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Lockit -> RE: Recovering a submissive (5/14/2012 4:44:09 PM)
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ORIGINAL: Aswad
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ORIGINAL: Lockit
The sentence went along with my whole post. Taken away from the rest of the post, it can sound like something different than it was intended.
It must of course be read in context. I merely wish to clarify whether that statement was intended as part of a pointed commentary on the OP having culpability in this situation, or whether your position includes an actual lack of distinction of degrees of severity.
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Maybe my words might seem to be extreme, but I take abuse of this type, followed by a physician playing dom with her and then being encouraged, seriously. Working a great deal of my life with the abused... its a little hard not to take it seriously.
I believe it is possible to take things seriously without losing perspective or discarding nuance. It seems healthier to me to maintain this distinction. Given how you call them "the abused", and not "people who have been abused", you presumably know how many make their experience a part of their identity, and I think neglecting perspective and nuance will be detrimental in regard to that. Similarly, perceptions regarding just how much they can do in terms of their own recovery, how much intervention is required, and so forth, is an area in which it is crucial to be accurate in perception. Sorting them all under one heading would work against that.
Hence, the question.
IWYW,
- Aswad.
I wasn't talking to the op... I was responding to someone that suggested that the op was fine doing what he was doing and that because someone that was abused was so lonely they would go back to the abuser it was best to do it.
I don't claim to say exactly the right thing or have the exact wording that would make everyone comfortable or be the best presentation, though I do try. I do agree with you and don't mean to clump people together or as victims. I will note what you have said... but then again... my wording may reflect that and I may remember and then again... I may not. The effects of stroke have had their way with me. Some days I am better than others. I wasn't very happy when I made that post. In fact, I thought the person I was responding to, was once again... condoning bad behavior in enabling something horrible. In other words, going on history of the person I was responding to.
Still... I would make the post again, I am sure.
And to clarify even further on this post. I have a headache starting... who knows if I have even said what I really wish to say in the way I wish to? lol At this point I don't post much unless it is lighthearted, yet I didn't want to ignore your post because with the headache, I might forget to come back later when better.
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