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servingyou91 -> RE: Just got rejected by a dominant woman (5/15/2012 3:53:24 AM)


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ORIGINAL: Notausername

I feel you op. I just don't understand why doms have to make messaging so difficult. I can't message a dom without most of them being in a stupid fucked up attitude. If a dom is seriously that fed up with being messaged by so many then maybe they shouldn't have a profile that says they're "seeking" someone or even not have a profile at all.

Dude we're subs. I didn't open this thread to bag on domme's I opened it to see what other people think so that I can decide if I need to be doing something differently or not. Turns out I do.

That's our job as subs. Tweaking ourselves for a domme's liking. If you don't like that idea you probably need to consider being a dom. Otherwise you need to be a little more open-minded.

You might not be appealing to a domme right now but pay attention to detail, gain some new perspective and you may have more luck in the future. Take it from someone who just figured that out.




LadyPact -> RE: Just got rejected by a dominant woman (5/15/2012 4:07:40 AM)

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ORIGINAL: servingyou91
I'm not telling myself anything. I'm telling you what she told me. She could have been lying about it to make me feel better but I somehow doubt that since she wasn't exactly forgiving.
Besides. There's no logic behind 'no response is a response'. Lets say I send someone a message. Next day I don't have a response. So I conclude that no response is a response. I leave her alone, in fact I stop logging onto the website altogether because I believe she has no intention to contact me. Then the next day she sends her response. But I don't know about it so I don't log on.

This is what I mean by no response may or may not be a response. Sometimes it means 'I have nothing to say to you' and others it means 'busy atm'. This is what creates my anxiety.

She didn't lie to you to make you feel better.  She lied to you to make you feel worse.  In other words, "oh, sure, I was going to reply, but now that I've been irritated by the nagging, I'll just go with the next guy on the email list".  See why that hurts just a little bit more?

As to whether you log on or not around this place, some random chick that you sent an email to honestly isn't going to care.  There will be a hundred more just like you who check that submissive box that will create an account here in the next twenty-four hours and a hundred more the day after that.  Women on this site are not sitting back waiting for emails to roll in and most of the ones that we do get as first contact emails are ones that we don't even want.  The odds on this site for a male with no lifestyle experience SUCK.

Fix the profile that just about every woman on the thread has told you negative things about, don't make the next pic emphasize your dick in any way, (because, trust Me, dick just isn't that hard for a female to get) and then go to a munch.




servingyou91 -> RE: Just got rejected by a dominant woman (5/15/2012 4:27:16 AM)


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ORIGINAL: LadyPact
then go to a munch.


That's a good idea.




servingyou91 -> RE: Just got rejected by a dominant woman (5/15/2012 4:42:13 AM)

Weird. I changed my pic but it seems on mozilla its still showing the old one. It must have stored that old image as history or something coz I had to clear all history to see my new profile :S




thishereboi -> RE: Just got rejected by a dominant woman (5/15/2012 5:29:09 AM)

Why, are you going to fix his picture problem? Or perhaps your phone sex business isn't going so well and you are out hunting up new clients? Either way don't be surprised if your phone number gets pulled. I believe that violates tos.


OP...sounds like you have this figured out pretty well by now, so all I can say is good luck and welcome to the boards.




servingyou91 -> RE: Just got rejected by a dominant woman (5/15/2012 5:45:36 AM)

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ORIGINAL: thishereboi

Why, are you going to fix his picture problem? Or perhaps your phone sex business isn't going so well and you are out hunting up new clients? Either way don't be surprised if your phone number gets pulled. I believe that violates tos.


OP...sounds like you have this figured out pretty well by now, so all I can say is good luck and welcome to the boards.

Lol, she ran away.

Thanks for the welcome.




kalikshama -> RE: Just got rejected by a dominant woman (5/15/2012 6:16:34 AM)

Missing the context
Post must have violated
And now has been pulled




Whiplashsmile4 -> RE: Just got rejected by a dominant woman (5/15/2012 3:59:44 PM)


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ORIGINAL: LadyPact

quote:

ORIGINAL: servingyou91
I'm not telling myself anything. I'm telling you what she told me. She could have been lying about it to make me feel better but I somehow doubt that since she wasn't exactly forgiving.
Besides. There's no logic behind 'no response is a response'. Lets say I send someone a message. Next day I don't have a response. So I conclude that no response is a response. I leave her alone, in fact I stop logging onto the website altogether because I believe she has no intention to contact me. Then the next day she sends her response. But I don't know about it so I don't log on.

