"Respect and courtesy"

"Respect and courtesy" (Full Version)

All Forums >> [Community Discussions] >> General BDSM Discussion

Message

DOM4POLY -> "Respect and courtesy" (6/5/2006 7:50:28 AM)
It may all be due to me being a little older and having many years in the lifestyle, but it seems like many sub/slaves that I have spoken to have little or "NO" respect.Not saying that I agree with a sub/slave having to address just any DOM as sir right from the get go but please show some respect atleast acknowledge the fact he is a DOM and be curtious and if e-mailed, return a responce(get permission first!) even if it is to say you are collard or taken. "its just a matter of respect and courtesy. Thankyou im done ranting now....LOL

becca333 -> RE: "Respect and courtesy" (6/5/2006 7:55:17 AM)
I think respect should be shown to everyone, sub, Dom or whatever. And emails should be given a polite response unless they're from obvious trolls. But it can get irritating when you've replied politely, told him you have a partner, and the next email is, "When will we meet?" Like, never?

sabswife -> RE: "Respect and courtesy" (6/5/2006 7:58:54 AM)
i offer the same respect and courtesy to everyone regardless of who they are. i ask for permission before responding to a Dom though. the minute the lines crossed they get ignored, they lost my respect flat out. i suppose i feel different in the way of some that i am not just a sub, i am Sabs subs. i submit only to Him and nobody else.

darkinshadows -> RE: "Respect and courtesy" (6/5/2006 7:58:59 AM)
No one owes anybody a reply. There is a huge difference between showing someone respect and politeness/courtesy. You are male and identify as a dominant. You probably do not receive half the mails single/not single female submissive types get. And just because you identify as a dominant does not automatically make you a dominant personality to me. We are still equals. We are still people. If someone hasn't responded to your approach, maybe its because you just are not what they are looking out for. Maybe your approach was bad. Maybe you did not read their profile correctly (I get alot of those). No one owes you, as a self assessed dominant anything in return. It is just life. Pick up - move on. Peace and Love *edit darn typos.. I really need to get my nails trimmed....

enigmabrat -> RE: "Respect and courtesy" (6/5/2006 8:01:30 AM)
exactly sub Dom whatever there should be respect you shouldt get specaile treatment for being a Dom you think an e-mail should always be sent back to a Dom well subs should get the same respect

CrappyDom -> RE: "Respect and courtesy" (6/5/2006 8:02:06 AM)
I unzipped my pants, at least they could get on their knees.

OhBeMyMind -> RE: "Respect and courtesy" (6/5/2006 8:04:25 AM)
With all due respect.....what of the profiles that already indicate that someone is taken, collared, or unavailable, yet that is disrespectfully 'overlooked'? Unfortunately, from time to time, my patience and courtesy is running on empty when I continuously reply "No thank you", "I am not available (just as my profile states)"....so yeah, more often than not I delete and move on and do not give a second thought to replying respectfully or as a common courtesy.....there comes a time when my give-a-damn gets broken. quote: ORIGINAL: DOM4POLY It may all be due to me being a little older and having many years in the lifestyle, but it seems like many sub/slaves that I have spoken to have little or "NO" respect.Not saying that I agree with a sub/slave having to address just any DOM as sir right from the get go but please show some respect atleast acknowledge the fact he is a DOM and be curtious and if e-mailed, return a responce(get permission first!) even if it is to say you are collard or taken. "its just a matter of respect and courtesy. Thankyou im done ranting now....LOL

becca333 -> RE: "Respect and courtesy" (6/5/2006 8:09:14 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: CrappyDom I unzipped my pants, at least they could get on their knees. All the easier to use the magnifying glass.

