Lockit
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ORIGINAL: PeonForHer Have you had a proliferation of the use of the phrase 'hard working' your side of the pond? Over here, those on benefits are always contrasted with 'hard working' people. Nobody just does work here, anymore. If they do any work at all, it'll be *hard* work. Me, I just do work. I don't do hard work, because I've discovered that this makes me knackered. I've never really learned how to enjoy being knackered, unfortunately. I'm not sure how to answer your question, as I only know my own experiences. When I directed the shelter, I saw a lot of 'attitude' about the clients. I may have had some of my own to start with, because I was amazed at who needed to be there. Some that donated for the cause, were often abused or homeless at some point in life and they would share that with me, but didn't want anyone to know. If they felt the need to hide a life changing experience, then they felt that they would be judged by it. I know when I lost it all and I mean, I lost it all... career, volunteer work, income, savings, house, cars, health and one day... my children, that I was and am still judged. People think I made poor choices. They think I did something wrong. I know I worked around the clock. One of the things said most about me by employers was that I was the hardest worker they knew... when I was there. I was too sick to be consistent in being there every day. Sometimes things happen to people you wouldn't expect them to happen to (Kind of like that, people get pregnant, but it won't happen to me bit) and yes, I think there is a lot of judgement and condemnation of those that have things happen to them. I think in part that it is fear that something could happen to them, not understanding those types of life issues and that if they look the other way, they don't have to be humane about it and find fault sometimes where there is no fault, because they might be expected to do something. Yet, that is my personal take on it and maybe my own attitudes! lol
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