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RE: advice - 3/25/2012 6:53:57 AM   
RedMagic1


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ORIGINAL: uwillcry

DarkSteven, i am not Ms Himes Dom, but i am her friend in the real world. I have no doubt in my mind that if i wanted her i could claim her (she wont admit that though, stubborn filly)
I would never disrespect or harm Ms Hime and she knows that. I just wish she would have come to me first as opposed to asking everyone here> but it is encouraging to note other people are offering her sound advice

If you're her friend in the real world, why didn't you send her an email or call her on the phone, instead of posting on a message board?

You are cyberpissing on her leg. Marking your territory in front of the assembled internet throng.

Maybe she posted on a message board instead of coming to you first because she wanted advice from people more removed from the situation.

Edited to add: Ah, I see I'm not the only one who "enjoyed" your post. For the record, I think the ladies who posted above me have good points that you should take on board. You're not looking handsome right now.

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RE: advice - 3/25/2012 7:04:10 AM   
uwillcry


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Status: offline 		now just a minute people........ you are jumping to conclusions that are not correct.
not that i should justify my actions, but yes i have contacted Ms Hime this morning, and i am only responding to her query on here like everyone else. What you are reading into as condensing is a dialogue between 2 people who know each other well.
I am sure when shes ready Ms Hime will explain that she is not offended by anything i have said (well maybe the part about the stubborn filly).
So back off.. Its her post stop making it about me.
There are times when it is all about me, but this isnt it

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RE: advice - 3/25/2012 7:05:42 AM   
GreedyTop


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RE: advice - 3/25/2012 7:07:32 AM   
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ORIGINAL: uwillcry

now just a minute people........ you are jumping to conclusions that are not correct.
not that i should justify my actions, but yes i have contacted Ms Hime this morning, and i am only responding to her query on here like everyone else. What you are reading into as condensing is a dialogue between 2 people who know each other well.
I am sure when shes ready Ms Hime will explain that she is not offended by anything i have said (well maybe the part about the stubborn filly).
So back off.. Its her post stop making it about me.
There are times when it is all about me, but this isnt it


Do you think we don't know how to present as a friend? Do you think that we don't know or understand what a loving friend would say in public or not?

Now, you wait just a minute. If so many saw what you said as questionable and rude and the op already has some self esteem issues... I would recommend her finding new people to discuss her issues with. Those that would know better how to enhance the good in her rather than enhance the actual issue.

And this post and the other I made are 'for' the op!


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RE: advice - 3/25/2012 7:09:39 AM   
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"ah you hartless bastard i hear you say", only after the post as i knew she was out
now enough!

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RE: advice - 3/25/2012 7:10:36 AM   
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RE: advice - 3/25/2012 7:14:24 AM   
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ORIGINAL: uwillcry

after my first post
"ah you hartless bastard i hear you say", only after the post as i knew she was out
now enough!



LOL

For fucks sake, do you really think you can dom anyone on this board? Because you come across as a moron who thinks he can.

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RE: advice - 3/25/2012 7:14:48 AM   
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ORIGINAL: uwillcry

after my first post
"ah you hartless bastard i hear you say", only after the post as i knew she was out
now enough!


Your profile is one fine example of dominance. You will break and abuse good looking sluts. You don't sound like a dominant I would recommend to even a strong submissive, much less one struggling with 'anything'.


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RE: advice - 3/25/2012 7:17:23 AM   
RedMagic1


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ORIGINAL: uwillcry
So back off.

Heh. You'll have just as much success dominating this thread as you have dominating her. You stubborn filly, you.

Maybe stop posting and let her have a conversation with people who don't have a personal investment in fucking her? Or, keep on "justifying your actions" and see what happens. This will be my last post about anything you say on this thread, but I have a pretty good idea how it will go down if you keep on explaining how inoffensive you are being to her.

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RE: advice - 3/25/2012 7:19:54 AM   
uwillcry


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Status: offline 		Right as amusing as it is reading your posts. YOu are all missing an important point.
I am fond of this lady and i care deeply for her. And it pains me to see someone as naturally submisisve and gifted as she is, suffering. It is her Pseudo Dom you should have a go at, not me. I have never found the need to resort to bullying or emotional blackmail.
And this is nothing that i havent discussed with the talented Ms Hime.
Its her post. Talk some sense into her.

