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RE: Dom Dropped - 6/7/2006 3:33:26 PM

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I wanna go too damn it. Noone ever let's me go riding. Sighs... guess I will have to buy a damn bike now. And where is my supreme pizza at??

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RE: Dom Dropped - 6/7/2006 4:39:01 PM

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Where is the after-care for the Dom?

I am afraid there isn't any....we are supposed to have mastered our emotions, etc., so i am afraid you have to get through it as best you can. I am sorry you are in this position, and I do sincerely hope you get things back together quickly...I need my opponents to argue with

Hang in there, babe, it will get better eventually.

Arpig <s> Wow, nice words coming from you. Thank you so much. I know we have had our differences in the past and I think it is really sweet of you to offer your kindness to me at this time. Oh and dont worry, your "opponent" will be strong again in no time <eg>

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RE: Dom Dropped - 6/7/2006 4:40:54 PM

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*giggles* Not to mention a nice piece of pecan pie.

Shhh that is our little secret! It's not like I stole your pie......hee hee

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RE: Dom Dropped - 6/7/2006 4:42:18 PM

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A,
The bike was only 50 bucks at Target, go get one! We can go riding together. I get lonely, besides that if someone hits me on Houston Lake, I wont die alone lol

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RE: Dom Dropped - 6/7/2006 4:44:38 PM

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No You said we would share it and I wound up getting chocolate...which is ok since I do love it.

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RE: Dom Dropped - 6/7/2006 4:49:55 PM

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we are supposed to have mastered our emotions, etc., so i am afraid you have to get through it as best you can. I

You know, Arpig, there are some subs reading this that may very well believe the above statement. They may say "If you can't master your own emotions, how are you to master me?" I would hope that there isnt a submissive who feels this way, but hey, with all the hoopla lately on the boards, I wouldnt be at all surprised to see a comment exactly like that.

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RE: Dom Dropped - 6/7/2006 4:50:41 PM

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if Master is not given after care then your slave is selling you short, there has never been a time, that after scene, i dont ask him how he is doing and how he is feeling, we hold each other, also after the scene if i am able i will get him drink and serve him
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RE: Dom Dropped - 6/7/2006 4:52:05 PM

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Hey look K... I am no longer vanilla status. *giggles* ..... and on the bike riding comment... Gee thanks... I thought you wanted me to come along for the stimulating conversation, not someone to die with you lol.

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RE: Dom Dropped - 6/7/2006 4:55:49 PM

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Hi slavejlb,
Pup never had a problem with asking if I wanted anything after a scene, he was very thoughtful that way. I think that the issue here is that I am expecting some kind of "something" from him and am not really getting it. I agree with whoever wrote that he may need time to come to grips with what has happened. Like I said, it wasnt something that either of us wanted, but was something that had to be done. I know that there are those who know the whole story who would disagree with my assessment, but that is what I believe and how I see it.

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RE: Dom Dropped - 6/7/2006 4:57:53 PM

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Hey look K... I am no longer vanilla status. *giggles* ..... and on the bike riding comment... Gee thanks... I thought you wanted me to come along for the stimulating conversation, not someone to die with you lol.

Ooooooh welcome to the boards NEWBIE! lmao! Ok ok, who says we cant a have stimulating conversation before we get hit by a ton of steel?

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RE: Dom Dropped - 6/7/2006 5:04:16 PM

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MoGa,
I hope the pain and heaviness of the break-up subsides somewhat for you soon.

Do something special for yourself everyday, no matter how little or simple.

When you are feeling you are coming back into your confindent self(because this too shall pass) remember the old saying...When one door closes another will open, it's all about the journey

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RE: Dom Dropped - 6/7/2006 5:07:01 PM

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I guess my question at this time is, what do you feel is the submissives responsibility at this point? I dont expect him to call to see if I am ok, but wouldnt you do this for someone you claimed to have cared about for 7 months? Why does it have to fall upon the Dominant one to be the forever, be all, end all, strong one? We didnt part in anger, in fact just the opposite. I know there are no set rules regarding this, but I would call him to see if he is doing ok, if I could or was allowed to.

I am sorry MistressOfGA...a parting is never easy whether it is on amicable terms or not. I am confused as to why you say you would call him if you could or was allowed to....if the answer is too personal to this, then forgive me.

