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Wannabes And Posers - 3/22/2012 7:18:22 AM

DominusManibus

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I've been on CM for many yeare and have run into more fakes and posers than I care to count. How do you handle them?

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RE: Wannabes And Posers - 3/22/2012 7:21:08 AM

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Ignore, block, delete.

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RE: Wannabes And Posers - 3/22/2012 7:23:50 AM

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Step 1. Block
Step 2. Mark as Spam & Delete

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RE: Wannabes And Posers - 3/22/2012 7:33:14 AM

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CM is one tool of many. Have you been to a munch or BDSM event lately?

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RE: Wannabes And Posers - 3/22/2012 7:34:34 AM

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I----have a tool for many.

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RE: Wannabes And Posers - 3/22/2012 7:36:03 AM

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OP, you are looking for one of the rarest commodities - a bi sub woman willing to be the third in an existing relationship. And your profile is not written to entice a woman at all. Bare bones, not making it clear if you want a play partner or a relationship, and the rules of engagement.

The reason you're finding fakes is that real bi women have other prospects, lots of them.

Find a bi sub woman's profile that you like, and rewrite your profile to appeal to her.

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RE: Wannabes And Posers - 3/22/2012 8:39:19 AM

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I have to start off by saying that just because someone does not meet your hopes and dreams it does not make them a wannabe, a fake, or a poser. Having said that everyone one else is correct. People you do not want to speak to is why collarme gave you a block button.

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RE: Wannabes And Posers - 3/22/2012 8:42:18 AM

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good luck

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RE: Wannabes And Posers - 3/22/2012 8:52:35 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: GreedyTop

Ignore, block, delete.

^this^

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RE: Wannabes And Posers - 3/22/2012 8:57:29 AM

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How can you consider yourself a dominant guy if you dont even know how to handle idiots on the net? Especially after being on here for "many years?"

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RE: Wannabes And Posers - 3/22/2012 9:20:59 AM

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First, keep in mind that one person's "poser" might be another person's dream come true. This is true even in face to face meetings.

Second, I pretty much assume that when I get a message that reads like "hi, I'm a super hot 21 year naive native American female and I read your profile and I think you are exactly what I've been looking for my whole life" then I tend to pretty much just ignore it. Either they are truly what they say (and I've done the 21 year old stupidness) or they are completely full of shit. I don't block or delete or anything -- I just don't pay attention to it.

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RE: Wannabes And Posers - 3/22/2012 10:49:51 AM

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What makes you feel they are posers or fake?

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RE: Wannabes And Posers - 3/22/2012 11:24:03 AM

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I try not to handle them. After years of experience, you come recognize the red flags.

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RE: Wannabes And Posers - 3/22/2012 11:27:43 AM

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What makes you feel they are posers or fake?

Here's the crux of the issue.

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RE: Wannabes And Posers - 3/22/2012 11:39:47 AM

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What makes you feel they are posers or fake?

Exactly.

It all depends on what a person's wants and needs are. :)
To me, they aren't what I like, but to another, may be their heart's desire.

If you really wanna go all romantic on that.

(yuck)

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RE: Wannabes And Posers - 3/22/2012 11:43:06 AM

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i don't "handle" them. I ignore them and move on. My time is better spent taking a shit than worrying about someone from the internet.

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RE: Wannabes And Posers - 3/22/2012 11:55:56 AM

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I don't handle them either. I tried once and got a nasty rash that took weeks to cure.

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RE: Wannabes And Posers - 3/22/2012 11:57:46 AM

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^ rubber gloves ! ! !

just sayin'

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RE: Wannabes And Posers - 3/22/2012 12:03:11 PM

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I don't think twice about it, people are going to do whatever they do- it's not my concern. I'd go nuts if I concerned myself with whatever millions of people do on the internet, it's just not important to me. If I encounter someone that isnt' what I thought they were I chalk it up to experience and move on and promptly forget about them. I retain the knowledge though of what happened so I can see it better the next time.

OP, I had a look at your profile. You are looking for a woman to have sex with you and your submissive. Women dont' have a hard time finding sex. The things you list in your profile are all sexual, no mention of what she gets out of it besides someone to bang. Since sex is easy to find as a woman, you don't have anything that sets you apart than any other couple, human being, or sex toy. Most women are generally looking for some kind of relationship rather than an encounter.

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RE: Wannabes And Posers - 3/22/2012 12:25:20 PM

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I'd rather have a sex toy. at least then I *know* I'd get off.

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