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how do i make a girl tie me up? - 4/13/2012 10:39:27 AM   
supragenius


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their is a woman i hang out with who is really hot. i think about her tieing me up all the time and i know just how i want her to do it but the problem is i don't have any experience with bondage and i don't think she does either. does anyone have any advice for how to bring this up and get her to do it? thanks.
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RE: how do i make a girl tie me up? - 4/13/2012 10:45:27 AM   
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ORIGINAL: supragenius

hi!

their is a woman i hang out with who is really hot. i think about her tieing me up all the time and i know just how i want her to do it but the problem is i don't have any experience with bondage and i don't think she does either. does anyone have any advice for how to bring this up and get her to do it? thanks.


Ummmmm, is she your girlfriend? You say that you "hang out" with her, but you don't mention that you're in a relationship with her.

If you ask her to tie you up and she's not your girlfriend, it's going to sound rather creepy. But if she's your girlfriend, then adding a little bondage to the relationship should be an easy bridge to cross. Vanilla couples do it all the time.

Trying to get a vanilla woman who is not your girlfriend to tie you up is:
a) Weird
b) Creepy
c) Frightening
d) All of the above.


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RE: how do i make a girl tie me up? - 4/13/2012 10:48:05 AM   
supragenius


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Status: offline 		shes not my girlfriend. i am looking for more of a casual thing right now anyway. i only want to be tied down metaphoricly. :)

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RE: how do i make a girl tie me up? - 4/13/2012 11:09:54 AM   
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shes not my girlfriend. i am looking for more of a casual thing right now anyway. i only want to be tied down metaphoricly. :)


Ok, but you get where Rochsub is going here right? I hope you're not being disingenuous on purpose. The heart of the matter is if this woman is someone you could ask something of an intimate nature from. In other words do you two get naked or does it seem like it could be in the cards? If not, it's probably not going to go well. For instance, if you and I 'hung out' and that meant we usually gamed together or watched a movie, and you switched that up to ask me one day to tie you up, then I'd kick you in the nuts and leave and never talk to you again.

If she'd be cool with entertaining the idea because the two of you have sex, then just say there's something that really captures your imagination and you'd like to try it. As far as gathering technical knowledge of bondage I've heard the Two Knotty Boys put out good stuff - find it and educate yourself and if she's interested ask her to learn it with you.

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RE: how do i make a girl tie me up? - 4/13/2012 11:12:58 AM   
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RE: how do i make a girl tie me up? - 4/13/2012 11:15:36 AM   
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Read the op's profile... seriously. Its play time for him and we are supposed to be his toys. 

You're right. It's all full of B.S.

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RE: how do i make a girl tie me up? - 4/13/2012 11:18:29 AM   
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RE: how do i make a girl tie me up? - 4/13/2012 11:19:29 AM   
supragenius


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Ok, but you get where Rochsub is going here right? I hope you're not being disingenuous on purpose. The heart of the matter is if this woman is someone you could ask something of an intimate nature from. In other words do you two get naked or does it seem like it could be in the cards? If not, it's probably not going to go well. For instance, if you and I 'hung out' and that meant we usually gamed together or watched a movie, and you switched that up to ask me one day to tie you up, then I'd kick you in the nuts and leave and never talk to you again.


yeah we flirt a lot and i think she might be interested in fucking around. its just we may have different ideas of what fucking around means. instead of friends with bennies im looking more at bondage buddies with bennies and im not sure if thats something she has ever even thought about.

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RE: how do i make a girl tie me up? - 4/13/2012 11:26:58 AM   
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RE: how do i make a girl tie me up? - 4/13/2012 11:38:39 AM   
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yeah we flirt a lot and i think she might be interested in fucking around. its just we may have different ideas of what fucking around means. instead of friends with bennies im looking more at bondage buddies with bennies and im not sure if thats something she has ever even thought about.



Okay super duper genius, have you considered the basics: Is she dominant? (The rigger is generally the dom). Why do you want her to do this? Do you think you are submissive?

Your topic here is how do I make a girl tie me up?

Did you mean: How do I make a girl want to tie me up?

While you're flirting and teasing, do you ever say things like: Oh gee, I should be spanked for that! Just to see her reaction.

Kink is everywhere these days and only the truly isolated haven't been exposed in some way. If she's an open minded person in other ways, she may very well be an open minded person in a kink way.

In the end, you're going to have to use your super intelligence to find a way to ease into it.



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RE: how do i make a girl tie me up? - 4/13/2012 11:39:13 AM   
supragenius


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Status: offline 		oh shit, i was hoping that information would never get out when i posted it in my profile. nice work, magnum pi :D

still though for real i DO talk mucho shit, but i also DO want this girl to tie me up. these two things are not, like, mutually exclusive.
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Ah, grasshoppa....Master has seen your profile.


Good lookin' out Lockit!