Regardless as to what side of the slash we fall, we are all human with some degree of emotion attached to those around us. I could never just eradicate someone that has been a part of my daily life. I need to know he is doing ok not only because i still care, but for my own peace of mind as well. Closure isn't slamming a door and never looking back. It's tying all the loose ends up and moving on.

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RE: Dom Dropped - 6/7/2006 5:09:50 PM

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Hmmmm.... you make it sound so tempting K. Let me think about this for a second.... while the thought of steel hitting me was arousing for a split second.... I think I will have to pass on being crushed by some moron Georgia driver. (no offense to any Georgia people on here)

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RE: Dom Dropped - 6/7/2006 5:17:09 PM

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MoGa,
I hope the pain and heaviness of the break-up subsides somewhat for you soon.

Do something special for yourself everyday, no matter how little or simple.

When you are feeling you are coming back into your confindent self(because this too shall pass) remember the old saying...When one door closes another will open, it's all about the journey.

*Brightspot

Awww Thank you Brightspot. Your name fits you! I actually am doing something every day for me. I am riding my bike. I bought it initially to go bike riding with him, so it was very hard for me to get back on it (no pun intended) but once I did, I found I really am enjoying the wind in my face and the pain in my legs, as opposed to the one in my heart.

Champagnewishes, thank you also for your kind words. In many ways I think that this is what sets us apart from the V's (I can almost hear a big sigh from LA right now lol), but I do think (IMO) that because of the intensity, the "ownership" that we have with our submissives/slaves that we do feel that we should follow up a release with a phone call to make sure he/she is doing ok. *I* feel it is my responsibility to make sure he is doing ok. As far as why I cant call him, I really cant say. Let me just say that the line has been drawn in the sand by a higher power than myself and leave it at that.

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RE: Dom Dropped - 6/7/2006 5:34:05 PM

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As far as why I cant call him, I really cant say. Let me just say that the line has been drawn in the sand by a higher power than myself and leave it at that.

Well then you just go about the business of doing things for you and you alone....make yourself feel special...with no concern for anything else!

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RE: Dom Dropped - 6/7/2006 5:40:31 PM

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As far as why I cant call him, I really cant say. Let me just say that the line has been drawn in the sand by a higher power than myself and leave it at that.

Well then you just go about the business of doing things for you and you alone....make yourself feel special...with no concern for anything else!

Thank you for understanding. It is really hard at this point to make myself feel special, but each day it should get easier. It has only been a week.

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RE: Dom Dropped - 6/7/2006 7:46:09 PM

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"If you can't master your own emotions, how are you to master me?" I would hope that there isnt a submissive who feels this way, but hey, with all the hoopla lately on the boards, I wouldnt be at all surprised to see a comment exactly like that.

Oooh ooh ooh I know one!! It's the same one that called me a cold hearted bitch because I wouldn't be "friends" with him. He really got mad when I told him that my friends don't treat me like crap, freak me out at work, scream at me, then cause drama when I'm getting inspected by the government.

Gotta love a newbie...good or bad they absorb information from here.

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RE: Dom Dropped - 6/7/2006 7:49:43 PM

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As far as why I cant call him, I really cant say. Let me just say that the line has been drawn in the sand by a higher power than myself and leave it at that.

Are you trying to hint that he's a guest of the government or was he chasing cars too closely and got run over?

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RE: Dom Dropped - 6/7/2006 8:09:47 PM

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They may say "If you can't master your own emotions, how are you to master me?"

Hello A/all,

I make this comment, although the approach I use is.

"Why do you consider yourself "Dominant" when you cannot even control yourself?"

A person who gets upset and goes and cries and grieves in the other room until they recover and feel better and then move on and does other things is dealing with their emotions in a positive manner.

A person who beats their submissive half dead, kicks their pet, climbs into a clock tower and shoots college students, etc, because they are upset is not dealing with their emotions in a positive manner.

But then, I do not believe that "mastery of emotions" is a person who doesnt have any. I believe that mastery of emotions is found in the mental state where a person accepts they have emotions, deals with them, but does not allow them to control their actions.

As Peyton Quinn once wrote "Either you are in control of yourself, or somebody else is." (Bouncers Guide To Barroom Brawling)

Just me, usual caveats, etc.

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RE: Dom Dropped - 6/7/2006 8:10:50 PM

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As far as why I cant call him, I really cant say. Let me just say that the line has been drawn in the sand by a higher power than myself and leave it at that.

Are you trying to hint that he's a guest of the government or was he chasing cars too closely and got run over?