This is what I mean by no response may or may not be a response. Sometimes it means 'I have nothing to say to you' and others it means 'busy atm'. This is what creates my anxiety.



She didn't lie to you to make you feel better. She lied to you to make you feel worse. In other words, "oh, sure, I was going to reply, but now that I've been irritated by the nagging, I'll just go with the next guy on the email list". See why that hurts just a little bit more?



It's a classic...guilt trip trap...power move...LOL




Whiplashsmile4 -> RE: Just got rejected by a dominant woman (5/15/2012 4:14:39 PM)


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ORIGINAL: servingyou91


quote:

ORIGINAL: Notausername

I feel you op. I just don't understand why doms have to make messaging so difficult. I can't message a dom without most of them being in a stupid fucked up attitude. If a dom is seriously that fed up with being messaged by so many then maybe they shouldn't have a profile that says they're "seeking" someone or even not have a profile at all.

Dude we're subs. I didn't open this thread to bag on domme's I opened it to see what other people think so that I can decide if I need to be doing something differently or not. Turns out I do.

That's our job as subs. Tweaking ourselves for a domme's liking. If you don't like that idea you probably need to consider being a dom. Otherwise you need to be a little more open-minded.

You might not be appealing to a domme right now but pay attention to detail, gain some new perspective and you may have more luck in the future. Take it from someone who just figured that out.


Really (exclaimed tone of voice)?? There's a great number of people on here (in general) with tripped up attitudes cutting both ways.

Yeah you tweak yourself for your Dom's/Domme's liking, and not everybody with the Dominant label hanging on their profile. This goes back to what I said about you becoming a Ping-Pong ball. You'll end up lost and confused if you adjust to everybody you interact with on this site. Why? Because everybody has diffferent tastes and expectations. (come on here think about it for a minute). It's really not your job to be submissive everybody long distance, which you've never met, and even more so if they appear to be overly/extremely sensitive with a bit of a tripped up attitude.










angelikaJ -> RE: Just got rejected by a dominant woman (5/15/2012 4:41:12 PM)

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ORIGINAL: servingyou91


I'm not telling myself anything. I'm telling you what she told me. She could have been lying about it to make me feel better but I somehow doubt that since she wasn't exactly forgiving.
Besides. There's no logic behind 'no response is a response'. Lets say I send someone a message. Next day I don't have a response. So I conclude that no response is a response. I leave her alone, in fact I stop logging onto the website altogether because I believe she has no intention to contact me. Then the next day she sends her response. But I don't know about it so I don't log on.

This is what I mean by no response may or may not be a response. Sometimes it means 'I have nothing to say to you' and others it means 'busy atm'. This is what creates my anxiety.


You are not the patient sort at all, are you?
Do you have any idea how many cmails some women get in 24hrs?
Hundreds, no exaggeration.

You write and then you WAIT for a response... patiently.
It might take a day or 2; it might take a week.
You wait.
And then no response is a response.

And if, like in your scenario, you would stop logging in because an anonymous person that you never met, did not answer your email (Read the bolded part again) then I think you have much bigger problems than being impatient.

I joined on 2007.
It took 18 months of being patient for my One to find me... but I wasn't even looking.

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servingyou91 -> RE: Just got rejected by a dominant woman (5/15/2012 5:07:43 PM)

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ORIGINAL: Whiplashsmile4


quote:

ORIGINAL: servingyou91


quote:

ORIGINAL: Notausername

I feel you op. I just don't understand why doms have to make messaging so difficult. I can't message a dom without most of them being in a stupid fucked up attitude. If a dom is seriously that fed up with being messaged by so many then maybe they shouldn't have a profile that says they're "seeking" someone or even not have a profile at all.

Dude we're subs. I didn't open this thread to bag on domme's I opened it to see what other people think so that I can decide if I need to be doing something differently or not. Turns out I do.

That's our job as subs. Tweaking ourselves for a domme's liking. If you don't like that idea you probably need to consider being a dom. Otherwise you need to be a little more open-minded.

