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not happy - 5/20/2012 11:12:01 PM

Chrisgrsmr

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Im honestly not happy with this site i havent really gotten any hits on here i dont get why but whatever please feel free to check me out and message me with a comment or whatever love to hear from everyone

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RE: not happy - 5/20/2012 11:51:27 PM

angelikaJ

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You have no text in your profile.

That makes your profile uninteresting to read.

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RE: not happy - 5/21/2012 12:06:18 AM

Chrisgrsmr

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Thank you i hadnt realized that what i wrote didnt post thats what i get for doing it mobile oh well fixed now thanks again

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RE: not happy - 5/21/2012 1:17:49 AM

masmiss

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Welcome, Chris.

My advice is to delete the whiny, self-pitying journal entries. That will turn off women pronto. Write some things about yourself outside of kink. What activities do you enjoy? Women, for the most part, are looking for relationships and we look for compatibility in a guy. And all women have their own idea of what is attractive so don't criticize your appearance in your profile.

Why not try some local events or munches to meet women and/or friends in the lifestyle. You can learn lots that way.

Best of luck to you.

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RE: not happy - 5/21/2012 3:29:25 AM

Killerangel

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Hello and welcome to CM,

I'm sorry your experience isn't what you wanted it to be, what can you do to change that? You may want to keep in mind that you probably have to be proactive and view and write to others if you aren't doing that already in order to get that in return. If you are doing those things it may take a longer time to see results. This site is pretty much like life, you get what you put into it. One of your journal entries mentions that you usually have this same problem on other sites. It might help to approach being successful on CM like any other social situation, how do you get friends in real life?

That being said, I found it very good that you had life interests listed in your interest section on your profile along with kink since a lot of guys tend to just concentrate on what gets them off, and hey, your interests were varied and engaging. Try looking over the profile text to correct errors and hopefully with time you'll revamp things somewhat and become more positive. Women usually find an assured, upbeat attitude attractive- on a site where you are competing with lots of other men you may have to put forth a better side of you so they can see how attractive you are instead of how downtrodden.
Good luck with things.

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RE: not happy - 5/21/2012 3:41:28 AM

DarkSteven

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Hi, Chris. First thing for you to know is that men way outnumber women on collarme.com. So your idea about hoping sub women will take the initiative - ain't gonna work. The men that show initiative and make the first move get the women.

Second, you live in Michigan! There are plenty of real life events there. Google <BDSM Rochester Hills> and see what comes up. Look especially for TNG groups (ages 18-35). Good luck!

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RE: not happy - 5/21/2012 6:19:20 AM

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Welcome

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RE: not happy - 5/21/2012 1:43:44 PM

ResidentSadist

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Some punctuation in your 91 word sentence that composes your profile might help give a better impression to the readers. Respecting the people that come to read your profile by making it readable is a good thing. Being sloppy and disrespectful sends a bad impression… they will thing your personality is the same.

Also, you are young and subject to the stereotype that you aren’t old enough to have even learned the disciplines of BDSM yet. So you have to be extra careful to convey your prowess. Saying you "figured id give it a shot” when referring to BDSM doesn’t inspire confidence that someone should submit total control to you when you are just here on whim.

Complaining is not a Domly trait, it is a whiny sub trait. If you have so little control over you life you feel you have to complain about it your profile, which acts as your personal advert, it doesn’t speak well of you.

I hope this helps you understand the impression a submissive gets when evaluating your profile and deciding whether or not you inspire her to feel confident in putting control in your hands.

Good luck with the rewrite.

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RE: not happy - 5/21/2012 3:59:02 PM

LadyPact

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Welcome to the forums, OP.

Steven is right in his comment. Males should not come to this site thinking that all they have to do is create a profile and women will flock to them. You honestly have to make the effort.

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RE: not happy - 5/21/2012 4:27:33 PM

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As to the text in your filled out profile, periods are your friends. As short as it was I could not read it.

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RE: not happy - 5/21/2012 5:05:18 PM

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Go to Fetlife. There is a munch over in Pontiac this Friday, run by some of the best people in the area. There is a very active TNG group that meets in Ann Arbor mostly.

Lots happening in the area, but you do have to pursue it.

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RE: not happy - 5/22/2012 5:43:56 AM

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Hey chris, try talking to them.

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RE: not happy - 5/24/2012 12:36:00 AM

SirLangsdorff

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Try some punctuation. It helps when people read, to begin a sentence and know when the next one starts. And what they said ^^

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