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abandonded - 6/6/2006 8:19:09 AM   
myshell


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Status: offline 		my master wont answer my calls, should i consider myself abandonded?
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RE: abandonded - 6/6/2006 8:21:01 AM   
mnottertail


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Status: offline 		That isn't much to go on....

How long have you been together?  How long distance are you?  You are searching for a third....

Uff Da......  

Lack of information.

Ron

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RE: abandonded - 6/6/2006 8:21:36 AM   
TolerableCruelty


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move on with life.

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RE: abandonded - 6/6/2006 8:24:35 AM   
redpetals


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RE: abandonded - 6/6/2006 8:27:18 AM   
SirCumsSlut


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quote:

ORIGINAL: myshell

my master wont answer my calls, should i consider myself abandonded?


myshell, as you were told in the lobby this morning, you moved way to fast to accept this man's collar..........If he is not answering your calls or emails, then yes he has taken the chicken shit way out of releasing you........Move on, but move on in finding yourself, do not jump right back into seeking a "Master", more to the point, maybe finding a Mentor would be better for you until you know yourself.  I didn't say anything in the lobby, but it sounds like this so called "Master" was using you for his pleasure and got what he wanted out of you........Look into yourself before beginning your search again.

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RE: abandonded - 6/6/2006 8:28:07 AM   
OedipusRexIt


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ORIGINAL: mnottertail

That isn't much to go on....

How long have you been together?  How long distance are you?  You are searching for a third....

Uff Da......  

Lack of information.

Ron


Ditto.  Did you possibly find him your own replacement....? 

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RE: abandonded - 6/6/2006 8:29:16 AM   
kittensmailbox


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quote:

ORIGINAL: mnottertail

That isn't much to go on....

How long have you been together?  How long distance are you?  You are searching for a third....

Uff Da......  

Lack of information.

Ron


i agree with monottertail...  i mean how long has it been???  Could you be getting punished for something??? 
 
My former Master use to stop talking to me as a form of punishment, {but of course, He told me first}...  LOL until it got old, it just didn't work any more....
 
Stop calling him, see what happens...

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RE: abandonded - 6/6/2006 11:06:37 AM   
Petruchio


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quote:

yes, unless he's dead


Well, if he's dead, he still won't be answering your calls.

And eventually, you will have to move on.

It's just that abandonment wasn't voluntary in such a case.


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RE: abandonded - 6/6/2006 11:37:04 AM   
MasterMoody


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Status: offline 		frist how long have you been togher and is the frist time did he do it to you and if so then yes you should

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RE: abandonded - 6/6/2006 12:14:05 PM   
shygirldesires


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quote:

ORIGINAL: myshell

my master wont answer my calls, should i consider myself abandonded?


Like to start by saying I have a Master.
My Master is looking for a sub. for his sub. To start teaching me to be a Dom.
Looking for a female sub for me,  would be my sub., however would serve both of us.
if interested please contact me.


myshell,
 it seems to me that not only is your post un~insightful, but your profile is just as confusing as your post....
 it seems like SirCumslut has more advantage in knowing more than you are giving out.....

*sigh
why do girls jump into a hole before they really know where they are jumping??  slave or sub ...make the right choice not just any choice out of want or need to the first one who comes along....  JMO

shy, cumslut_DB

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RE: abandonded - 6/6/2006 1:33:29 PM   
amayos


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ORIGINAL: myshell

My master wont answer my calls. Should I consider myself abandonded?



That depends upon a number of different factors, but generally speaking, yes—it may be time to stop calling, and move on. What I find unfortunate about a Master who takes this course of action is the embitterment he may foster in the girl he throws away with such little regard. It doesn't take much to communicate your intentions and thus offer some semblance of closure, at least, even if the act of discarding is in of itself a punishment. One of the most persistent ghosts of the conscience is never knowing why.




< Message edited by amayos -- 6/6/2006 1:36:29 PM >

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RE: abandonded - 6/6/2006 3:04:11 PM   
CollaredProperty


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Status: offline 		1. how long together?
2. 24/7 or just play time?
3. R/L or just Online?
4. Need more info to give you a answer

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RE: abandonded - 6/6/2006 3:09:35 PM   
BreakMeShakeMe


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Status: offline 		Either it's abandon or asshole... either way..I just gave my Dom the heave hoe today for his not talking to me either. I can be a bitch as much as he can be a bastard... cold... hard.. no feelings... just remember... not all are like this... just the select few...

good luck to ya there...


