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Alecta -> RE: Would you do xxxxx? (4/9/2012 2:42:23 AM)
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I am rather surprised though that the "strip in public" one (rule #4) isn't gathering any attention. When we had that thread on collarme a while back it was roundly denounced as all kinds of evil and lunacy.
The actual rule was "whenever Master feels like it", which only makes it possibly a public display issue if Master ends up asking for it in public.
The list only really said that Master's in charge sexually, and that he, like any other man, wants the option of showing off his woman, that he wants her to be sexually available whenever he wants, that he likes anal and to take pictures of her, and that he wants to throw swap parties/orgies, at which he expects her to behave a certain way. And that for shits and giggles, he has a twisted sense of humour. And that the whole Master/slut thing is lodged in the bedroom-only part of his brain, not something he is applying to an actual relationship.
I say this as a woman, not a Domme, none of it was unreasonable. None of it was remarkable, even. A lot of guys want women who swallow and who're cool with swap parties or orgies. A lot of guys want their women to stop bitching and imposing rules on when or where they can get some, or take a pic. Admit it, we are, as a gender, stupidly anal on that part, no pun intended. A lot of people, men and women, like to have their partners "fight" for their affections and attentions. Hell, we all like to be wanted, to be shown that our partners want our love and body enough to compete for it, not just because it's available to them.
Would I be able to accept those rules? No, but that's because I very strongly prefer to be the one wearing the metaphorical pants and calling the shots. Would I be able to accept those rules if I were submissive and seeking that bedroom-orientated relation? Yes, though only with a Master whom I trust not to endanger us by demanding silly public displays liable to get us in real trouble, or endanger my health or sanity. Which is a moot point because if you don't trust the guy that much, why in the world would you accept him as your Master?
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A bit of a rant, but aren't we just a tad too serious about how a set of M/s rules should look? Rules are rules. They don't need to be creative. They don't need to be elaborate or trust/value building, they don't even need to be sensible, really, although we generally would like them to be, yes. Rules are things that are set out to be non-negotiable once in effect. You will do the dishes, or else. Rules, in a D/s situation (unlike sensible pre-negotiated conflict resolution guidelines), are a toy, like the whip. Some of it is instructional, some of it is just there to mess with you. It is a fun toy. Don't take the fun out of it.
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