abandoned my vanilla dating profiles on OK Cupid/Match/PoF and was debating taking all of my kinky profiles down from OK Cupid/PoF when we met. I almost stood him up, because I'd gotten so frustrated.

We made plans to go get a drink, met outside and sat for hours talking. We never made it in to get the drink. ;))

We're on our way to two years.

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RE: How did you find your dom? - 6/25/2012 9:11:05 PM

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Who makes better pancakes? Don't leave us hanging! ;))

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RE: How did you find your dom? - 6/26/2012 1:11:43 PM

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I saw his profile and became intruiged, he sounded like he was basically the other side to what I sought, same interests, desires but his were from the Dom side..

I contacted him, we talked ages... before we met i met a guy in a club and had a 6 month relationship with him so nothing happened between my now Owner and i aside from a little fooling around (my partner and i were poly)

We broke up and my Owner and i remained friends but still didnt get it together one on one, I had another relationship with am amazing guy in the USA and my now Owner became my UK playmate, everyone well aware of the situation...

My USA Sir was not sure he could commit to the whole moving me over thing (we did have a 6 year friendship to base all on) and my play partner basically said if my Dom decided he couldnt do it then he was having me..

So my Dom ended things and my play partner basically told me I was his, no more avoiding the issue... (he gave me time to process things first)

Now I am happily Owned, my ex Dom in the USA and I are close friends and when I visit I am allowed to be friends with extras and my Owner got the girl he wanted for 2 years...

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RE: How did you find your dom? - 6/26/2012 2:18:15 PM

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I met the Hubs when I was 19. He was best friends with My friend. They both came to a club I was working at and had a few drinks. I invited them to a July 4th party. There, he asked to kiss Me and the rest is history. And this July 4th, we will be celebrating 14yrs.

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