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RE: Any suggestions on how to abuse/humiliate my new sl... - 4/8/2012 3:14:53 PM   
OsideGirl


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ORIGINAL: JeffBC
In my opinion the mistake made here by the "you're not a master" crew was that they felt, for some odd reason, that their definition of master meant anything at all in your relationship.
Ya know, you're right Jeff. If it get their rocks off for her to call him master, it's not really up to us to say. I think from a sub female point it's just a knee jerk reaction to so many guys using the term as a baseball bat. I'll have to stop and think twice about the next time that term comes up.


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RE: Any suggestions on how to abuse/humiliate my new sl... - 4/8/2012 3:41:47 PM   
Focus50


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Thanks for the responses.

I like being called Master and she likes calling me it. I am not asking anyone else to call me it.

I am a teen. I am 19. However, age is just a number.I am very smart and mature. I have met people that are twice my age that act like children and I have met people younger than me that act like mature adults.

Thanks DomRidersSwitch. I will check that link out.

My girl means the world to me. She enjoys and begs to be abused, hurt and humiliated. Just because I like doing those things to her does not mean I don't love and care about her.


Mostly, this is a pretty decent/mature post - 'cept for that one paragraph (uh-ohhhh)....

Age is NOT just a number; you're totally disrespecting everyone who's sacrificed to live decently, build a home and raise a family etc. You have no concept of truly doing without to provide for your family, to work long hours over many years while suffocating under debt and committment to a greater family good. Only for one day, they morph into ungrateful teens. Fortunately, that's mostly a (painful) phase....

Despite your self-proclaimed maturity, you do what teenagers typically do and wave an airy, dismissive hand and scoff - that age is just a number blah blah.... For those older, you only see the degenerate 40yo addict living in the park, not the dozens of boring 40yo's keeping their heads down and noses clean trying to provide for their family. You don't see them because they're always there and don't stand out - unlike that degenerate....

None of us are asking for or expecting a medal. But none of us deserve your typical teenage dismissive disrespect. Me, I think you're normal for your age - and not ready to be making decisions for two. So I pushed you to see.... It's nothing personal against the individual you. You're at CM mostly because you can. The true test will be if you're still doing this in 10 years, or (for a teenager) in 2-3 months....

Focus.

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RE: Any suggestions on how to abuse/humiliate my new sl... - 4/8/2012 3:51:13 PM   
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ORIGINAL: DaKid8

Hey everyone. Well I am pretty new to being a Master and I just got my first slave
about two months ago. I have started to get her into pain, abuse and humiliation.
Does anyone have any suggestions on things I should do? Any tips?


Show her this post.


I apologize for the snarkiness in my response, and will try my best to refrain from
such behavior in the future.

If no one has yet to link you, here is a pretty extensive list of books that you might
find an interest in reading. Best of luck to the both of you.
http://www.collarchat.com/m_1726118/tm.htm

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RE: Any suggestions on how to abuse/humiliate my new sl... - 4/9/2012 3:26:48 AM   
Focus50


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ORIGINAL: poise


quote:

ORIGINAL: poise


quote:

ORIGINAL: DaKid8

Hey everyone. Well I am pretty new to being a Master and I just got my first slave
about two months ago. I have started to get her into pain, abuse and humiliation.
Does anyone have any suggestions on things I should do? Any tips?


Show her this post.


I apologize for the snarkiness in my response, and will try my best to refrain from
such behavior in the future.


Damn girl, that was 4 days ago - not to mention the poor form of quoting yourself...!

Haz you been a tossin' n a turnin' nights? ;)

Focus.

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RE: Any suggestions on how to abuse/humiliate my new sl... - 4/9/2012 8:57:07 AM   
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ORIGINAL: Focus50
Damn girl, that was 4 days ago - not to mention the poor form of quoting yourself...!

Haz you been a tossin' n a turnin' nights? ;)

Focus.

It was poorer form to allow my comment to remain as is, after realizing I answered him as
though he were one of the many that come here looking for a good wank.
It's a habit I am hoping to break. Wish me luck!

Besides, I am quotable, darn it! Even if I'm the only one who thinks so.

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RE: Any suggestions on how to abuse/humiliate my new sl... - 4/9/2012 12:30:21 PM   
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ORIGINAL: poise


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ORIGINAL: Focus50
Damn girl, that was 4 days ago - not to mention the poor form of quoting yourself...!

Haz you been a tossin' n a turnin' nights? ;)

Focus.

It was poorer form to allow my comment to remain as is, after realizing I answered him as
though he were one of the many that come here looking for a good wank.
It's a habit I am hoping to break. Wish me luck!

Besides, I am quotable, darn it! Even if I'm the only one who thinks so.



I think we all are guilty of thinking that. I know I am.

