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RE: submissive does NOT equal doormat!!! - 5/12/2012 4:41:23 AM

ChatteParfaitt

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Just because the veteran posters here find it old hat doesn't mean it won't benefit the lurkers.

This is very true. Despite the OP's condescending tone (big surprise I agree with Jeff on that one), the thread has some wonderful posts and might very well be helpful to new subs lurking in the forums. So I stand corrected.

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RE: submissive does NOT equal doormat!!! - 5/12/2012 9:37:19 AM

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I have them lick mine clean, why should i have to do any of the work...

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RE: submissive does NOT equal doormat!!! - 5/12/2012 10:20:39 AM

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I'm always surprised by those who insist strongly that they are not doormats; that they are submissives to only one person, etc. You see, that's the beauty of many relationships in the U.S.--You can choose to whom you submit and when. Declaring it is not a necessity. There are many avenues of shutting down an arrogant Dom who believes s/he deserves immediate subserviance, regardless of the relationship between the two. I know that this idea of ownership sometimes escalates; in that case, involve the police and invest in a pepper spray canister. Nonetheless, this is not the norm. Keep on being who you are, whether it is submissive to one man/woman, to certain types of people, or to everyone. We are adults and can make our own choices.

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RE: submissive does NOT equal doormat!!! - 5/12/2012 10:00:24 PM

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Submission doesn't equal doormat?!!!!!

Who knew? !

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RE: submissive does NOT equal doormat!!! - 5/12/2012 11:04:07 PM

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Submission doesn't equal doormat?!!!!!

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RE: submissive does NOT equal doormat!!! - 5/12/2012 11:16:17 PM

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Does being submissive mean you have to lay down and take S&@% from A/anyone? NO...absolutely not. Being submissive doesn't mean you are a doormat, or you are spineless. In fact, some of my "subbie" friends are as fiesty as any i know. i think it's sometimes a misconception when new to the lifestyle, especially for new and un-owned subs...and even more so when confronted with a a Dom/me.

Learning to say "no" and even "back off" are two of the things i try to impart to newer members of our community. Its one thing to be in a commited relationship with a Dom/me and have an understanding of behavior...it's a totally different story for every dominant out there to expect you to "take it lying down" so to speak (pardon the pun)...

This does not mean being a "bratty" sub is something i subscribe to...i find it disrespectful and attention seeking.

Would love to hear your thoughts everyone...

Here's my thoughts, since you are eager to hear them: Most of the people who frequent a BDSM board like this are going to be rolling their eyes that you even bothered to start a "no duh" thread like this. You are boxing with shadows. But you know that, huh?

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