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ORIGINAL: LookieNoNookie

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ORIGINAL: MadameM4U

I started on this site almost a week ago and have received some emails I just don't think are "real" but I wanted to share one and get some feedback from all of you since I am new here.

I received this message twice today:

"ill pay you to tie me up pull my pants down and put a cig out on me"

I specifically state on my profile that I am not a professional domme and can't be hired for anything so I figured this was from someone who obviously did not read my profile or if it is from a "real" person they just didn't believe that I am not for hire.

Is this sort of message a common occurrence here?

Welcome to the circus.

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ORIGINAL: luxInferior

I had a 'Domme' tell me to buy her Amazon vouchers in order to prove I was serious and not a fake.

Being keen to please, I decided to go above and beyond and bought her instead an Oxfam voucher to donate a goat to an African family in poverty.
Feeling very pleased with myself I told her what I'd done, and that the African family were so thrilled that they'd actually named the goat after her, and that it had made a big difference to their lives.

She was not so impressed... Rather angry in fact. I cannot work out why. I have not heard from her since.
But, somewhere in Africa 'Megabitch123 the goat' is living a happy life with a family who's life is all the richer for her generosity.

(Some of the above may not be true.... I'd quite like to do this though)

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ORIGINAL: luxInferior

I had a 'Domme' tell me to buy her Amazon vouchers in order to prove I was serious and not a fake.

Being keen to please, I decided to go above and beyond and bought her instead an Oxfam voucher to donate a goat to an African family in poverty.
Feeling very pleased with myself I told her what I'd done, and that the African family were so thrilled that they'd actually named the goat after her, and that it had made a big difference to their lives.

She was not so impressed... Rather angry in fact. I cannot work out why. I have not heard from her since.
But, somewhere in Africa 'Megabitch123 the goat' is living a happy life with a family who's life is all the richer for her generosity.

(Some of the above may not be true.... I'd quite like to do this though)

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But, somewhere in Africa 'Megabitch123 the goat' is living a happy life with a family who's life is all the richer for her generosity.

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ORIGINAL: nequam

Even if the guy was genuine, he made it obvious he didn't read your profile. Ignoring pretty basic information, such as 'i'm not a prodomme' is a serious problem for me. Say he was genuine and you decided to get to know him, what makes you think he would be obedient about anything else? And what makes him think you'd want to take him seriously if he's not bothered to read? So even if they are genuine, something like that would be a no go for me.

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lthrpup wrote:
After you hide or block a few hundred profiles, Collame is like a different website.

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ORIGINAL: ElanSubdued

MadameM4U,

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lthrpup wrote:
After you hide or block a few hundred profiles, Collame is like a different website.

Oh how I wish this were true.  Collar Me has become an entirely wasteful, guilty pleasure.  I say "wasteful" and "guilty" because the site does almost nothing to remove overtly rude and/or overtly sexual profiles, scammers, usurers, professionals, financial dommes, and so forth.  As such, the dating side is plagued by a massive noise to legitimate signal ratio.  Very very occasionally someone catches my attention, and that is usually because they've made a thoughtful post in the forums.  On even rarer occasions, I find profiles written by those sincerely looking to meet and that is a nice yet somewhat shocking surprise on Collar Me.

Side note:  yes, I realize the proper term is "signal to noise ratio", but I've juxtaposed the two keywords to emphasize the one with the larger number first. :-)

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Being a pro or a fin domme does not violate the TOS of the site... (snip)

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I would think as a male sub searching for a relationship with a dominant woman, any mention of the following words:  "goddess", "princess", "spoiled", "tribute", "generous" or use of the $ sign would automatically exclude someone from your search parameters.

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ORIGINAL: LadyConstanze
You don't hear so many complains from women having to put up with horny idiots who think we are fetish delivery systems and should be that for free, to show we are "twu and weal" and I bet the noise ration we are getting on a daily basis is a lot more than yours. Hmmm, for some reason I think subs are just a bit winey...

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ORIGINAL: ElanSubdued
"Princess" and "goddess" sometimes get by, depending on how the words are used.  You can add "piggie", "pay piggie", "wallet", "it's all about me", and a few other choice, selfish phrases, and Amazon wish list links and Paypal gift links to your list... and, yes, that's a fairly representative instant delete list for male submissives looking for a partner.  Anyone who refers to male submissives as a commodity or in supply/demand terms is also generally an instant delete.

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LadyConstanze:
Do you honestly think you would have more luck if there were no pro dommes or fin dommes on this site?  I seriously doubt it...

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LadyConstanze:
You don't hear so many complaints from women having to put up with horny idiots who think we are fetish delivery systems and should be that for free, to show we are "twu and weal" and I bet the noise ratio we are getting on a daily basis is a lot more than yours.  Hmmm, for some reason I think subs are just a bit winey.

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Lizi:
I have to say, I honestly don't get the opinion that if the fin Dommes or pros were gone that somehow things would become better for the submissive male.  It doesn't automatically make more lifestyle Dommes does it by removing those who charge money?

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Lizi:
I can't see that it would discourage lifestyle Dommes from coming here since they'd be in a wide minority and have the advantage of being in that category.  It doesn't seem to discourage the men from coming here.

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ORIGINAL: luxInferior

I had a 'Domme' tell me to buy her Amazon vouchers in order to prove I was serious and not a fake.

Being keen to please, I decided to go above and beyond and bought her instead an Oxfam voucher to donate a goat to an African family in poverty.
Feeling very pleased with myself I told her what I'd done, and that the African family were so thrilled that they'd actually named the goat after her, and that it had made a big difference to their lives.

She was not so impressed... Rather angry in fact. I cannot work out why. I have not heard from her since.
But, somewhere in Africa 'Megabitch123 the goat' is living a happy life with a family who's life is all the richer for her generosity.

(Some of the above may not be true.... I'd quite like to do this though)

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I can dimly recall being so innocent that I could barely recognise 'bait and switchers', never mind as instantly as I do now.  Hmmm.  Well, as always, for newbies, there's no substitute for reading the generic advice and *believing it*.