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RE: Can an outfit change you? - 4/20/2012 3:03:44 PM

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What i wear changes my outside look. It does not change me inside. I don't have anything that makes me feel more submisive. More sexy yes but more submisive no. I am who i am what i show the world is not always who i am the clothes are just a covering.

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RE: Can an outfit change you? - 4/20/2012 7:28:10 PM

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Can an outfit make you more submissive and lower inhibition? I am curious if anyone found it easier to be submissive by an article of bdsm clothing such as a body harness, mask, or collar or if something actually lowers inhibitions.

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I'll postulate that what you wear does not dictate who you are or what you believe. It may in some way, accentuate certain sensations and feelings in a particular moment, or possibly allow an outlet for certain activities; pet play, or ADLG comes to mind. A collar for example, is a symbol of ownership, and while wearing one a submissive may find it easier to get into a certain mental space that is not otherwise easy. However, our inhibitions are not dictated by articles of clothing. What is true for you now, in this moment, is still true to you nakked or wearing a collar. Inhibitions may be the wrong term for your question.

As to lowering submission, that is a loaded question. What is true for some will most certainly not be true for others. Submission is in my personal opinion, something inspired. You may have submissive tendancies, and possibly even a totally submissive personality, that does not mean you are a doormat for every person that comes along. Just because a submissive may find it hot and exciting to be dominated in the bedroom does not mean they want the folks at the grocery store barking orders at them. Articles of clothing has no bearing on how a person feels about that. Perhaps in a humiliation sense it is possible to create a situation in wich this could occur, though I believe that is possible to create such a response regardless of attire, and have done so on many occasions.

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RE: Can an outfit change you? - 4/22/2012 5:05:28 PM

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i think some of the outfits are just plain silly and would not add anything to my own feeling or attitude.

somewhere i read that keeping a sub/slave/prisoner naked, reduces their status and makes them feel inferior, which is where the domme wants them. the the visual of a domme in leather, latex or black clothing can create the feeling of superiority in a sub/slave. clothing or the lack of it can create the scene or sensation desired. it is a lot of mnd over matter. like most males i can't say or understand why certain outfits worn by a domme can arouse me or make me want to submit to them.

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RE: Can an outfit change you? - 4/22/2012 7:12:53 PM

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I think any outfit that makes you feel your putting your best foot (or other...lol) forward can make you feel more confident and less inhibited. Say you dont like your stomach and you wear something that hides that area, might give more confidence and lower inhibitions.
I know when I put on a dress vs. pants. I walk different, move my hands different, become more feminine. I do think attire does change expression sometimes.

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RE: Can an outfit change you? - 4/23/2012 1:16:42 AM

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I'm thinking you have a good point there. Even I would look less imposing in a pink bunny suit.

I don't know ResidentSadist. There is definitely something evil in the way you twitch those ears
and make them all lopsided and such.

Evil twitch in the ear? Now I thought that was sorta' like a friendly bunny ear wave... like the girls.

You may be who you are no matter what you where but your outfit sets the tone on how people will react to you. Like the girls above, not exactly the boardroom business apparel of an aggressive business woman or something you would expect a Dominatrix to wear to a session. Nope, just a couple of submissive slave sisters dressed casual for the park. So yes, clothing makes a difference.

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RE: Can an outfit change you? - 4/23/2012 9:48:46 AM

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I dunno about outfits, but I've met a gal or two in my day who melt when you put a hood on em.
Something about the sensory dep, the tightness of the hood and the fact it conceals/removes identity has a marvelous power over em.
Shrugs.
Course there's lots and lots of folks who freak out about hoods too, usually for the same reasons I listed above

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RE: Can an outfit change you? - 4/23/2012 10:30:03 AM

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Can an outfit make you more submissive and lower inhibition? I am curious if anyone found it easier to be submissive by an article of bdsm clothing such as a body harness, mask, or collar or if something actually lowers inhibitions.

Well, to this day when I don a suit & tie I think of myself as putting on armor in preparation for a battle. And yes, it definitely puts me in a more combative mood.

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RE: Can an outfit change you? - 4/24/2012 4:12:56 PM

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I could for myself.

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RE: Can an outfit change you? - 4/24/2012 8:49:11 PM

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Dressing sexy makes me feel sexy. I do not feel that way wearing my conservative work clothing.

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RE: Can an outfit change you? - 4/26/2012 11:18:17 PM

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i think it depends on what the clothing or lack of clothing represents. For me i am way more submissive naked. Why? Because it represents submission AND makes me hot and the hotter i am the more submissive and the more submissive the hotter i get. SO it is win win.

Also, wearing revealing clothing, no underwear, leather and studs belts and jackets, leather pants which 99% equate with biker- which it isn't, but let 'em dream.We both TO have bikes. Dual sports and out road bikes HD Heritage Softails. LOL It is a good thing i learned to rise BEFORE M/s because otherwise He would have forbidden it. Now He is glad not to have me on the back and loves watching me ride- He rides in the back to watch me. The leather studded belt comes in handy for out door bondage whipping.

Wearing corporate type clothing or girly girl has always been a turn off and i get REALLY inhibited and also a bit snotty.

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RE: Can an outfit change you? - 5/7/2012 1:38:01 PM

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I used to do a fair bit of Western Martial arts. Putting on pounds of steel armour made a huge difference. Macho to the max. To the point where it actualy changed how I dealt with people, spoke and my relations to them. Going into bouts with less metal didnt have that impact. Much as I wanted to think it was just 'getting into gear' it was far more than that.

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