zumala -> RE: "Respect and courtesy" (6/5/2006 8:17:35 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: DOM4POLY It may all be due to me being a little older and having many years in the lifestyle, but it seems like many sub/slaves that I have spoken to have little or "NO" respect.Not saying that I agree with a sub/slave having to address just any DOM as sir right from the get go but please show some respect atleast acknowledge the fact he is a DOM and be curtious and if e-mailed, return a responce(get permission first!) even if it is to say you are collard or taken. "its just a matter of respect and courtesy. Thankyou im done ranting now....LOL Courtesy is polite and proper. Personal respect is earned, in my opinion. Actually, polite courtesy IS respectful to the degree that a perfect stranger/individual should receive. However, if someone says something inappropriate or is rude, I do not believe that one must spend much time being overly polite. I am never rude in an initial response. However, if someone persists in messaging me inappropriately, they will find themselves ignored. zuma Edited to add that the previously mentioned problems huge numbers of mails and Doms failing to read/respect profile information is a factor in how they are responded to. For myself, I've even posted to my journal trying to get people to pay attention. Those who ignore all signs and expose themselves as disrespectful and thoughtless do not deserve much from me.

OhBeMyMind -> RE: "Respect and courtesy" (6/5/2006 8:20:41 AM)
~ponders the temptation thoughtfully~ quote: ORIGINAL: CrappyDom I unzipped my pants, at least they could get on their knees.

NyxNymph -> RE: "Respect and courtesy" (6/5/2006 8:21:10 AM)
I agree entirely with darkinshadows, sometimes I haven't the time or the care to get back to it, if my pro says "looking for local females" why should I have to waste my time replying to e-mails just to restate what's already in my profile?

juliaoceania -> RE: "Respect and courtesy" (6/5/2006 8:21:23 AM)
How about respecting what my profile says about not seeing anyone else right now? You have to give respect to engender its return to you. Making a profile and sending emails does not make anyone a dom. I owe human beings basic respect... I owe someone that calls himself a dom no more respect than I give anyone else.

mistoferin -> RE: "Respect and courtesy" (6/5/2006 8:23:57 AM)
You know, we get alot of these kind of rants here on the boards....a few a week usually[;)]. You're going to get shot down with all of the "Well you're not MY Dom" kind of excuses so be prepared. I think that I understand what you and alot of others are complaining about though. Just a little politeness would go a long way correct? Now one has to get in a snit and start defending themselves or their relationship...just a little politeness. I understand why people answer this type of question how they do...heck I've done it myself. We hear this ALL the time. We who are subs/slaves also get an awful lot of it coming from the other side. Just the sheer volumes of these types of complaints though ought to tell us that there is indeed a bit of a problem though. Nope, I don't think that anyone should have to call another person by some title right at first contact either. No one should have to be bowing or on their knees before someone they don't even know. But a little politeness.......yeah......that would go a long way.

timeoutgurlie -> RE: "Respect and courtesy" (6/5/2006 8:30:00 AM)
I'm a pretty courteous person in my real life, but this is the net, and if there's some dumbass sending me messages that consist of "Hi" or "Looking for a Daddy lil girl? I bet you've been naughty" or the worst of all, the chain letters...I have to deal with stupid people in real life because they're...well, REAL. The net has one hugely effective tool life just doesn't have...the option to make someone disappear with the click of a mouse. It'd be criminal NOT to use it [:)]

NCSilverWolves -> RE: "Respect and courtesy" (6/5/2006 8:32:32 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: becca333 quote: ORIGINAL: CrappyDom I unzipped my pants, at least they could get on their knees. All the easier to use the magnifying glass. [sm=biggrin.gif][sm=biggrin.gif][sm=biggrin.gif]

NCSilverWolves -> RE: "Respect and courtesy" (6/5/2006 8:39:51 AM)
Ok, a more serious response. I agree with the politeness going a long way. I also agree with it going both ways. If a dom wants respect, then the dom needs to read the profile. If seeing a sub is not looking, or taken. Move on and leave it alone. Upon reading that one is single n looking.... roll the dice and see what happens. If no response .... you got your answer. Depending on the stupid one liner.... or long nicely thought out e-mail gets answered or not..... all you can do is see how it goes. Doms have to remember.... others have come before you....showing their asses. And subs get tired of it. Just as some doms get e-mails from single subs... not taking no for an answer either. Or get the e-mail from owned subs looking something better than what they're in. If you're a dom who hasn't been bothered.... thank your lucky stars.