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RE: advice - 3/25/2012 7:25:08 AM   
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ORIGINAL: uwillcry

Right as amusing as it is reading your posts. YOu are all missing an important point.
I am fond of this lady and i care deeply for her. And it pains me to see someone as naturally submisisve and gifted as she is, suffering. It is her Pseudo Dom you should have a go at, not me. I have never found the need to resort to bullying or emotional blackmail.
And this is nothing that i havent discussed with the talented Ms Hime.
Its her post. Talk some sense into her.


Okay... Ms Hime... build yourself before you allow so called friends and dominants to tare you down. Don't allow those that are friends to talk down about your dominant in a manner in which they would benefit from the outcome.

Go quickly to get some emotional support from someone that is either professional or a friend that could have no agenda. Look for red flags in friends and a dominant and all I have seen here, should be red flags to you.

Good luck out there.


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RE: advice - 3/25/2012 7:27:57 AM   
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Status: offline 		notices that the friend still hasnt addressed my post asking him if doesn't see how disrespecting her relationship IS disrespecting her...

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RE: advice - 3/25/2012 7:34:06 AM   
uwillcry


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Status: offline 		well you are of course right, disrespecting her relationship is disrespecting her.
But is something wrong if its done for the right reason?

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RE: advice - 3/25/2012 7:35:52 AM   
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Status: offline 		Greedy top, you are stunning!!

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RE: advice - 3/25/2012 7:37:00 AM   
RedMagic1


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ORIGINAL: GreedyTop

notices that the friend still hasnt addressed my post asking him if doesn't see how disrespecting her relationship IS disrespecting her...

It's one thing to say something in private. In fact, I had a friend who would call me to complain about her boyfriend problems, so women sometimes initiate these conversations. But to insult both a woman and her dominant in public, is just not done in my world.

Incidentally, with that female friend, I would ask her, "Have you told him this?" and she would answer, "No, I don't want to hurt his feelings." I finally laid down the law and said, "You can't tell me anything about him that you haven't told him first." She barely spoke to me for maybe six weeks. Then one day she said, "He and I are communicating much better now," and we started talking again.

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RE: advice - 3/25/2012 7:38:38 AM   
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ORIGINAL: uwillcry
well you are of course right, disrespecting her relationship is disrespecting her.
But is something wrong if its done for the right reason?

Dude, in this case, that's a no brainer. Yes it's still wrong. You've been wrong for this whole thread. And frankly, either we need to get back on topic, or it should be split so that the OP can get her concerns addressed instead getting by this crap that your insensitive post started.

EDIT: Added quote for clarity of who I was addressing

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RE: advice - 3/25/2012 7:42:22 AM   
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ORIGINAL: CaptJosh

Dude, in this case, that's a no brainer. Yes it's still wrong. You've been wrong for this whole thread. And frankly, either we need to get back on topic, or it should be split so that the OP can get her concerns addressed instead getting by this crap that your insensitive post started. Enough already.


I agree, except that I don't think this is as much a hijack as you might. I see this as an example of the types of people the OP is friends with and might need to consider that they aren't doing her any favors. That is the topic in a sense. Her self esteem issues. With friends like this, she most likely won't get to an emotionally healthy place. While I don't believe in coddling someone... I don't believe anything this guy has projected, as well has his dominant bravado, has shown anything but... she needs better support systems.


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RE: advice - 3/25/2012 7:42:50 AM   
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ORIGINAL: ShibariHime
but this "thing" is something that i know will damage my self esteem.
This could be because i dont know my Dom well enough to trust they will be pleased with me afterwards,


I would not be willing to damage my self esteem for anyone I don't trust enough to be emotionally invested in.

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RE: advice - 3/25/2012 7:44:16 AM   
RedMagic1


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ORIGINAL: CaptJosh
either we need to get back on topic, or it should be split so that the OP can get her concerns addressed

As Lockit already pointed out, this "detour" is very much on topic.

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RE: advice - 3/25/2012 7:47:22 AM   
uwillcry


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Status: offline 		For the final time folks
i am not the one causing her a problem !!!!!!!
i am sure she will be along shortly to comment

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