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Plz help me - 6/11/2012 10:16:35 AM

mightymark

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Hey guys I'm kinda new to this so I don't know what to say. I'm really don't know what I am look for but I don know I would like to find some one to talk to to find out what there. I think I want to be a slave or sub but I really don't much about them so could some one help me out Plz.

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RE: Plz help me - 6/11/2012 10:23:42 AM

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There's lots of information on submission available all over the place! The forums are a really good place to start. Your opening was a little hard to read but I understood it - keep that in mind when you have questions to ask, since good questions get you good answers!

Welcome aboard!

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RE: Plz help me - 6/11/2012 10:31:21 AM

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Welcome to the forums hon, take a tour of the ask a slave/submissive forum maybe, do a search for the booklist and remember to breathe dear :)

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RE: Plz help me - 6/11/2012 10:38:03 AM

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best bit of advise I can give is this

don't jump in feet first, dip your toes, give them a wiggle, have a swish... hopefully you'll find someone to lead you deeper gently

you take it at YOUR speed. Do not allow yourself to bullied. YOU are valuable, don't let anyone tell you otherwise.

A good Dom/Domme will value you, help you discover what you need, enjoy that process with you. They will thoroughly enjoy watching you struggle between the need for submission and your own natural pride, but they will tell you how proud of you they are when you do well.

as for slavery, its not for everyone, its not a game, its not even a choice, its a state of mind, or perhaps a state of soul is a better description? and don't go taking the first collar offered to you, you need to trust them 100% to do that, you need to feel safe and valued. You need to be truly ready to commit to it, to accept it, to give all control to the person offering it. You have to NEED it.
(and then you'll discover what I did, the collar was there already, you just couldn't 'see' it)

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RE: Plz help me - 6/11/2012 10:45:40 AM

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Awesome post and what she said :)

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RE: Plz help me - 6/11/2012 10:51:47 AM

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Also, there's a great sticky at the top of the "Ask a Mistress" forum.

Welcome!

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RE: Plz help me - 6/11/2012 11:10:46 AM

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Best of luck in your journey.

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RE: Plz help me - 6/11/2012 12:31:22 PM

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Hi, Mark. Check out the following forums:

General BDSM

Ask a Mistress, and

Ask a Sub/Slave

Read through those forums and get a feel for the lifestyle.

Welcome to collarme!

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RE: Plz help me - 6/11/2012 3:01:06 PM

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Pay no attention to the snark though, we throw that in there for entertainment, lol. Welcome and good luck. Patience is definitely your friend.

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RE: Plz help me - 6/11/2012 8:41:31 PM

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Good luck and enjoy the journey.

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RE: Plz help me - 6/12/2012 5:55:46 AM

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Hey mark, i've got to say welcome, but you read like hard work.

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RE: Plz help me - 6/12/2012 8:05:45 AM

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Welcome

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RE: Plz help me - 6/12/2012 4:40:37 PM

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RE: Plz help me - 6/13/2012 5:48:50 AM

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Ahoy, welcome, salve. . . . . bla bla bla

Best of luck finding the answers to your questions. One of the most helpful things, I find, for newbies, is to go over an extensive BDSM checklist. Not only does it have many examples of what there is, you will probably find yourself looking up some of the terms. It also helps you focus on what you're interested in. Also check yahoo and google groups for kinky people in your area. You might have a local TNG or other BDSM community affiliate. As for the real. . . . . well good luck with that too (but less likely).

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