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i won't say you've betrayed him, but you've created a vanilla "deal" and are now asking, 5 months later, for advice on how to change the "deal". do you not see systemic problems with this proposition?

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ORIGINAL: poise

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ORIGINAL: Karmastic
and to stay on topic - OP, i read your original reply, and don't worry, i took no offense at
you thinking i was impatient. if you have comments on anyone's post here, i'm sure we
would all love to hear them.

This is the second time you've referenced the OP as having made a second reply in this post,
when in fact, she hasn't even logged in since since she made the initial post.
Is there some invisible ink that only you can see?

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ORIGINAL: Maddy1

Hi everyone! I am very new to the web site and the lifestyle. I'm Madison.
I have a question I was hoping someone could help me with. About a year ago I started dating a guy and as our relationship developed, I found out he was into the bdsm lifestyle as a dominant. He introduced me to bondage, control, rough play, etc. I discovered I am completely submissive, only in the bedroom though. This was new and exciting to me. Unfortunately our relationship did not translate to real world as I could not stand his controlling and manipulative demeanor in public life.

So now, I've been dating a new guy Tim and I think I'm falling hard for him. We've been together about 5 months and I've been too nervous to tell him my desire for him to dominate me in bed. We've had vanilla sex and he seems to like to be the one in control but it's never go further than like hair pulling.
I am desperately wanting to tell him or show him how I would like him to be during sex but scared he will think I'm crazy and scare him off.
How do I ease someone into this kind of stuff? I am too uncomfortable to just come out and say it.
He's been out of town for work for the past month and I will be seeing him this weekend. Any advice or suggestions would be greatly appreciated!!