You might not be appealing to a domme right now but pay attention to detail, gain some new perspective and you may have more luck in the future. Take it from someone who just figured that out.


Really (exclaimed tone of voice)?? There's a great number of people on here (in general) with tripped up attitudes cutting both ways.

Yeah you tweak yourself for your Dom's/Domme's liking, and not everybody with the Dominant label hanging on their profile. This goes back to what I said about you becoming a Ping-Pong ball. You'll end up lost and confused if you adjust to everybody you interact with on this site. Why? Because everybody has diffferent tastes and expectations. (come on here think about it for a minute). It's really not your job to be submissive everybody long distance, which you've never met, and even more so if they appear to be overly/extremely sensitive with a bit of a tripped up attitude.








I was referring to my pic and the emphasis of kink on my profile which was reflected in my interests section which I removed since I figured people were judging me for it. I could have not changed and said, this is the only non face pic I had at the time and I only put those interests there as a side reference and said no I am not going to change my mind. But I didn't.

And I wasn't saying change every little feature just the main ones. Like have patience. If changing such a habit is going to make other peoples lives easier and mine no different then that's something I want to do. It's changing behaviour not changing beliefs or values.




LookieNoNookie -> RE: Just got rejected by a dominant woman (5/15/2012 5:19:21 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: servingyou91


quote:

ORIGINAL: Notausername

I feel you op. I just don't understand why doms have to make messaging so difficult. I can't message a dom without most of them being in a stupid fucked up attitude. If a dom is seriously that fed up with being messaged by so many then maybe they shouldn't have a profile that says they're "seeking" someone or even not have a profile at all.

Dude we're subs. I didn't open this thread to bag on domme's I opened it to see what other people think so that I can decide if I need to be doing something differently or not. Turns out I do.

That's our job as subs. Tweaking ourselves for a domme's liking. If you don't like that idea you probably need to consider being a dom. Otherwise you need to be a little more open-minded.

You might not be appealing to a domme right now but pay attention to detail, gain some new perspective and you may have more luck in the future. Take it from someone who just figured that out.


You're 20 "never been in a relationship" and you now propose to educate others about lifestyles (of any kind)?

Kid....if you've never been in a relationship previously (Shit man, I wasn't a very bright kid, but the first time I ever got laid was at 11 and 1/2 by an 18 year old blonde bombshell {who also taught me how to, and let me, drive her car hahaha...I thought that was sooooo cool} who I dated for another 18 months or so while her 18 year old boyfriend with a bitchin red 68 super sport Camaro tried like hell to figure out why she wanted to be with me instead of him), bud, you're in the big boys swimming pool now....trying to find your first girlfriend in the kink world is like going to the local grass field airport, taking 6 lessons and sending a resume' into United Airlines with the cover letter telling them "I'm interested in piloting pretty much any of your international flights. I can start next week".

Get a damn girlfriend....like the kind your Mom would like you to get and then, as Jimi Hendrix famously said "are you experienced?"....get some (experience)....then come back.

Right now you wouldn't even know what to do with a Domme, let alone your own dick.




servingyou91 -> RE: Just got rejected by a dominant woman (5/15/2012 5:37:01 PM)


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ORIGINAL: LookieNoNookie

quote:

ORIGINAL: servingyou91


quote:

ORIGINAL: Notausername

I feel you op. I just don't understand why doms have to make messaging so difficult. I can't message a dom without most of them being in a stupid fucked up attitude. If a dom is seriously that fed up with being messaged by so many then maybe they shouldn't have a profile that says they're "seeking" someone or even not have a profile at all.

Dude we're subs. I didn't open this thread to bag on domme's I opened it to see what other people think so that I can decide if I need to be doing something differently or not. Turns out I do.

That's our job as subs. Tweaking ourselves for a domme's liking. If you don't like that idea you probably need to consider being a dom. Otherwise you need to be a little more open-minded.

You might not be appealing to a domme right now but pay attention to detail, gain some new perspective and you may have more luck in the future. Take it from someone who just figured that out.


You're 20 "never been in a relationship" and you now propose to educate others about lifestyles (of any kind).

