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RE: Red flags? - 4/4/2012 7:22:33 PM

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not willing to meet in the real time no refrences not willing to play in a public place or have some safty measures in place

Wow. I would raise all your red flags then. The concept of references is ridiculous to me and playing in public has never been of any interest. I can see these things not being compatible between people but red flags? A lot of good folks would be ruled out for reasons that don't really make them seem suspicious at all .......luci

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RE: Red flags? - 4/4/2012 8:02:07 PM

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not willing to meet in the real time no refrences not willing to play in a public place or have some safty measures in place

Wow. I would raise all your red flags then. The concept of references is ridiculous to me and playing in public has never been of any interest. I can see these things not being compatible between people but red flags? A lot of good folks would be ruled out for reasons that don't really make them seem suspicious at all .......luci

Have to agree not a fan of public play, references that's just absurd! What you need some one to explain to you that I play well with others??? If your not smart enuff to figure that out for YourDamnSelf your not for me!

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RE: Red flags? - 4/5/2012 6:39:50 AM

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HEY! What's wrong with being slutty?

I know huh.

Funny story, a girl sent me a cmail, with her yahoo email. Gave her phone number out when I emailed her back, wanted to meet and go back to my place immediately, if you know what I mean. Turns out she wasn't a Nigerian scammer she was just horny.

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RE: Red flags? - 4/5/2012 6:44:11 AM

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Red flags:

* inability to hold a consistant conversation
* inability to give a straight reply to a simple question (yes/no)
* telling me im handsome when i dont have profile pictures ...
* professing interest in getting to know a potential new Dominant by having "online stories" exchanged.
* playing a submissive role at first contacts.
* being unwilling to have contacts outside of website.
* not knowing anyone in the BDSM scene and making no attempts to get to know them.

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RE: Red flags? - 4/6/2012 9:26:23 AM

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The Gift of Fear has some good ones. Some don't seem to make sense without further explanation; I have the book on order.

De Becker's book presents a paradox of genre: described as a "how-to book that reads like a thriller."[1] By finding patterns in stories of violence and abuse, de Becker seeks to highlight the inherent predictability of violence. The book explores various settings where violence may be found—the workplace, the home, the school, dating—and describes what de Becker calls pre-incident indicators (PINS). When properly identified these PINS can help violence be avoided; when violence is unavoidable, de Becker claims it can usually be predicted and better understood. The Gift of Fear also describes de Becker’s MOSAIC Threat Assessment Systems, which have been employed by various celebrities and government agencies to predict and prevent violence.

PINS (Pre-Incident Indicators)

- Forced Teaming. This is when a person tries to pretend that he has something in common with a person and that they are in the same predicament when that isn't really true.
- Charm and Niceness. This is being polite and friendly to a person in order to manipulate him or her.
- Too many details. If a person is lying they will add excessive details to make themselves sound more credible.
- Typecasting. An insult to get a person who would otherwise ignore one to talk to one.[clarification needed]
- Loan Sharking. Giving unsolicited help and expecting favors in return.
- The Unsolicited Promise. A promise to do (or not do) something when no such promise is asked for; this usually means that such a promise will be broken. For example: an unsolicited, "I promise I'll leave you alone after this," usually means you will not be left alone. Similarly, an unsolicited "I promise I won't hurt you" usually means the person intends to hurt you.
- Discounting the Word "No". Refusing to accept rejection.

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