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RE: abandonded - 6/6/2006 6:52:52 PM   
CrappyDom


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Status: offline 		No you shouldn't and until he orders you to eat or breath you should not do either.

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RE: abandonded - 6/6/2006 7:06:14 PM   
LadyHugs


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Status: offline 		Dear myshell, Ladies and Gentlemen;
 
I don't know the other side of the story and how the particulars play out however, patience is in order in all things.
 
A good many cases have been where a medical emergency occurred and didn't have time to call people on the list per se.  Human life takes priority.  There might be a situation where the cell phone is misplaced and or stolen.
 
Sad--so many people are just in too darn of a hurry.  I suppose it is the 'drive thru' mentality-- McDoms/McDommes and or McSub, etc.
 
And, it could be true that you were an easy mark, got what they wanted and gave you a wrong number, as not to be traced and or contacted. 
 
Any scenerios are possible.
 
Respectfully submitted for consideration,
Lady Hugs

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RE: abandonded - 6/6/2006 7:06:58 PM   
CrappyDom


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Status: offline 		Don't forget "McExperts"!

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RE: abandonded - 6/6/2006 8:10:31 PM   
sublizzie


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quote:

ORIGINAL: myshell

my master wont answer my calls, should i consider myself abandonded?


When I first started looking for a Dom I was a major attention whore. I wanted immediate attention NOW....all of the time. I was told by my mentors to let go and see what would happen but that frightened me. I didn't know what to do with all of my submissive feelings. There was this huge need to have someone guide me.

I've learned to ease back and not be so needy. It wasn't easy. It wasn't fun. I got hurt a lot. I hurt a couple of people in the process too. I'm not proud of that. But through all of the ups and downs that I've been through I've learned that, while I would love to find the One, I don't *need* to. I have found ways to channel my submission that deal with that need. (But then I'm more D/s than SM.)

The other day a Dom and I were talking about a newbie sub he had been talking with. She told him to bug off when he hadn't emailed her within a time frame she thought was appropriate. I saw my early self in her behavior. It wasn't an unduly long time, unless you are in that newbie stage where you need constant attention.

Abandoned? It would depend on just how long it's been. A couple of days or a couple of years....

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RE: abandonded - 6/8/2006 7:28:11 PM   
awhisper


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Status: offline 		hello myshell,
i also find myself in a similar situation. As i love Master, i have made all attempts to keep lines of communication open, and have also in emails expressed my feelings and the affect this has on me. In my case, i have decided to give Him time, as life happens and sometimes a slave/sub is not first in line to be given attention. However, there has to be a time frame that suits the situation. Depending on the situation at hand, you can set your own parameters regarding such. i can tell you everyone is different, some Masters wish to micro-manage, while Others prefer to give you enough rope to either hang yourself, or maintain the ropes quality for future bondage. i understand how much it can hurt to be set aside, as this is what i am currently dealing with, and will have to at some point move on if Master continues to ignore my communications. Nothing would be more upsetting to me, but i do not feel i am an asset to anyone if i am not a strong and intelligent woman. Lingering in limbo for One who chooses not to respond is not an intelligent move, yet as i said before, a time frame that fits the situation is vital in a decision of this magnitude.
Best of luck,
awhisper

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RE: abandonded - 6/8/2006 7:43:33 PM   
theRose4U


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quote:

Like to start by saying I have a Master.
My Master is looking for a sub. for his sub. To start teaching me to be a Dom.
Looking for a female sub for me,  would be my sub., however would serve both of us.
if interested please contact me.


First rule of being a Domme, what you just did is TERRIBLY tacky. At least let the body cool off a little bit before trying to take it for yout own. She's got a history of jumping to hard too fast and we haven't confirmed the dom's dead yet.

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RE: abandonded - 6/8/2006 10:11:09 PM   
reverendtorres


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ORIGINAL: theRose4U

quote:

Like to start by saying I have a Master.
My Master is looking for a sub. for his sub. To start teaching me to be a Dom.
Looking for a female sub for me,  would be my sub., however would serve both of us.
if interested please contact me.


First rule of being a Domme, what you just did is TERRIBLY tacky. At least let the body cool off a little bit before trying to take it for yout own. She's got a history of jumping to hard too fast and we haven't confirmed the dom's dead yet.


She was quoting theOP's profile, not advertising that she was looking.

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