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girl91 -> RE: Dealing with a creep - advice? (5/2/2012 11:17:35 AM)
I would speak with the hostess. To me he crossed the line when he came into the room with a door closed. It was closed cause you wanted privacy and didn't want an audience. I also think its ok to tell the hostess about your creepy felling, most time people gut felling are right.

mnottertail -> RE: Dealing with a creep - advice? (5/2/2012 11:48:58 AM)
dealing with a creep............ well just talk to me like I am normal, I guess........

mons -> RE: Dealing with a creep - advice? (5/13/2012 2:24:00 AM)
Hello Dark Steven He is a creep, my sister has a man she works with whom will not take no for an answer! He does things like, touches her arm, or walkup and say something that is none of his business! He is a creep! This man sounds like no is breaking the rule of space, and when he walked into the room without being asked to come in, he is a watcher, he has no power to find his own, spankee he just likes to watch you ! Talk with the Hostess and fast before he goes too far and, touches someone your with! She will take care of him! Wow my sister says this guy makes her want to throw up, I told her to let her bosses know, but she is just not ready to say something? I think she is scared! Mons

Tyraen -> RE: Dealing with a creep - advice? (5/13/2012 5:05:20 PM)
Ask yourself this question: Is this person new? Have you seen him around before at all or often before this happened? If yes, then obviously he has some sort of issue and it needs to be brought up with the hostess. Anyone who is in anyplace for a significant enough amount of time should be able to learn whatever rules there are and follow them decently enough, or at least understand what 'she is shy that is why the door is closed" fucking really means GTFO (although next time I would just be fucking direct and say this is a private deal please leave, you can't misunderstand that no matter how thick you are) If no, then you should be the bigger man and just try to be friendly and clear up the situation directly. That way you can figure out if it was just him being clueless because he is new and made a somewhat harmless mistake through his misunderstandings and then proceed to educate him politely so as not to scare him off (since he is there probably for all the same reasons everyone else is there), or if he was being a creeper intentionally, which then you can just have the hostess remove him. Everyone else saying he is definitely his or definitely that are throwing assumptions around all day long, and assumptions of this delicate nature can lead down very unsavory roads. So just try and figure out what his situation is based on what you know and then deal with it accordingly as I've described. Stop jumping to conclusions people, nobody here has all the facts.

Whiplashsmile4 -> RE: Dealing with a creep - advice? (5/14/2012 11:05:32 AM)
Steven, Sound like this guy is lacking in the social interaction department in general. Perhaps a little slow on the up-take and is trying to learn/fit in. or... perhaps he ain't with it (mentally) to learn. I don't know, people like this tend to get on my nerves, and are very quick to draw the Dominant side of my personality out. I generally deal with situations like this by asking firm questions designed to make them stop and think. Also it gives me a deeper insight into their mind. In your situation, I would have been asking them Why did they enter a private bedroom without knocking or being invited. Forced them to give me an answer. Basically, it would give me an idea if they simply didn't give a fuck or not. If they played dumb, I'd be saying that most people would not socially cross the boundaries of a closed private door. Perhaps, even went to far to say shit like "If we wanted other people to watch we would have done this out in the living for others to see".... Trust me, he would have felt like a complete dumb ass (idiot) like he should, after interacting with me a few times. Either way, this issue should be all on him and not you. Cold day in hell before I'd take responsibility for making things awkward at a party like this. He should be feeling uncomfortable, not you. So what if you are scaring this dude a little (he needs to be) LOL I'd give the host a heads up about this. Don't be so kind hearted. If this guy doing this with you, he's doing it with other people too. If he get's booted out from there... so be it. You could always directly confront him with a sinerce conversation. Pull out your Dominant communication skills. The calm and in control style (should work like a charm). The problem is not yours, it's really his. Hope this helps.

LookieNoNookie -> RE: Dealing with a creep - advice? (5/14/2012 7:11:13 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: DarkSteven I regularly attend a local monthly spanking party called Scarlet Moons. It's a great party, although it restricts play to impact play only - no whips, no floggers, no fireplay, no needle play, no wax, etc. It's unusual in that bystanders are allowed to heckle sceners good-naturedly and complain that the spanker isn't swinging hard enough, that spankees shouldn't be allowed to keep panties on, etc. There's one attendee that just gives me creepy vibes. A few months ago I was spanking a lady OTK over panties and he happened by and asked me earnestly and directly "Are you going to spank her bare assed?" I was taken aback and replied, "Excuse me?" He then asked me if I would pull down her panties. I curtly replied, "I'm spanking her", which clarified that I was in charge. He left shortly thereafter. Friday night, I was about to give a shy woman a spanking and went with her to a bedroom and shut the door. We were doing preliminary chat when she sat up. The creepy fellow had quietly entered the room and closed the door behind him. I explained that she was shy and wanted to be spanked in private. He said, "But I can watch, right?" After a blank stare in response, he got the message and left. I'm not sure what to do. I'm contemplating speaking to the party hostess, who is very versed in the lifestyle, and asking her to go over etiquette with him. He seems to be getting frightened of me, so I wouldn't be the ideal one to discuss this with him. Also, I realize that some of my issue with him is due to the vibes he gives off, as opposed to any specific actions. Had he, in the first instance, just given me a grin and said, "C'mon! Pull those panties down!", it would have fit right in. Any suggestions? Speak to the hostess, continue with occasional minor corrections for him, or other? 147 grains, double barrel...3mm shot.....that's all I have to add.

mons -> RE: Dealing with a creep - advice? (5/16/2012 6:30:45 PM)
Hello steven I wrote before I have a question also? My sister has a creep whom thinks "no means yes, hell no means she love amd and f&^% off means she wants to marry me! Now she is ready to report him , he reached his hand inside of her car! Steve tell him get lost and fast it makes my skin crawl just thinking about both of these man! My brother would be so off the wall with comments about what sex he had, or jokes that made me so creep out, I would not ever be alone with him, he is die now but I still remember his crazy ass ways ! He would walk into the bathroom , or try to open the door and the last thing was he just walked into my home without knocking , OK I know I am bringing up old spirits but this letter made me remember some things I wshed I could forget I forgive but I can not forget!!!!!!!!!!!! I hoping someone has a wonderful ideal to help me forget that damn fool? mons

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