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RE: how do i make a girl tie me up? - 4/13/2012 11:42:41 AM   
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While you're flirting and teasing, do you ever say things like: Oh gee, I should be spanked for that! Just to see her reaction.


yes and she flirts back but like yuo say everyone has been exposed to kink so that doesnt mean as much as it used to. i remember way back in the day when if a girl wore spiked heels and badass eyeliner there was a good chance she was into kinky shit but now fetish has like permeated everythign.

am i submissive? i don't think so. at least i'm not one of those types who is all, "oh i wanna lick the heels of any dominate woman please let me kiss your feet mistress." i think pain and bondage are hot fer sherr tho.

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RE: how do i make a girl tie me up? - 4/13/2012 11:46:04 AM   
ChatteParfaitt


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Status: offline 		It's not necessary for you to fling yourself into a full blown BDSM lifestyle relationship to get yourself tied up.

And I agree, you don't sound submissive to me. Although you never know what getting your fondest (sexual) wish fulfilled might do to you. Like I said, try the sex first, if she's open, ease into some kink, if she's game, learn the ropes (so to speak) together.

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RE: how do i make a girl tie me up? - 4/13/2012 12:16:18 PM   
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Try to make it into a "no big deal game." Accept that you are "at risk," and that you must take a chance and risk losing your relationship.

A friend of mine has faced this issue with several girlfriends, and in many instances the women are turned off by his request and they've ended the relationship w/him. I don't know the particular pot holes he stepped into. (All the nitty gritty.)

In general, though, it seems that if a woman is not "into" something, conversion of her inclinations is unlikely.

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RE: how do i make a girl tie me up? - 4/13/2012 12:32:28 PM   
MissImmortalPain


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Status: offline 		I don't care what your profile says so I am just going to give you a pretty "extreme" answer....How about you ask her? Yeah, yeah, I never tell Roch he is wrong about anything and he really isn't here either. You might come off as creepy. She might tell you to back off. She might say she never wants to speak to you again. OR she might say she has been waiting for you to ask her. It really isn't that hard to figure out. It is either worth the risk to you or it isn't. All you have to do is decide which it is.

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RE: how do i make a girl tie me up? - 4/13/2012 12:35:49 PM   
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Status: offline 		Just one other thing to throw in here with all the other good points....what is she getting out of this? Don't get me wrong, I'm not saying she might not be into tying people up for her own reasons but if there is at least a decent chance that she isn't into bdsm already I would suggest trying to figure out how you can make this as interesting/hot/satisfying for her, before you start just thinking about getting off yourself. It's a little bit like getting an email from somebody who basically just lists their kinks and then wants to get together without any other connection or conversation...not going to happen.

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RE: how do i make a girl tie me up? - 4/13/2012 1:19:42 PM   
supragenius


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Status: offline 		@semisweet yeah thats not a bad idea. put the ball in her court. see if she can handle how real i am. it may come to that.

@lmm i thikn she'd be into it. shes got that kind of personality. i just want to find a way to trigger the itch in her

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RE: how do i make a girl tie me up? - 4/13/2012 1:35:50 PM   
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Hello All,

It may just be me, but I get the impression that this is a specific fantasy about a specific woman. I say leave it as a fantasy. There is a huge gap between fantasy and reality.

Should you decide to pursue the reality of a bondage experience with this woman, I have a few suggestions. First, drop the word 'make' from your vocabulary. While you are at it drop that whole idea from your mind. Second, establish a level of intimacy and trust between the two of you. This is sometimes called a relationship. Third, be prepared for the possibility that what really happens may not be what you fantasize about happening. Remember that this would be HER EXPERIENCE TOO!

Respectfully,
Mike
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RE: how do i make a girl tie me up? - 4/13/2012 1:47:37 PM   
supragenius


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ORIGINAL: SnowRanger

Did you intend to call your self SUPER or supra? There is a difference.

Hello All,

It may just be me, but I get the impression that this is a specific fantasy about a specific woman. I say leave it as a fantasy. There is a huge gap between fantasy and reality.

Should you decide to pursue the reality of a bondage experience with this woman, I have a few suggestions. First, drop the word 'make' from your vocabulary. While you are at it drop that whole idea from your mind. Second, establish a level of intimacy and trust between the two of you. This is sometimes called a relationship. Third, be prepared for the possibility that what really happens may not be what you fantasize about happening. Remember that this would be HER EXPERIENCE TOO!

Respectfully,
Mike
SnowRanger


1) supra, duh
2) why did yuo start with "hello all?" did you think you were addressing parliament? why be so formal dude?
3) signing your post with a complimentary closing; see 2
4) dont get so hung up on language. i wanna make this girl tie me up and im pretty sure shed enjoy it too. she seems like the type. if i can get her to do it i think we are both going to have fun.

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RE: how do i make a girl tie me up? - 4/13/2012 2:12:18 PM   
SnowRanger


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Status: offline 		1) I noticed that somebody else thought you meant super (and duper)... Just wanted clarity thus eliminating the duh factor.
2) Good manners' are never in-appropriate.
3) See 2
4) Perhaps I am hung up on expressing myself clearly. I am an Appy and in my native patois NOBODY could understand me. unnrstan? Jes git me takin bout my pickemup!

A) We certainly agree on one thing. The idea it that both people enjoy the experience.

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