Kid....if you've never been in a relationship previously (Shit man, I wasn't a very bright kid, but the first time I ever got laid was at 11 and 1/2 by an 18 year old blonde bombshell {who also taught me how to, and let me, drive her car hahaha...I thought that was sooooo cool} who I dated for another 18 months or so while her 18 year old boyfriend with a bitchin red 68 super sport Camaro tried like hell to figure out why she wanted to be with me instead of him), bud, you're in the big boys swimming pool now....trying to find your first girlfriend in the kink world is like going to the local grass field airport, taking 6 lessons and sending a resume' into United Airlines with the cover letter telling them "I'm interested in piloting pretty much any of your international flights. I can start next week".

Get a damn girlfriend....like the kind your Mom would like you to get and then, as Jimi Hendrix famously said "are you experienced?"....get some (experience)....then come back.

Right now you wouldn't even know what to do with a Domme, let alone your own dick.


Good on yah, thanks for telling me that story it was very insightful... Next time I approach a domme I'll tell them I was having sex since I was eleven.





seekingOwnertoo -> RE: Just got rejected by a dominant woman (5/15/2012 5:38:54 PM)


Dumped by a Domme? .... [:D] .... it has happened before, even when there has been a "Lot" of interpersonal interaction. Much more than one or two emails ...

Just like vanilla dating ... things are no different in terms of getting connected.

That said I am seconding thishereboi ....


quote:

ORIGINAL: thishereboi

OP...sounds like you have this figured out pretty well by now, so all I can say is good luck and welcome to the boards.



Good Luck! [:)]





servingyou91 -> RE: Just got rejected by a dominant woman (5/15/2012 5:42:12 PM)


quote:

ORIGINAL: LookieNoNookie

bud, you're in the big boys swimming pool now....trying to find your first girlfriend in the kink world is like going to the local grass field airport, taking 6 lessons and sending a resume' into United Airlines with the cover letter telling them "I'm interested in piloting pretty much any of your international flights. I can start next week".

Get a damn girlfriend....like the kind your Mom would like you to get and then, as Jimi Hendrix famously said "are you experienced?"....get some (experience)....then come back.

Right now you wouldn't even know what to do with a Domme, let alone your own dick.


Point taken.




servingyou91 -> RE: Just got rejected by a dominant woman (5/15/2012 5:46:23 PM)



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ORIGINAL: LookieNoNookie
(Shit man, I wasn't a very bright kid, but the first time I ever got laid was at 11 and 1/2 by an 18 year old blonde bombshell {who also taught me how to, and let me, drive her car hahaha...I thought that was sooooo cool} who I dated for another 18 months or so while her 18 year old boyfriend with a bitchin red 68 super sport Camaro tried like hell to figure out why she wanted to be with me instead of him),


Good on yah, thanks for telling me that story it was very insightful... Next time I approach a domme I'll tell them I was having sex since I was eleven.




seekingOwnertoo -> RE: Just got rejected by a dominant woman (5/15/2012 5:53:29 PM)


quote:

ORIGINAL: servingyou91

Next time I approach a domme I'll tell them I was having sex since I was eleven.



Don't think that was Quite what was meant by experienced ... [:D]




NiceButMeanGirl -> RE: Just got rejected by a dominant woman (5/15/2012 6:51:39 PM)

Wow. I thought he just removed his picture and interests section but, when I went to see how he changed it, the whole profile is hidden. He must really be butthurt. Whatever.

NBMG




Whiplashsmile4 -> RE: Just got rejected by a dominant woman (5/15/2012 7:38:01 PM)

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ORIGINAL: NiceButMeanGirl
Wow. I thought he just removed his picture and interests section but, when I went to see how he changed it, the whole profile is hidden. He must really be butthurt. Whatever.

NBMG


Did all the Ping Pong Balls flying around get the best of his 98.23% confidence?




Whiplashsmile4 -> RE: Just got rejected by a dominant woman (5/15/2012 7:48:32 PM)

servingyou91,

Take a deep breath... and gather yourself. Come back and stay in "The Game"... first and foremost you need to believe in yourself regardless of how much experience you do or don't have...(you get the idea).

Self-Belief or Faith in yourself is very important at this stage of the game. You need to find this from within, illregardless of what people say to you.

There's really no need to let this cripple your search.




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