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ORIGINAL: JeffBC

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ORIGINAL: Karmastic
wow, that's very deep!

I 'r smart like that :) Hopefully it helps to even things out for some of my stupid posts.

The thing that I DID work though was feeling like I don't quite belong here. Here's a little tip. If you found your way here you probably belong here. If you return, you are self-selecting to belong here. Something in the interaction between you and this site is bringing you here. Sure, you may have vanilla eyes right now. I still do in a lot of ways. But SOMETHING is bringing you here. Some of the subs are going to be seeing that thing, whatever it is, and grooving on it.

One more important point. By"here" I mean "BDSM-land" in general. I don't really think online is a great place for finding a partner. I would say that pretty much EVERYTHING here sounds very, very different than anything I've encountered personally in real life. I actually think of this place as "online BDSM" and I try to keep it carefully separate from "real life BDSM" in my head.