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RE: would you play with a newbie? - 4/22/2012 6:22:40 AM   
Pyramus


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Status: offline 		The best part about playing with a newbie for a soft Top, is that she'll always enjoy the experience, even if it isn't, in the end, her kink.

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RE: would you play with a newbie? - 4/23/2012 12:04:22 PM   
MzWhipplash


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Status: offline 		After establishing boundaries, no sex just light impact play rules at a play party ONLY for newcomers. And discussing aftercare and S.S.C versus R.A.C.K. I will give a short demonstration of S.S.C Impact play to newcomer submissives. I will talk toys wth new Dominants if I am asked with immaculate manners.

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RE: would you play with a newbie? - 4/23/2012 12:22:30 PM   
MzWhipplash


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Status: offline 		Why would I play with a newcomer?

If he was polite and he was pleasant to talk with. Had been been honest abd was keen to experience an introduction to the types of enjoy I enjoy. The play introduction I may agree to offer would ONLY be at a play party. And would only commence after myquestions were answered regarfing the submissives' current health status(fiabetes, high/low blood presdure, has/ not had feinting) And safety limits and aftercare. I mentored many a newcomer submissive.

I enjoy passing on my knowledge. Very good manbers and respectful behaviour are key to a newcomer successfully obtaining their introduction to play.


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RE: would you play with a newbie? - 4/23/2012 12:29:51 PM   
ChatteParfaitt


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Status: offline 		Yes, I would and I have.

I don't make decisions about who I play with, or enter into relationships with, based on their experience or lack of it.


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RE: would you play with a newbie? - 4/24/2012 10:17:00 AM   
WolfThor


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Status: offline 		We all have to begin somewhere. If the mix is acceptable of newbie with and experienced spoul,, why not?

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RE: would you play with a newbie? - 4/25/2012 3:27:36 PM   
Toppingfrmbottom


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Status: offline 		They would have to be a mighty delicious and sexually appealing newbie. Because i prefer people with experince who knows how to make my body sing and respond and knows what to do, with little teaching or directing from me. A newbie would eventually pick up on that, but there's to much teaching needed in the inbetween, and i don't wish to be a teacher, outside of letting someone know what i like of course, i wish to get to the getting to the good stuff.



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ORIGINAL: sirfox27

What reason would you play with a newbie with little to some knowledge of bdsm. How about some one with some experience and know how. Then we have the very experienced and knowledgeable. They may allready have a dom or sub. Now why do you play with them.



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RE: would you play with a newbie? - 4/29/2012 9:17:21 PM   
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RE: would you play with a newbie? - 7/8/2012 10:58:15 AM   
PowerXXXchange


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Status: offline 		Can someone please freeze this thread for the next Domette? The wisdom here should not be allowed to go to waste!

In another thread, OP revealed, "I want to be able to walk in to room and know that I was not seen as 1. ass hole 2. Jerk 3.sub 4. Wannbe 5. a nobody." His profile is also pure distillate of narcissistic personality disorder: all wants, zero on offer. So could he hear the parts about his investment in relationships?

I read the comments here saying to self, "yup", "She nailed that" "right on. He lived it too."

You could have saved two people I seriously cared for some major hurt back in '96. I'm sorry the OP didn’t appear to actually read them.

PxC, being serious for a damn change.


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RE: would you play with a newbie? - 7/8/2012 11:08:26 AM   
JeffBC


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quote:

ORIGINAL: sirfox27
I mean in general. Public or private. I want get people thinking. why do we play with who do.

"Play"??? "in general"??? I also would like clarification on that word. I'm assuming you mean some sort of B, D, S or M, right?


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RE: would you play with a newbie? - 7/8/2012 11:14:08 AM   
Dresproperty


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Status: offline 		For me I have a preference for a master with experience. A man who has had training and knows what he is doing, knows his own limits and is experienced in aftercare.

Luckily my Master fits all that criteria :-)



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RE: would you play with a newbie? - 7/8/2012 11:20:08 AM   
PowerXXXchange


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Status: offline 		I think the last we saw of OP was in April, so I wouldn't expect an answer. At least not right away.

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RE: would you play with a newbie? - 7/8/2012 11:23:03 AM   
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I care more about the chemistry and compatibility of someone rather than their experience.

I am experienced, so I can help them along. :)

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RE: would you play with a newbie? - 7/8/2012 11:32:07 AM   
MstrPBK


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Status: offline 		Sure I would play with a newbie ... however ... I play with anyone first met as a newbie considering that anyone can lie about what they have really experienced. Once I get to know the person I go deeper into things.

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RE: would you play with a newbie? - 7/8/2012 2:25:25 PM   
AVegasMaster


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Status: offline 		Taking a novice to full realization of her submissive side is incredibly rewarding. It does require much patience, and a good measure of sensitivity.

As for those with some experience and those very experienced: If one is inventive, one can bring the joy of discovery and wonder to any relationship. Life is about learning and growing. Everyone is different and each new relationship will bring new discoveries

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RE: would you play with a newbie? - 7/8/2012 3:32:46 PM   
AVegasMaster


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I have had a few experiences where a novice/newbie or just curious realizes after some training that they do not want to live out their fantasies. I consider this as valuable, important and rewarding as introducing someone to the joys of BDSM.

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RE: would you play with a newbie? - 7/8/2012 6:49:22 PM   
Kana


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Status: offline 		I would and I have

If nothing else, there are times newbies are easier to deal with than someone who has experience. The newcomer is Tabula Rosa, it's often easier to teach than to help someone unlearn behavior that's been taught and actualized, sometimes for years.

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RE: would you play with a newbie? - 7/8/2012 9:36:17 PM   
VanyaOrthae


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Status: offline 		These threads always make me wonder where people's definitions are drawn. For example, is someone experienced because they've been doing this for twenty years and we just assume that's what it takes? How about if they've only ever had one partner, how do you feel about it then? And age - I know a lot of people here who would say, "you're too young to really have any experience, go around the block a few more times kiddo!" Despite someone being anywhere in their twenties.

So I guess in addition to things that have already been said, I want to know, where do you draw a hard line for who is a newb and who isn't? Because although I've been doing this awhile, I always hear this topic going 'round and 'round and am curious as to how people cut a clear and hard definition, especially for those of who age seems to be a really important factor, though there are always exceptions.

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RE: would you play with a newbie? - 7/8/2012 9:45:53 PM   
BamaD


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Status: offline 		I would play with a newbie for the simplicity, no untraining required.

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RE: would you play with a newbie? - 7/8/2012 10:23:05 PM   
FrostedFlake


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Status: offline 		I like people that I like.

How long do you suppose being a newbi, lasts? And on the other hand, is vast experience NECESSARILY an asset?

There's more, but that should do.

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RE: would you play with a newbie? - 7/9/2012 12:47:26 AM   
littlewonder


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Status: offline 		Yes but then I'm the type that looks for someone that I have other commonalities with, not what their kink is or how they swing a whip. Those really are of little importance to me. He could be a guy who says he has no interest in bdsm and I would be fine with that as long as he meets all the other requirements that I sought for in a partner.


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