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RE: never ending need to be topped or used - 6/27/2012 9:28:48 AM

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Based on what you shared... it sounds more like a Sexual Addition problem. Because you don't seem to care about age, looks and it's every guy that you see. Most people don't mentally function like this.

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RE: never ending need to be topped or used - 6/27/2012 11:37:12 AM

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My thoughts on a group were this: if he goes to a sex therapy group and meets like minded people, couldn't he just partner with them? I mean groups last for an hour or so right? So how helpful are they really, other than just introducing people who have the same issues. I ask this sincerely because I have never been to a group and do not know how effective they are.

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RE: never ending need to be topped or used - 6/27/2012 12:09:24 PM

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I am not a fan of the group notion, but the plus of a group is that you get to see that other people have the same struggles and you're not all alone in it. It can help to hear their stories and see what they are doing to get past their issues. The bad is when they get utterly wrapped up in their stories and stuck in an endless loop.

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RE: never ending need to be topped or used - 6/27/2012 12:11:08 PM

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And I'm thinking these sex addicts would just get turned on more by listening to others talk about it...vicious cycle.

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RE: never ending need to be topped or used - 6/27/2012 12:48:46 PM

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It sounds to me like the OPis getting to the point (or is past the point) of this being a compulsion as opposed to an actual turn-on...in which case listening to other peoples' struggles with sex addiction can be helpful and encouraging as opposed to wank-fodder. SA is a 12 step program, just like AA, OA, or NA. I wish you luck OP, beating an addiction is hard; especially when you're hooked on sex or food...it's a natural drive that your mind has co-opted into a coping mechanism/compulsion. Cliched as it is, the first step to getting help is knowing you need it...sounds like you're taking that first step. Again, good luck.

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RE: never ending need to be topped or used - 6/27/2012 12:50:12 PM

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That's like saying those who go to AA are going to drink more because they are all alcoholics.

I would say they actually get turned off because they hear the horror stories of what happened to the lives of those people who woke up one morning and realized they needed help...lost their jobs, lost their livelihoods, lost their marriage or partnership, loss of their children, now having an arrest record or even now being a felon due to now being a sex offender, etc....

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RE: never ending need to be topped or used - 6/27/2012 1:31:18 PM

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My thoughts on a group were this: if he goes to a sex therapy group and meets like minded people, couldn't he just partner with them? I mean groups last for an hour or so right? So how helpful are they really, other than just introducing people who have the same issues. I ask this sincerely because I have never been to a group and do not know how effective they are.

I would think that is a risk - like how it is a risk that two alcoholics that meet in their early days at an AA meeting may decide to jack it in and go out drinking...

The whole thing is though the sense of help, and community and others in the same position... and hearing what happens when people loose it all is a very reality bringing thought

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