CreativeDominant -> RE: "Respect and courtesy" (6/5/2006 8:52:19 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: DOM4POLY It may all be due to me being a little older and having many years in the lifestyle, but it seems like many sub/slaves that I have spoken to have little or "NO" respect.Not saying that I agree with a sub/slave having to address just any DOM as sir right from the get go but please show some respect atleast acknowledge the fact he is a DOM and be curtious and if e-mailed, return a responce(get permission first!) even if it is to say you are collard or taken. "its just a matter of respect and courtesy. Thankyou im done ranting now....LOL It's funny how, as we get older, different things strike different people in different ways. I know very few on here. The ones I do know I have taken the time to get to know and when I email them, I do so with what is me...courtesy, small thoughts, large thoughts, humor, anger, lust, flirtatious gibes, all the stuff that is me...but always with courtesy. What respect anyone shows me is what they feel I have earned and the fact that I identify myself as dominant has...for the most part...little to do with it. It is more that when I first contacted them, I was courteous. Usually, when I have contacted someone, it has been due to something they have written on the board or in reply to something they've sent me. The only time I have expected respect has been when I attended a "high-protocol" night at the society I belong to in Colorado. But there again...my actions were also governed by a set of rules.

missturbation -> RE: "Respect and courtesy" (6/5/2006 8:53:07 AM)
In my humble opinion respect is earnt and you cannot truly respect sum1 u do not know. Whilst i agree it is polite to reply to all messages if only to say thank you but no thank you sometimes it is just not possible. From talking to several Dom's on here they just do not get the volume of messages that we female subs do. I do try to respond to most but some just don't get my attention.

Proprietrix -> RE: "Respect and courtesy" (6/5/2006 9:31:15 AM)
I save my respect and courtesy for my real time encounters. It's a small reserve and I'd hate to use it all up on online wankers and not have any left for the nice little old man next door who needs help carrying in his groceries.

glidewynd -> RE: "Respect and courtesy" (6/5/2006 10:14:53 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: zumala Courtesy is polite and proper. Personal respect is earned, in my opinion. Actually, polite courtesy IS respectful to the degree that a perfect stranger/individual should receive. However, if someone says something inappropriate or is rude, I do not believe that one must spend much time being overly polite. I am never rude in an initial response. However, if someone persists in messaging me inappropriately, they will find themselves ignored. I agree very much with what you've said here zuma. I make a point to try and respond to all the e-mails I get, but level of respect the person receives in my reply is reflected from what they've written me. In other words: show some common courtesy, and I'll do the same. An obvious troll will get either no reply or a curt "no thanks"...and be added to my iggy list if necessary. A person who has taken the time to show some intellect and craft an e-mail of some substance AND respect will ALWAYS get a reply from me of the same quality, as soon as I'm able to. If I'm not able to respond in a timely manner, collarme has those wonderful little "Auto-Response" buttons to reply to e-mails, and each one of them is polite and respectful. I'm not usually one for form letters, but in my opinion they're better than no response at all if someone has taken the time out of their day to write me. The Auto-Response e-mails are all customizable, but if you haven't used them before, they look like the following: BUSY: Thank you for writing to me. I have received a large number of messages and am unable to respond to each one individually at this time. I will be responding to my messages in more detail when I am better able to do so. INVOLVED: Thank you for writing to me. Please note that I am presently involved in a relationship and am therefore unable consider other offers at this time. I wish you the best of luck in your search! THANK YOU: Thank you for the kind words and good luck in your search! quote: ORIGINAL: NCSilverWolves Doms have to remember.... others have come before you....showing their asses. And subs get tired of it. Just as some doms get e-mails from single subs... not taking no for an answer either. Or get the e-mail from owned subs looking something better than what they're in. If you're a dom who hasn't been bothered.... thank your lucky stars. Well said. Whether Dom/mes or subs, we've all gotten unwanted e-mails....and if you haven't yet, well....you will soon enough. Common courtesy goes a long way, both online and off. glidewynd

Page: [1] 2 3 4 next > >>

Collarchat.com © 2025

Terms of Service

0.03125