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ORIGINAL: Wisdomseeker

Wow, I didn't expect so many replies, thanks a ton. I should have explained what I meant by maintenance discipline though. Whereas before discipline was on a case by case basis, now in addition to that she gets the hell spanked out of her every two days whether she did anything or not. Before she would go anywhere from a few days to a week or more between spankings, so now that she knows she doesn't have to act out to get one then she doesn't.
Stay cool folks.

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ORIGINAL: ultimatedomme

I love the term maintenance discipline for how absurd it sounds both in name and in practice. Straight up, shouldn't the idea of discipline in this sense be something a submissive would rather want to avoid? If he or she ain't trying to avoid it, it ain't discipline.

"Hey (pet name for sub inserted here), I know you haven't broke any rules or anything like that, but i'm going to discipline you anyway to like you know, teach you to remember your place and all sorts of other nonsense."

C'mon man.

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ORIGINAL: Wisdomseeker
Because of this she just escalated her misbehavior until the next day while I was working she jimmied the door open, sauntered in, unplugged my pc and ran off. This made me livid beyond livid and it took all I had not to go past my own rules when disciplining her.

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ORIGINAL: pghays04
This discipline is to maintain the dynamic of the relationship, hence maintenance discipline, a practice that makes sense to me.

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ORIGINAL: crazyml

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ORIGINAL: Wisdomseeker
Because of this she just escalated her misbehavior until the next day while I was working she jimmied the door open, sauntered in, unplugged my pc and ran off. This made me livid beyond livid and it took all I had not to go past my own rules when disciplining her.

What the fuck? She respects you so little that she's willing to potentially fuck up something you're working on to get attention?

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ORIGINAL: Killerangel

It would have been nice to have this information up front although I have to say that people seemed to have nailed down what the maintenance discipline was. Just as a general rule, if you're talking about something and leave things out, people will fill in the gaps.

Yeah, dude, you're not getting it. Spanking the hell out of her is what flips her buttons so she gets what she wants. I would wager if you ever stop paying attention to her in other ways you'll find the brattiness start to surface again too. She's got your number big time. You're both getting what you want, great, heres the thing which other people are trying to tell you too. It seems to work to give her what she wants which also makes you happy...but it's not discipline. You're not addressing the behavior problems guy. It IS like giving her a big old handful of candy every other day. It's not taking care of her issues though, and you calling it something other than what it is causes further cloudiness. You do honestly seem to believe that you're in control and have addressed the situation.

Let me try to explain it differently, we tried the candy thing, I'm not sure you're getting it. So there's a teen who wants to drive the family car and throws a fit because Mom/Dad says he can't. The teen whines, wastes their time by interrupting constantly to complain more, and finally breaks some dishes. The parents shrug and say "We don't know what to do, we can't live with our son whining, getting in our way, and making messes, we'll give him the use of the car." Just to make sure he stays happy, they give him the car every other day. Son and parents are both happy, they've solved the problem....right? Sure, but son has learned that to get what he wants he whines, gets in the way and breaks dishes. When another situation comes up where he wants something different or he decides every other day with the car isn't cutting it, he follows what he has learned will get his parents to give him what he wants.

Does that make sense to you? It's an illusion that you are controlling her. You gave her exactly what she wanted. Here's the thing though go ahead and disregard all of this if you are happy and love how things are. I'm no one to tell you how to run your relationship. If the two of you are blissfully happy with how this functions then great. If you don't mind giving her exactly what she wants for the rest of your time together or pay a price...great! Carry on. I seriously have no problems with what works for the two of you but see it for what it is.

Let me blow your mind further. Maintenance discipline might actually work as discipline on someone like me, I detest making my partner unhappy and would cringe at pulling the stuff your girl does. I don't like physical punishment. In my case, it would be discipline...not candy or the use of a car. It would be you doing something I didn't like to change my behavior.

Here's another thing, she seems to need it, you - not so much although I could be wrong. What happens the first time you miss a discipline appt where you give Missy exactly what she wants? Oh, darn, look at her being a brat again. There she goes. Do you honestly want to live in a situation where you have to fill a role as regular as clockwork so your fully adult woman doesn't go off the rails? What you have described as how she behaves...utterly unacceptable. That is not normal adult behavior. So you do not have the luxury my friend of ever missing a maintenance spanking or you might have some consequences. I'd not want to live that way, but that's just me. What happens when you're on a trip, do you come home to find the house in a shambles because she's been 'bad'? How about if you're sick for a while? Or just sick and tired of spanking her? Because you never addressed the underlying problem, you have a situation that hinges on an external modifier....not an internal one. So you have to keep performing or risk your system falling apart at some point when life throws you a curve ball.

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ORIGINAL: MsSylverdawn
ok Im doing this so you will not run into my office and pull out my comptuer cord.