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RE: Any suggestions on how to abuse/humiliate my new sl... - 4/9/2012 5:43:12 PM   
kalikshama


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Status: offline 		I like Dark Stephen's definition of Master from another thread in this section:

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Oh boy. That's a tricky one. I know one man I consider a Master who imposes his fantasies on his slaves and play partners and has them wear chains around his house. I know some wankers who say they are masters who say that women will never wear panties around them. Imposition of fantasies is not by itself a disqualifier.

My own ideas (feel free to accept them or not) is that a Master will engage you on multiple levels. He will try to figure out what makes you tick, what your strengths are and your weaknesses, and work to use your strengths and reduce your weaknesses. He will think of what is best for you, best for him, and best for the two of you together. He will be someone whose lead you will WANT to follow.

The above Master once told me that his plans for his slave included teaching her about money management, getting her to quit smoking, and getting her in shape. He had a clear idea of where he wanted her to be, and he pushed her to get her there.


Using this definition, I don't get a Master vibe from the OP, but that of a Dom or a Top.

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RE: Any suggestions on how to abuse/humiliate my new sl... - 4/9/2012 10:53:33 PM   
Focus50


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ORIGINAL: poise

It was poorer form to allow my comment to remain as is, after realizing I answered him as
though he were one of the many that come here looking for a good wank.
It's a habit I am hoping to break. Wish me luck!

Errrrm, no such wishes. Not a fan of sub types punishing/disciplining themselves 'cause they inevitably go too far. Or were you actually under instructions...?


quote:

Besides, I am quotable, darn it! Even if I'm the only one who thinks so.

Knock it off with the fishing, girl, ay...!

I'll take your signature eloquence and elegance all day, any day.

And a dozen times that back in the day when the Heather/Hannah "phenomena" had a few too many sheepish regulars using the "fuck" adjective every other word.

PS. I think Rule #88 has about 85 too many rules ahead of it - 'least for this man....

Focus.

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RE: Any suggestions on how to abuse/humiliate my new sl... - 4/10/2012 12:05:11 AM   
DaKid8


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Status: offline 		There has some good things posted on here and alot of bullshit and or irrelevant things.
Thank you to those of you that have posted good advice, tips etc.
I will ignore the rest.

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RE: Any suggestions on how to abuse/humiliate my new sl... - 4/10/2012 6:29:54 AM   
Focus50


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There has some good things posted on here and alot of bullshit and or irrelevant things.
Thank you to those of you that have posted good advice, tips etc.
I will ignore the rest.


You're a teenager; by default of chaotic hormones, you'll be ignoring anything you don't wanna hear - regardless of the truth or wisdom therein.

I'm confident my wallet's safe on you not being here in 3 months. This week's rage is next week's yawn kinda mental state all teenagers go through. Prove me wrong....

Focus.

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RE: Any suggestions on how to abuse/humiliate my new sl... - 4/10/2012 6:51:19 AM   
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I'm confident my wallet's safe on you not being here in 3 months. This week's rage is next week's yawn kinda mental state all teenagers go through.

You may be right about his forum participation. Beyond that, well, he's 19 years old and he joined in June 2009. You see what I'm saying? I bet he'll be doing BDSM, or wanting to do it, for the rest of his life.

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RE: Any suggestions on how to abuse/humiliate my new sl... - 4/10/2012 2:14:00 PM   
DaKid8


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Status: offline 		Yeah. I have read quite a bit on the fourms but I have not posted on them until recently. I have been interested in BDSM since a young age and I will guarentee you I will be here in 3 months and you will lose your wallet if you bet it.


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RE: Any suggestions on how to abuse/humiliate my new sl... - 4/10/2012 2:54:27 PM   
Focus50


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ORIGINAL: Focus50
I'm confident my wallet's safe on you not being here in 3 months. This week's rage is next week's yawn kinda mental state all teenagers go through.

You may be right about his forum participation. Beyond that, well, he's 19 years old and he joined in June 2009. You see what I'm saying? I bet he'll be doing BDSM, or wanting to do it, for the rest of his life.


That's a brave bet - not that I'd bet against. The real interests in my life go on, regardless....

Me, I'm wondering how many teenage males come to these sites and embrace their submissive side (compared to teen doms). Dominant - the one in charge; has the power; gives the orders; gets what he wants etc. Not too intoxicating for a teenager, ay - when all you've gotta do is tick the dom box in posting a profile....

Speaking of profiling, I like his preferred screen pic. Seen that theme before.... ;)

Focus.

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RE: Any suggestions on how to abuse/humiliate my new sl... - 4/10/2012 3:09:29 PM   
Focus50


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ORIGINAL: DaKid8

Yeah. I have read quite a bit on the fourms but I have not posted on them until recently. I have been interested in BDSM since a young age and I will guarentee you I will be here in 3 months and you will lose your wallet if you bet it.


