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RE: Maintenance Discipline - 3/25/2012 3:33:10 PM   
searching4mysir


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Status: offline 		OP, to me, you sound more like a service top than a dom.

I would never walk into my Master's home office and unplug his computer while he is working to seek attention. Not merely because it would anger him, but because it is rude and selfish. It doesn't sound as if she respects you at all.

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RE: Maintenance Discipline - 3/25/2012 9:57:58 PM   
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I spoke to her about this and laid out the rules (9am-1pm work time, hour break, 2pm-4pm work, then off for the rest of the day)and the penalty for breaking them (spanking with various implements, corner time etc), and thought everything would be fine. The next day she KEPT coming into my office for no reason, but I screwed up, because I didn't keep to my own rules. Because of this she just escalated her misbehavior until the next day while I was working she jimmied the door open, sauntered in, unplugged my pc and ran off. This made me livid beyond livid and it took all I had not to go past my own rules when disciplining her.




ehhh what can I say other that she is controlling you.

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RE: Maintenance Discipline - 3/26/2012 7:01:00 AM   
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I would never walk into my Master's home office and unplug his computer while he is working to seek attention. Not merely because it would anger him, but because it is rude and selfish. It doesn't sound as if she respects you at all.


Let me add that I have enough common sense to realize that working keeps the roof over our heads. I wouldn't do something that detrimental to that or that would make it more difficult or make it take longer.


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RE: Maintenance Discipline - 3/26/2012 7:14:33 AM   
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Have you ever seen a parent tell their child not to do something, then watched the child look right at them and do it anyways?

In the last relationship I was in, my kitten had come from a string of horrendously abusive relationships and therefore equated being beaten savagely with being loved. I didn't realize this at first, and just thought she was causing trouble for troubles sake. I work from home, so I was always around her, but I still needed my space to work effectively (because I CAN'T get any work done with her wigglin' around).

I spoke to her about this and laid out the rules (9am-1pm work time, hour break, 2pm-4pm work, then off for the rest of the day)and the penalty for breaking them (spanking with various implements, corner time etc), and thought everything would be fine. The next day she KEPT coming into my office for no reason, but I screwed up, because I didn't keep to my own rules. Because of this she just escalated her misbehavior until the next day while I was working she jimmied the door open, sauntered in, unplugged my pc and ran off. This made me livid beyond livid and it took all I had not to go past my own rules when disciplining her.

I told a friend my situation and he suggested "Maintenance Discipline", essentially discipline for the sake of discipline, so that things don't get out of hand.

It worked 110%, and instantly fixed my situation. Routine is important, since it gives a sense of solidarity, so the maintenance was always at the same time. Hopefully this helps someone like it did me.



It's nice to see such a blatant example of the 's-type' running the show and the 'd-type' submitting and serving so well.


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RE: Maintenance Discipline - 3/26/2012 7:43:36 AM   
Madame4a


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the behavior is completely childish... and to my mind, ridiculous, attention seeking, grounds for ending the relationship...but hey that's me...

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RE: Maintenance Discipline - 3/26/2012 9:08:59 AM   
tameeks


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Status: offline 		Oh my, I can't imagine what Daddy would do if I unplugged his computer while he was working. Eeegads I'd be in BIG trouble. Thankfully I'm mature enough to know better, plus I don't like to upset him. Him being upset is worse than the actual punishment for me.

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RE: Maintenance Discipline - 3/26/2012 9:13:15 AM   
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Child and parent.. not really an adult relationship -- not my cup of tea but perhaps it is for others...

the behavior is completely childish... and to my mind, ridiculous, attention seeking, grounds for ending the relationship...but hey that's me...


The biggest difference is that the kids that come to my house, even the youngest, know better than to touch the computers, let alone the cords.

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RE: Maintenance Discipline - 3/26/2012 5:35:31 PM   
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Status: offline 		Wow, I didn't expect so many replies, thanks a ton. I should have explained what I meant by maintenance discipline though. Whereas before discipline was on a case by case basis, now in addition to that she gets the hell spanked out of her every two days whether she did anything or not. Before she would go anywhere from a few days to a week or more between spankings, so now that she knows she doesn't have to act out to get one then she doesn't.
Stay cool folks.

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RE: Maintenance Discipline - 3/26/2012 5:40:28 PM   
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Wow, I didn't expect so many replies, thanks a ton. I should have explained what I meant by maintenance discipline though. Whereas before discipline was on a case by case basis, now in addition to that she gets the hell spanked out of her every two days whether she did anything or not. Before she would go anywhere from a few days to a week or more between spankings, so now that she knows she doesn't have to act out to get one then she doesn't.
Stay cool folks.


Ya know it's funny, if I feel like I'd a spanking.....I ask rather than acting like a 12 year old.

If he chooses to not indulge me, I remind myself that I agreed to be the submissive person in this relationship and accept his decision.


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RE: Maintenance Discipline - 3/26/2012 5:45:19 PM   
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Status: offline 		Like we said....she's ruling the coop.

