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RE: Younger subs - 5/13/2012 12:02:51 PM

Alecta

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It appeals to some but not to every one. Being a Domme is like... being a tennis player, rarely has anything to do with liking SunnyD unless you believe commercials and pron.

The answer to "does x kink exist" is universally yes.
The likelihood of hooking up via the discussion forum is nil -- people don't seem to take kindly to being bombarded by thinly-veiled personal off the "Introduction" section (and even there). I wonder why *sarcasm*

So to recap,
Is there an older Domme who'd be interested in a young guy for NSA? Yes.
Are you going to find her by posting on the CM forum? Not likely. (try a regular fare hookup site)

In my personal experience, there are more ladies in their mid-30s to late-50s seeking out 18/19 year old boys than in their 20s. But older women also tend to want substance and stability in their lives.

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RE: Younger subs - 5/13/2012 12:07:28 PM

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Can you really "cultivate" maturity? Or is it a thing that happens?

I think one can cultivate it in the same way one can actively work on improving any facet of one's personality, but understanding one needs to work on one's maturity takes a certain level of it to begin with, and some people never get that far.

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RE: Younger subs - 5/13/2012 12:08:20 PM

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That is a really interesting question, Hibi, and it might be a whole different topic(though I'm not sure where it would belong on these forums as there is no philosophical section) In my personal opinion though....no it can't be cultivated. Not in the common sense of the word that is. From what I have seen over the years people "mature" for only a couple of reasons. The big ones being time and hardship.

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RE: Younger subs - 5/13/2012 12:17:52 PM

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I've been trying to be polite. I started a thread and rather than addressing the thread a couple of people decided to drop in to offer opinions of my profile. Try being polite to me and you might be surprised at how polite I can be.

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ORIGINAL: CougarRick

Have I been discourteous to you?

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ORIGINAL: Baroana

You seem to be under the mistaken impression that courtesy and communication skills are unimportant, CougarRick. It really doesn't matter how many women are theoretically into you if your attitude turns them off in the first sixty seconds.

You've been a bit snarky on this thread.

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RE: Younger subs - 5/13/2012 12:20:48 PM

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I started off on a bad foot because of my profile, and despite my clarifying the issue and pointing out that I meant no offense, the thread has degraded into a flaming session. Again, I'm trying to move on and be constructive here.

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ORIGINAL: Maturity is important. You might wish to cultivate some. [/color][/size][/font]

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RE: Younger subs - 5/13/2012 12:50:54 PM

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If you think this is a flaming session, you really should not be on the internet.

Your profile has a lot to do with what you are looking for, that's why it's relevant, that's what somebody will be looking for. You think if we wouldn't mention it, it would be polite? Or you think that it would be helpful just to tell you what you want to hear?

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RE: Younger subs - 5/13/2012 1:11:06 PM

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For me age is a number... it has to do with the person... Ive been with males both younger and older.... the most recent boy is 19 yrs younger than I ..he has been on his own for more than ten years which means his life experience has grown him more than someone who is living at home, or in a dorm. I take people on there individual merits

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RE: Younger subs - 5/13/2012 2:05:07 PM

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ORIGINAL: LadyHibiscus

Can you really "cultivate" maturity? Or is it a thing that happens?

Well, I think it's safe to say it doesn't just happen. After all, how many middle-age and older people have we seen act like 3-year-olds just on these boards alone?

IMO, maturity is cultivated, usually through the process of acquiring life experience, which is probably why it seems like it just happens. A younger person can have more experience than someone twice his/her age just because the kid's had a tough life. Sometimes this results in maturity and sometimes it doesn't. That's why I think it's possible to cultivate maturity in other ways, such as lengthy introspection and self-awareness. Introspection and self-awareness aren't necessarily a substitute for life experience, but all the life experience in the world won't matter if the person doesn't employ those qualities to learn from their experiences.

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RE: Younger subs - 5/13/2012 2:14:30 PM

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One of my colleaugues had a saying, "You can have ten years of experience, or you can have the same year of experience ten times."

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RE: Younger subs - 5/13/2012 2:20:37 PM

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I'm pretty sure I've had both. Does that mean I'm doubly screwed?

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RE: Younger subs - 5/13/2012 2:21:22 PM

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You are SO HOSED...

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RE: Younger subs - 5/13/2012 2:24:08 PM

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Fuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuck!

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RE: Younger subs - 5/13/2012 2:46:24 PM

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I appreciate that you are not impressed by me, and I have tried to explain myself. I'm very open to constructive criticism, I just feel that at this stage this issue is being beaten to death. You read my profile, and were not impressed and made yourself clear. I acknowledged that, and tried to move on. For your part you have also moved on and offered some constructive advice since, and I genuinely appreciate that. I even welcome this comment, because while you don't have a high opinion of me, you are at least trying to be constructive with your criticism.

