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Bergen county Dom looking for sub female... - 4/11/2012 10:09:15 AM

DSchmertz32

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Good afternoon. I am a Dom male on here looking for a submissive female. Just wanted to say hello to everyone.

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RE: Bergen county Dom looking for sub female... - 4/11/2012 10:19:23 AM

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Welcome to the forums.

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RE: Bergen county Dom looking for sub female... - 4/11/2012 10:24:31 AM

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Thank you. Have a great day.

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RE: Bergen county Dom looking for sub female... - 4/11/2012 10:42:04 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: DSchmertz32

Good afternoon. I am a Dom male on here looking for a submissive female. Just wanted to say hello to everyone.

Hi!

You did make me smile the other day, when you decided to make your first(?) post on this site one where you told an attractive young dominant that her style of dominance was incorrect. Middle-aged dominant men who choose to lead with that, rather than, "Hey there, this is me," always make me happy.

(Are you middle aged? I haven't viewed your profile. Based on your first post, though, I'd place you at 45-50. I've been wrong before, plenty of times.)

At any rate, best of luck to you, and I hope you find your happiness and slake your lusts.

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RE: Bergen county Dom looking for sub female... - 4/11/2012 10:47:25 AM

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Surprisingly...I'm only 26!!!

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RE: Bergen county Dom looking for sub female... - 4/11/2012 10:48:16 AM

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LOL, see, wrong again! Not even my first time today!

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RE: Bergen county Dom looking for sub female... - 4/11/2012 11:06:42 AM

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RE: Bergen county Dom looking for sub female... - 4/11/2012 12:09:17 PM

DSchmertz32

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Thank you as well.

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RE: Bergen county Dom looking for sub female... - 4/11/2012 12:12:07 PM

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Question...I'm relatively new to the scene as a Dom, but I want to know if it's acceptable to ask for a "tribute" or something of the like. I would love feedback.

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RE: Bergen county Dom looking for sub female... - 4/11/2012 12:16:05 PM

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This subject comes up a lot, but usually in sub men complaining.

You can do whatever you and the girl you want to play with agree to. As to what is commonly done, Domme women ask for tribute a lot more often than Dom men, because many sub men seem to get off on it, and few sub women seem to.

I have said on here before, in 15 or so years of play, I have had one play mate that demanded tribute. He did not ask for money. He had a list of very specific small gifts - his brand of tobacco, his favorite snacks or drinks, ect - very reasonable, money wise, it was not about the money, it was about the action. I enjoyed it, and since it was his idea, I assume he did too.

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RE: Bergen county Dom looking for sub female... - 4/11/2012 12:16:33 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: DSchmertz32

Question...I'm relatively new to the scene as a Dom, but I want to know if it's acceptable
to ask for a "tribute" or something of the like. I would love feedback.

It only needs to be acceptable to those that find an interest in sending you one.
You don't need my permission to work your relationships the way you see fit.
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RE: Bergen county Dom looking for sub female... - 4/11/2012 12:28:55 PM

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Thank you for the feedback. I had asked because I used to be very submissive. However my vanilla fiancé wanted me to be more dominant with her...which led to my Dom side being released. Anyway, my point is, when I was more of a submissive I noticed many Domme's requiring a tribute in one way or another.

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RE: Bergen county Dom looking for sub female... - 4/11/2012 1:19:01 PM

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Question...I'm relatively new to the scene as a Dom, but I want to know if it's acceptable to ask for a "tribute" or something of the like. I would love feedback.

Once I lived with a Dom who paid our bills - I gave him my paycheck for about 9 months until I took that control back. I would never do any sort of financial domination again.

I wouldn't rule this out:

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He had a list of very specific small gifts - his brand of tobacco, his favorite snacks or drinks, ect - very reasonable, money wise, it was not about the money, it was about the action.

But more commonly I'll express appreciation by cooking meals or giving massages or blow jobs ;)

I would find it tacky if a male Dom asked for a tribute in the courting stage, i.e., before he starts beating me.

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RE: Bergen county Dom looking for sub female... - 4/11/2012 3:48:35 PM

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Welcome to the forums! And as far as tribute, I say do what pleases you. There are people who will enjoy doing what pleases you then there are others who will bitch about it. Be you and have fun!

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RE: Bergen county Dom looking for sub female... - 4/11/2012 4:01:44 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: DSchmertz32

Question...I'm relatively new to the scene as a Dom, but I want to know if it's acceptable to ask for a "tribute" or something of the like. I would love feedback.

Sure you can ask, but if you are looking for a female playmate, be prepared for her to laugh. That is not generally a female kink, and when men outnumber women on sites like this at about 10:1, women don't need to pay to get laid or dominated. So looking for women who WANT to tribute and get off on that is a very small niche market.

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RE: Bergen county Dom looking for sub female... - 4/12/2012 6:31:22 AM

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