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ORIGINAL: Twenty9male
Do you walk all your life with a limp because it's what you are or do you heal it?

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ORIGINAL: caelestis

Okay, here's the deal... having fetishes doesn't keep you from loving. That'd be like me saying being pansexual keeps me from loving. It doesn't. Does it make things interesting or more difficult sometimes? Sure does. Did it feel wrong for a while? Yes, it did. Did I learn to accept who I am and meld it with relationships that would bring me the kind of love I wanted? Yes.

Instead of learning how to accept yourself and desires that come naturally, you are indeed repressing them by not allowing them a part in your (hopefully) healthy relationships.

I guess if it works for you now, okay. I have a feeling it will weasel itself out eventually though, like gay men who come out in their 40's after having built up a life with a wife and children.

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ORIGINAL: Twenty9male

Exactly, if a fetish is caused by a conditioning or a repressed e-motion the need will go when the root cause is lifted, if a tree has it's roots pulled out the tree will die, if the conditiong behind the fetish is removed the fetish will erase.

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ORIGINAL: caelestis

What I'm trying to get at is this: Why try to completely remove the fetish (which I'm fairly positive won't stick) instead of learning to channel it into something beneficial and healthy?

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ORIGINAL: Lockit

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ORIGINAL: Twenty9male

Exactly, if a fetish is caused by a conditioning or a repressed e-motion the need will go when the root cause is lifted, if a tree has it's roots pulled out the tree will die, if the conditiong behind the fetish is removed the fetish will erase.

The thing is, you keep trying to heal yourself of things that people here don't wish to be healed of. They don't have a problem with it. You continue to post threads about how you have found a way to heal yourself and yet you are here continuing to post about it unhealed. You go off on a number of things that you claim will help you and they aren't working because you keep posting. Have some self control. If you think it is that wrong, shut down the computer, porn or whatever else you are doing, stick it out and refrain, find yourself something else to do.

You... need to control yourself. You don't attempt to do that and then call in your back up socks or alter personality profiles to pull off the same attention seeking, which may be more of your problem than the kink you are so attracted to.

Shit or get off the pot.

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ORIGINAL: Twenty9male

If like you say people don't wish to heal, that's entirely up to them, I wouldn't judge them so please don't judge me.

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ORIGINAL: Lockit

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ORIGINAL: Twenty9male

Exactly, if a fetish is caused by a conditioning or a repressed e-motion the need will go when the root cause is lifted, if a tree has it's roots pulled out the tree will die, if the conditiong behind the fetish is removed the fetish will erase.

The thing is, you keep trying to heal yourself of things that people here don't wish to be healed of. They don't have a problem with it. You continue to post threads about how you have found a way to heal yourself and yet you are here continuing to post about it unhealed. You go off on a number of things that you claim will help you and they aren't working because you keep posting. Have some self control. If you think it is that wrong, shut down the computer, porn or whatever else you are doing, stick it out and refrain, find yourself something else to do.

You... need to control yourself. You don't attempt to do that and then call in your back up socks or alter personality profiles to pull off the same attention seeking, which may be more of your problem than the kink you are so attracted to.

Shit or get off the pot.

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ORIGINAL: caelestis

That didn't answer my question at all.

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ORIGINAL: Lockit

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ORIGINAL: Twenty9male

If like you say people don't wish to heal, that's entirely up to them, I wouldn't judge them so please don't judge me.

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ORIGINAL: Lockit

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ORIGINAL: Twenty9male

Exactly, if a fetish is caused by a conditioning or a repressed e-motion the need will go when the root cause is lifted, if a tree has it's roots pulled out the tree will die, if the conditiong behind the fetish is removed the fetish will erase.

The thing is, you keep trying to heal yourself of things that people here don't wish to be healed of. They don't have a problem with it. You continue to post threads about how you have found a way to heal yourself and yet you are here continuing to post about it unhealed. You go off on a number of things that you claim will help you and they aren't working because you keep posting. Have some self control. If you think it is that wrong, shut down the computer, porn or whatever else you are doing, stick it out and refrain, find yourself something else to do.

You... need to control yourself. You don't attempt to do that and then call in your back up socks or alter personality profiles to pull off the same attention seeking, which may be more of your problem than the kink you are so attracted to.

Shit or get off the pot.

Excuse me? Are you the same person that said I didn't want to be healed of Fibromyalgia and did that accusation, judgement, attack on me? You can't even keep your story or characters straight.

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ORIGINAL: Twenty9male

If your really interested all I could say is research it yourself, if you think my explanation isnt helpful, I'm not a pratictioner or a counsellor, there's not a lot else I can say.

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ORIGINAL: caelestis

That didn't answer my question at all.

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ORIGINAL: caelestis

What I'm trying to get at is this: Why try to completely remove the fetish (which I'm fairly positive won't stick) instead of learning to channel it into something beneficial and healthy?