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DaddyLogansgirl -> how to prove (5/29/2012 10:43:43 PM)

i am looking for some advice on how to prove as a slave to my Dom that i truly want this life with Him. He currently lives like 600 miles away and is thinking of moving to where i am. He is very demanding and strong and he told me to show him in my own physical way to show him on cam i want him and this lifestyle permanently b4 he makes a big move....

ANY SUGGESTIONS?????



myotherself -> RE: how to prove (5/29/2012 10:48:04 PM)

It's an impossible question for us to answer because we don't know what your Dom is looking for in a lifetime slave.

Talk to him. Ask him what he wants/expects/needs from a slave, then try to do it.



DarkSteven -> RE: how to prove (5/29/2012 10:49:35 PM)

Um. Your profile says that you're a couple looking for a sub woman to join you.

May I ask where this insecurity came from? Did your Dom suggest that you need to perform some task to prove yourself?



ResidentSadist -> RE: how to prove (5/29/2012 10:51:26 PM)

Type up an affidavit, the contents of which state how you truly want this life with him. Go get it notarized and give it to him. Explain that the document is good enough to present as evidence in court, should be good enough for him.

How's that?



DaddyLogansgirl -> RE: how to prove (5/29/2012 11:02:04 PM)

Yes He wants me to physically show Him on cam that i truly want Him and the life with Him on cam. He has made me punish myself on cam before



littlewonder -> RE: how to prove (5/29/2012 11:06:34 PM)

Imo if I ever had to prove to someone I wanted to be with them then I was already with the wrong person.

Sounds to me like he's just another hng.



asiansubmissie -> RE: how to prove (5/30/2012 2:13:25 AM)


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ORIGINAL: littlewonder

Imo if I ever had to prove to someone I wanted to be with them then I was already with the wrong person.

Sounds to me like he's just another hng.



hng?



DarkSteven -> RE: how to prove (5/30/2012 2:28:22 AM)


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ORIGINAL: DaddyLogansgirl

Yes He wants me to physically show Him on cam that i truly want Him and the life with Him on cam. He has made me punish myself on cam before


Don't both of you live in Reno? Why would camming be important?

Perhaps do a quick study of interpretive dance and then dance for him?



AthenaSurrenders -> RE: how to prove (5/30/2012 2:29:11 AM)

My Master moved from America to the UK to be with me. I 'proved' I was serious and committed to it by working through the immigration requirements, finding us a suitable home, introducing him to my family, ensuring I was in a stable job which could support us until he was legally allowed to work, making wedding plans, researching international removals/customs laws, and making detailed budget plans to make sure we could afford it. We also had lots of serious talks about how it might affect us to start living together with the additional pressures of him re-location.

I wouldn't really call this 'showing him physically on cam' however. I suspect what you are really asking is 'what kinky stuff can I do on cam for this person in the hope it will persuade him to be with me in real life'. Sounds like he just wants to get off.

I dunno? Insert a pineapple? That's pretty dedicated.

Edited: Steven's interpretive dance idea is better.

Other suggestions:
Make a pinata in his likeness and fill it with kinky toys
Sit at the computer desk without moving for days, a la secretary
Create a tapestry telling the story of your relationship



lizi -> RE: how to prove (5/30/2012 4:28:20 AM)

I sat here and tried to think of how to answer your questions seriously, it seems to be stressing you out quite a lot and and I felt like i wanted to help out if I could. I kept thinking why? Why would you have to put a show, on cam, for him to want to move to you? What does one thing have to do with another?

Surely he knows you want him there, the cam show just seems to be for his pleasure, not for some pseudo serious display of serious acceptance of a BDSM lifestyle. But that's where if he had an underlying reason then it's known to him and you need to find out. Then you'll know what to do. He's not communicating all that well in my mind, by drawing a line between two things that really don't match up and not giving you the context you are supposed to work with. I mean hey, you could dress up on cam like a hamster and recite "Jabberwocky" by Lewis Carroll which seems like nonsense, but it 'could' signal your willingness to go to great lengths to be humiliated and therefore ready to live with the man. You could do anything theoretically and draw a parallel to lifestyle matters.

Ask him what he's looking for. I have no idea. It doesn't make any sense in the least to me to ask someone to put on a cam show of some all-important thing which you have no idea of, and say that a huge thing like living together is riding on this thing that has no instructions with it. Is he perhaps wanting to say you failed and then he won't need to move? It's a thought...



angelikaJ -> RE: how to prove (5/30/2012 4:28:47 AM)


quote:

ORIGINAL: DaddyLogansgirl

i am looking for some advice on how to prove as a slave to my Dom that i truly want this life with Him. He currently lives like 600 miles away and is thinking of moving to where i am. He is very demanding and strong and he told me to show him in my own physical way to show him on cam i want him and this lifestyle permanently b4 he makes a big move....

ANY SUGGESTIONS?????


I am wondering something: have you met him in person?



lizi -> RE: how to prove (5/30/2012 4:38:50 AM)

Are you sure this isn't just some way for him to get his rocks off by him watching you insert a 24" dildo or something? I'll tell you what, find out what he wants, get some idea of what he's looking for, and you may have the answer to if you are still interested in HIM. If it's some sexually kinky task why would he even draw a parallel between that and a huge thing like relocating? Would you want someone that superficial around? If it's something deeper than getting his dick hard, and fraught with meaning, then why isn't he giving you any guidance? It just seems weird to me.