We'll see - you're on the radar now....

And bravado is the teen substitute for confidence and competence.

I look forward to you sharing your knowledge and wisdom in the coming months, and on things that aren't just about you.

Fair dinkum, my prejudices are without limit or shame, ay....

Focus.

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RE: Any suggestions on how to abuse/humiliate my new sl... - 4/10/2012 5:35:22 PM   
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Status: offline 		Well yeah, but I just love it that you use the phrase "fair dinkum" in a sentence... seriously. :)

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RE: Any suggestions on how to abuse/humiliate my new sl... - 4/10/2012 7:32:33 PM   
DaKid8


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ORIGINAL: Focus50


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ORIGINAL: DaKid8

Yeah. I have read quite a bit on the fourms but I have not posted on them until recently. I have been interested in BDSM since a young age and I will guarentee you I will be here in 3 months and you will lose your wallet if you bet it.


We'll see - you're on the radar now....

And bravado is the teen substitute for confidence and competence.

I look forward to you sharing your knowledge and wisdom in the coming months, and on things that aren't just about you.

Fair dinkum, my prejudices are without limit or shame, ay....

Focus.

quote:

fair dinkum"


My bravado is not a substitue for my confidence or competence, it just goes with them.

I would be happy to share my knowledge and wisdom with you. Maybe even give you a tip here and there
I know a bit about most things and alot about somethings.

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RE: Any suggestions on how to abuse/humiliate my new sl... - 4/10/2012 10:12:56 PM   
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Status: offline 		I'm interested to learn what tips he has to give to Focus.

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RE: Any suggestions on how to abuse/humiliate my new sl... - 4/11/2012 5:24:15 AM   
Focus50


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My bravado is not a substitue for my confidence or competence, it just goes with them.

Not really, not for a teen. Assured confidence comes through the experience of meeting life's challenges. While most teens are choc-a-bloc full of self-confidence, that lack of life experience means we're really talking about bravado. In relative terms, you haven't lived long enough to know much more than the bravado inherent in teens. Just keep living and experience will take care of itself.


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I would be happy to share my knowledge and wisdom with you. Maybe even give you a tip here and there
I know a bit about most things and alot about somethings.

I'm a whopping 57yrs old (I know, I know....) and I can say *with confidence* that I know a bit about most things and a lot about some things, too. Pretty sure we're not running neck n neck, but.... Still, I'm not perfect <collective gasp> (ah lah "The Simpsons") - there's a local teenager I call upon when my computer's being a tool, and to recently sort out/set up my new tv and blu ray.

So I'm not quite advocating all teens be put in stasis until their mid 30's. Pleasant fantasy that it is.... ;)

Focus.

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RE: Any suggestions on how to abuse/humiliate my new sl... - 4/11/2012 5:36:19 AM   
Focus50


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Well yeah, but I just love it that you use the phrase "fair dinkum" in a sentence... seriously. :)


All my perpetual pearls of wisdom and *that's* what you lock your cross-hairs onto...!?!

Yet you say nothing when I dumped on you with that Mary Poppins comment...! (bottom of page 2)

Geeezus, life doth suck.... eth!

Focus.

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RE: Any suggestions on how to abuse/humiliate my new sl... - 4/11/2012 6:01:32 AM   
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Status: offline 		You know, I don't think any of the comments were out of bounds.

When you ask a bunch of strangers the most basic things about inflicting "pain, abuse and humiliation" upon someone you are supposed to be in charge of, someone you are supposed to master . . . well, how could you expect serious replies to a dumb-ass situation like that. Might as well say "I'm gonna' perform brain surgery . . . anyone have any advice on how to do it, it's my first time."

Tie someone up wrong, do nerve damage. Beat them in the wrong place with the wrong things, permanent damage. Humiliate them without a clue about the psychology behind it, and you will lose a submissive and gain a therapy bill and a lawsuit.

. . . don't be a fucking idiot.

And to all you wishy washy fuckers that did an about face because all this politically correct label crap was posted are actually betraying the cause of SSC because you are encouraging the OPs actions on his potential victim. For christ's sake OP, read a fucking book dude. You aren't gonna' find shortcut in the road to knowledge and some magic Master's manual in 25 words or less in a reply on a BDSM forum.

Next time you plan to inflict "pain, abuse and humiliation" upon someone without a clue about what you are doing, do us all a favor and don't tell us in advance. We will just wait to read about in the papers.

The reason you got the type of replies you did is because if you have to ask dumb-ass shit like this, you just aren't ready and shouldn't be doing it. Like poise and so many others originally said before they did an about face, go read a book.

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