Look, I'm actually quite thick skinned, but at some point it would be nice if the discussion moved on. Is every post or thread I make moving forward going to be hijacked by people who did not like my original profile?

Again, I'm not looking to argue and I'm willing to admit where I was wrong, but by the same token, I would like to be able to contribute to these forums and have people address my thread on it's merits, rather than bringing in things outside the thread

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ORIGINAL: LadyConstanze

If you think this is a flaming session, you really should not be on the internet.

Your profile has a lot to do with what you are looking for, that's why it's relevant, that's what somebody will be looking for. You think if we wouldn't mention it, it would be polite? Or you think that it would be helpful just to tell you what you want to hear?

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RE: Younger subs - 5/13/2012 3:02:26 PM

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Well, you keep bringing your profile up and that people do have criticism, we try to tell you why.

OK, so you want an older woman, an older woman has more experience in a lot of things, she is going to look at things you consider unimportant, those things might be very important to her. My big thing is how a person I am with treats other people, a guy who's rude to staff or service personnel - no fucking way, shows me what I need to know about his character and gives me a good glimpse of how he's going to treat me when he doesn't want to impress me anymore...

Same thing with your profile, women notice those things.

As to the merits of your post, some women do, some don't, seems most of us don't - what more merits can be discussed?

You know your best option would be to go to a vanilla place where women older than you hang out, if one of them picks you up, she will be much more experienced and more dominant than girls your own age and she'll let you know what she expects. Your post reeks a bit of "I want any woman older than me fulfill this fantasy I have", and that's not going to fly, not with regular women and not with dommes. Simple

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RE: Younger subs - 5/13/2012 3:20:56 PM

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Look, I do want to remain here and learn a bit about the culture as I am very new to it. I came here having tried a few other discussion/chat/RP sites and wanted to explore a bit here. How at this stage do I move on at this site and be able to contribute to discussions?

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ORIGINAL: LadyConstanze

Well, you keep bringing your profile up and that people do have criticism, we try to tell you why.

OK, so you want an older woman, an older woman has more experience in a lot of things, she is going to look at things you consider unimportant, those things might be very important to her. My big thing is how a person I am with treats other people, a guy who's rude to staff or service personnel - no fucking way, shows me what I need to know about his character and gives me a good glimpse of how he's going to treat me when he doesn't want to impress me anymore...

Same thing with your profile, women notice those things.

As to the merits of your post, some women do, some don't, seems most of us don't - what more merits can be discussed?

You know your best option would be to go to a vanilla place where women older than you hang out, if one of them picks you up, she will be much more experienced and more dominant than girls your own age and she'll let you know what she expects. Your post reeks a bit of "I want any woman older than me fulfill this fantasy I have", and that's not going to fly, not with regular women and not with dommes. Simple

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RE: Younger subs - 5/13/2012 3:23:30 PM

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Thank you

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ORIGINAL: MissImmortalPain

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Does the idea of a large age gap appeal to dommes?

The honest and simple answer to this question is it does for some and it doesn't for other. Some of us are "mommy dommes" but only deal with those that seem to be stuck in their teen years. Some of us like to train it out of them. Others like to enjoy the youthful attitude many of them carry with them. Still others have no wish to go there at all. As with all "Do dommes like...(fill in the blank)" questions, there is never just one answer.

If you are reallly looking for advice I would suggest filling your profile out a little better. Tell the older woman/women what it is about her/them that you are really attracted to and what it is you believe you have to offer her/them. And I don't just mean with that list on the side. Use you words to convey who and what you really are.

Good luck.

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RE: Younger subs - 5/13/2012 4:27:57 PM

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Do I find younger (still legal) men sexually appealing? Sure I do. However that said, my fantasy ends after I exhaust myself sexually and then reality hits. Most younger men are not emotionally mature enough for the sort of relationship I want. They also tend to lack the life experience I want to find in a long term partner as well... and I don't do short-term.

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RE: Younger subs - 5/13/2012 4:33:28 PM

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ORIGINAL: CougarRick
Look, I'm actually quite thick skinned, but at some point it would be nice if the discussion moved on. Is every post or thread I make moving forward going to be hijacked by people who did not like my original profile?

Again, I'm not looking to argue and I'm willing to admit where I was wrong, but by the same token, I would like to be able to contribute to these forums and have people address my thread on it's merits, rather than bringing in things outside the thread

Do you actually want the truth on that? There's a chance that any time you start a thread that your profile will come into it. Some people on this site almost never look at profiles and others do it when a person starts a thread so they have a better grasp of who is asking the question. Logical solution, fix the profile so it doesn't become the topic of your thread, rather than the question you've asked. Simple.

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RE: Younger subs - 5/13/2012 5:44:05 PM

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Why are you so set on an older woman anyway?

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RE: Younger subs - 5/13/2012 5:45:59 PM

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Ok, I just perved the profile. He's 18 (or so he says). He's practically a toddler. This discussion is pointless.

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