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Sunshine119 -> RE: "Respect and courtesy" (6/6/2006 5:55:57 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: gooddogbenji quote: ORIGINAL: mgdartist As far as those of you who complain about what your profile clearly states, as far as you being collared, taken, not looking etc.... First off, those of us who *are* looking might find it nice to have a search feature which eliminated you from our searches, but then one must wonder how many hits would then be left to them? I often wonder, but know better than to ask why so many "taken" "collared" and "no longer interested" submissives continue maintaining profiles here, knowing what i'll get. Kindly spare me. Were i ever to collar a pretty submissive here, the removal of her profile would be something I'd want to see, as I'd not want her continually badgered, such as you all seem to be. <grin> DINGDINGDINGDING!!! We have a winner! Griping about people in relationships with profiles! You win ONE HUNDRED BILLION DOLLARS! Now, mgdartist, if everyone who's taken were to remove their profiles and leave the site, these forums would be you and me. Kinda boring, no? But nice of you to add this gripe to the thread, we've only heard it 4 times this week. Yours, benji Now for these kinds of people (not you Benji), we need people like Lucky Albatross, etc to direct whinny doms (or subs) to the THOUSANDS of links to threads which already exist about: 1. Not contacting those already collared, owned, etc 2. Not contacting those who are only seeking friends 3. Here for the message boards alone (some of us do like to learn more about the person whose post we are reading.) 4. Making sure if you are seeking, and you have a list of available subs (or Dom/mes), you DO read the entire profile and reference it in your letter to them. No one likes to get a generic note. 5. Making sure you are only contacting those who are looking for someone like you 6. Making sure you don't insult the person to whom you are writing by being a Doms contacting other Dommes assuring them that YOU can make them submit 7. Don't write to Dom/Dommes with your "Do me" list 8. Make sure you are not heterosexual seeking someone who is not looking for someone heterosexual (Lesbians and Gay men rarely violate this rule) Oh hell, there are a zillion more.....Surely someone can come up with a generic list that we can just post as a "generic reply" to these kinds of whinners? When I was new, I responded kindly to most Doms that I am in a long term, live-in relationship and thanked them for their interest. After getting the SAME, EXACT LINE five, six or even seven times, I have given up. I don't even respond anymore.

jezzabelle -> RE: "Respect and courtesy" (6/6/2006 6:46:57 PM)
I try very hard to always be polite and courteous, both in r/l and online. If I receive a message from someone here, no matter what their role, they receive a friendly and polite note back (unless they have only written me to say something nasty, then they either get blocked or get nasty back, depending on my mood.) I do not address every dominant on here as sir or ma'am. Until I get to know you, you are just another human being on this site, just as I am. Respect is earned, not automatically given. Courtesy, however, is something that should always be given. "Respect is sometimes loosely used as a synonym for politeness or manners, though these are behaviours, whereas respect is an attitude." ~ Quoted from Wikipedia.org

Arpig -> RE: "Respect and courtesy" (6/6/2006 7:33:57 PM)
Respect is earned, and nobody owes you anything because you are a Dom, not obedience, not respect, and no, not even a response to your email..

objectivist -> RE: "Respect and courtesy" (6/6/2006 9:31:22 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: missturbation In my humble opinion respect is earnt and you cannot truly respect sum1 u do not know. From talking to several Dom's on here they just do not get the volume of messages that we female subs do. I do try to respond to most but some just don't get my attention. I know several girls who follow their first "no thank you" with a block button. Civility up, stress down. If he doesn't get the message after no thanks, he won't get it after a dozen. And this method should reduce the "combative sub profile" to a footnote, instead of a staple.

TemptingNviceSub -> RE: "Respect and courtesy" (6/6/2006 9:35:53 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: DOM4POLY It may all be due to me being a little older and having many years in the lifestyle, but it seems like many sub/slaves that I have spoken to have little or "NO" respect.Not saying that I agree with a sub/slave having to address just any DOM as sir right from the get go but please show some respect atleast acknowledge the fact he is a DOM and be curtious and if e-mailed, return a responce(get permission first!) even if it is to say you are collard or taken. "its just a matter of respect and courtesy. Thankyou im done ranting now....LOL You are right...it is due to you being older..Being an older woman here.. we all realize what we experienced in our "day" changes..differing ideas and concepts come about, what once was is no longer ,one must change with the times or be left behind to bemoan the "good old days".and once you start bemoaning the "good ol days"..you realize..EEKK!!..I have become my parents!...be well...Tempting

CERCKL -> RE: "Respect and courtesy" (6/6/2006 10:09:12 PM)
quote: I have become my parents!... Speaking of hijacking threads; the older I get, the more I am starting to look like my father. Ouch... C

keme -> RE: "Respect and courtesy" (6/6/2006 10:19:15 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: zumala quote: ORIGINAL: DOM4POLY It may all be due to me being a little older and having many years in the lifestyle, but it seems like many sub/slaves that I have spoken to have little or "NO" respect.Not saying that I agree with a sub/slave having to address just any DOM as sir right from the get go but please show some respect atleast acknowledge the fact he is a DOM and be curtious and if e-mailed, return a responce(get permission first!) even if it is to say you are collard or taken. "its just a matter of respect and courtesy. Thankyou im done ranting now....LOL Courtesy is polite and proper. Personal respect is earned, in my opinion. Actually, polite courtesy IS respectful to the degree that a perfect stranger/individual should receive. However, if someone says something inappropriate or is rude, I do not believe that one must spend much time being overly polite. I am never rude in an initial response. However, if someone persists in messaging me inappropriately, they will find themselves ignored. zuma Edited to add that the previously mentioned problems huge numbers of mails and Doms failing to read/respect profile information is a factor in how they are responded to. For myself, I've even posted to my journal trying to get people to pay attention. Those who ignore all signs and expose themselves as disrespectful and thoughtless do not deserve much from me. you go zumala... I try to always be curtious because I try to put out what I wish to receive... I do fail at time when my ire is up but mostly succeed... and I love adding full blown humor as well... smiles

TemptingNviceSub -> RE: "Respect and courtesy" (6/7/2006 7:08:21 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: CERCKL quote: I have become my parents!... Speaking of hijacking threads; the older I get, the more I am starting to look like my father. Ouch... C LOL...humm..sooo..is Dad a hottie?..[:D]...Tempting

cuddleheart50 -> RE: "Respect and courtesy" (6/7/2006 7:24:24 PM)
I am respectful to anyone who emails me, unless given a reason not to be.

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