In our relationship we can sometimes go weeks and months without any kind of play whatsoever. You don't see me acting up and throwing a temper tantrum like a 5 year old or breaking and entering into a room and causing damage to equipment because I'm not getting it. I act like an adult and know we're both just busy or life is just taking a different turn right now.

Your girl is definitely either not an adult or has some mental issues. It's beyond being a brat.


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RE: Maintenance Discipline - 3/26/2012 7:21:57 PM   
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I also receive maintenance spankings--now, more so on a monthly basis, but more often when I was in a relationship. Most of the time, my Sir is happy to administer them--he enjoys it. (and I won't lie, so do I) He has often said that a generally good boy who needs a maintenance spanking now and then need only politely ask for one. Any other reasons for corrective measures will also be addressed, but if he believes that I'm deliberately pushing his buttons or trying to manipulate him to get what I want, he has made it clear that I'll end up spending some time sitting in the closet, with no attention from him whatsoever. He's never had to do that.

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RE: Maintenance Discipline - 3/26/2012 8:01:46 PM   
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Status: offline 		I believe I would have gagged her and chained her somewhere naked until my work was done and afterwards explained that although she is valuable to you she can not destroy other areas of your life. maintain control

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RE: Maintenance Discipline - 3/26/2012 10:21:05 PM   
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Were it me with a submissive that did that, the repercussions would NOT include giving him more attention. It would be something that he would NOT like and it would NOT involve giving him any further attention until after the discipline was finished. Then after the discipline time was over, we'd discuss what he learned, if anything, from it and how he would insure that the behavior would not be repeated. If he kept repeating it after that, he would be shown the door.


I totally agree with this.

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RE: Maintenance Discipline - 3/26/2012 10:28:42 PM   
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Status: offline 		That is often what the sub wants, and I have seen them go to any length to get it. Its funny how they try little things to see where the dominant's head is.

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RE: Maintenance Discipline - 3/27/2012 1:42:46 AM   
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Status: offline 		If she did that to me i'd be so pissed off, i'd tell her either she better get out of my sight right now, and i am not kidding, or to pack her things and get out. I wouldn't at all tolerate that kind of disrespect. That would be my "punishment" for her.

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RE: Maintenance Discipline - 3/27/2012 2:55:30 AM   
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ORIGINAL: Wisdomseeker
Wow, I didn't expect so many replies, thanks a ton. I should have explained what I meant by maintenance discipline though. Whereas before discipline was on a case by case basis, now in addition to that she gets the hell spanked out of her every two days whether she did anything or not. Before she would go anywhere from a few days to a week or more between spankings, so now that she knows she doesn't have to act out to get one then she doesn't.
Stay cool folks.


Whoa, no explanations necessary as we already worked out that she now has a regular routine of getting exactly what she wants from you.

Tell me; you think spankings, and erotic pain in general is actually a punishment to a masochist? 'Cause she (and we) can see it's being lapped up as a reward. Scoreboard says you're losing the big game (of control) a hundred to nothin' when you reward her like this for behaving atrociously.

Focus.

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RE: Maintenance Discipline - 3/27/2012 3:06:32 AM   
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RE: Maintenance Discipline - 3/27/2012 3:45:09 AM   
Focus50


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Focus.

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RE: Maintenance Discipline - 3/27/2012 5:53:46 AM   
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Status: offline 		She unplugged your computer? What is she, three years old? Sounds like she needs a job, not a spanking. She's bored

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RE: Maintenance Discipline - 3/27/2012 6:14:46 AM   
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I should have explained what I meant by maintenance discipline though. Whereas before discipline was on a case by case basis, now in addition to that she gets the hell spanked out of her every two days whether she did anything or not. Before she would go anywhere from a few days to a week or more between spankings, so now that she knows she doesn't have to act out to get one then she doesn't.



What you've effectively said here is that your sub has you well trained. She's trained you to give her what she wants when she wants it.

What you're doing is analogous to a parent giving a child a handful of candy each time the child misbehaves. Candy is not a punishment. It's a reward. And in your sub's case, spankings are not a punishment. They're a reward. So giving her spankings is not punishment. Refraining from spanking her would be a punishment. Or perhaps you should find some alternative form of punishment that would achieve the desired result.

BTW, punishment is best done immediately following the bad behavior. If it's not directly connected to any behavior, it's not likely to improve discipline. So the whole concept of "maintenance discipline" isn't likely to work. As a child, we would receive "maintenance spankings". So I learned to go ahead and misbehave (in fact, I misbehaved even more), since I was going to get a spanking regardless of whether I misbehaved or not. Since I was going to get spanked anyway, I figure that I may as well earn the spanking.

If both of you are happy, then there's no need to change what's going on in your relationship. Just realize that she is the one who is steering the ship, not you. To me, what you have sounds more like a relationship between play partners. It doesn't sound like it qualifies as a D/s relationship.

Correction: It DOES sound like a D/s relationship. The only problem is that you're confused about which of you is the "D" and which is the "s".

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