If I was going to do this, my little cam show wouldn't really have anything to do with kink or sex as those things are kind of a given, it would be something I put a lot of time into and had special meaning. Dress up in a lovely outfit of lingerie or even an evening gown and read him a poem or something you've written. Create something, I draw and paint, I'd maybe do an abstract painting of how I feel about him and give him an explanation of it on cam - what the aspects of it mean to you. Do the dance Steven recommended. But something like inserting a pineapple (great idea AS!) or punishing yourself seems really pretty run of the mill, meh. That doesn't really have any special meaning at all, just look at porn, it's all been done before.



littlewonder -> RE: how to prove (5/30/2012 5:38:25 AM)


quote:

ORIGINAL: asiansubmissie


quote:

ORIGINAL: littlewonder

Imo if I ever had to prove to someone I wanted to be with them then I was already with the wrong person.

Sounds to me like he's just another hng.



hng?



Horny net geek, a person who is online just to jerk off and nothing more. Imo, especially if you two have never met, is just a guy looking to have some anonymous fun online. He's not looking for anything serious no matter what he may tell you otherwise.



kittenheels43 -> RE: how to prove (5/30/2012 5:54:47 AM)

the truth is, 99% (ok, not an actual statistic, just my experience having lots of friends who've been there done that) of long distance online relationships involve at least 1 partner who is only in it for kicks, with no intention of turning it real-time, and who has deliberately looked for someone who lives far to far away for a real-time meet. oh I am not saying you cannot BOTH fall truly in love over the internet, been there, done that, (by accident, and ended up living together)

As for the 'how to prove it' thing, well seriously, for one thing this suggests he does not think you are already giving you're all for him. It is also emotional blackmail, which ok, Doms do sometimes, but if he truly cares for you why is he torturing you like that? If he decides not to move you will be left blaming yourself and feeling inadequate? Yet you have no way of knowing he ever intends to really move to you!

I mean really, if you are desperate to prove it, take your lappy to a tattoo parlour and get his name tattoo'd on your ass on cam... (hell tattoo's can be laser'd off it goes pear shaped, lmao) but I say buyer beware... you might pay the price, but the goods may never be delivered




graceadieu -> RE: how to prove (5/30/2012 6:02:21 AM)

Maybe you could show him the housing options and job opportunities you've researched for him?

Also, have you guys actually met in real life? It seems like sometimes long distance people get the cart in front of the horse and talk about relocation before even meeting. If you haven't met, the first step definitely would be for you guys to get together for a weekend sometime soon. I'd recommend getting together at least a couple times to make sure you actually dig each other in person.



DesFIP -> RE: how to prove (5/30/2012 7:00:15 AM)

Have you met him in person? Have you visited him in his home?

Because, being an avowed cynic, something about this scenario sets off alarm bells. I'm thinking he's married and looking for naive girls to wank to on cam.

What does he have to do to prove to you that he deserves your submission?



OsideGirl -> RE: how to prove (5/30/2012 7:23:12 AM)


quote:

ORIGINAL: kittenheels43

the truth is, 99% (ok, not an actual statistic, just my experience having lots of friends who've been there done that) of long distance online relationships involve at least 1 partner who is only in it for kicks, with no intention of turning it real-time, and who has deliberately looked for someone who lives far to far away for a real-time meet.


It's not a long distance relationship, unless you've met face to face. Otherwise, it's just a cyber relationship.

quote:

ORIGINAL: DaddyLogansgirl

Yes He wants me to physically show Him on cam that i truly want Him and the life with Him on cam. He has made me punish myself on cam before
How will anything you could possible do on a cam PROVE that you're dedicated? All it proves is that you're willing to give him free porn and wank material.



poise -> RE: how to prove (5/30/2012 7:44:59 AM)

My first suggestion is to delete your current profile, as it states you are already in a
serious lifestyle relationship with another man, and are hoping for a girl to join you.

Then, come back to this post, and in detail, tell us 10 things you have already done on
cam for him to make him consider you as a prospective slave in the first place.

After that, have him come to this thread and discuss what he enjoyed about those 10 cam
moments, and what he feels you could do to improve upon them. It's also crucial to know
whether he wanked over any/all of them or not.

If all else fails, go with the pineapple suggestion.



Toppingfrmbottom -> RE: how to prove (5/30/2012 7:54:28 AM)

Personally I call fowl. If he doesnt see it in your everyday actions and words and needs more proof via things done on cam just to proove it seems really fishy to me


Daddy was only 2 hours away, we only got to see each other once a week and talk constantly on the phone, but there was no doubt in any ones mind I was crazy about him and very much wanted to be with him. None of this proove it to me stuff. He gave up a lot to move to me, because I didn't want to be 2 hours away from my parents, my schooling, nor my volunteering. There was and still isn't a doubt in anyones mind hes crazy for me.

Your man should either know it/ believe it. By your actions already.



ProlificNeeds -> RE: how to prove (5/30/2012 8:03:27 AM)

FR~

To prove to YOU he's serious you two should get together in real life and see if you click.

Having you 'prove' shit on cam means he just wants to choke the chicken while you expose yourself. Afterwards he will turn off the PC and go back to his wife and forget about you.



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