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BrattyBottomRN -> Hard limits? (6/7/2006 7:38:41 AM)
What exactly is a hard limit? Man I should just have a thread where I ask all my annoying questions lmao...

TolerableCruelty -> RE: Hard limits? (6/7/2006 7:42:38 AM)
something that a Dom/sub absolutely will NOT do under any circumstances... such as engage in acts with a child/animal, bloodplay, knifeplay, bondage, tickling, etc ..... something that is just a total " NO " for them. T.R.

LuckyAlbatross -> RE: Hard limits? (6/7/2006 7:52:24 AM)
Something that, unless very unlikely circumstances occurred, is not to be considered as an ok thing to do within the relationship. I don't distinguish between hard limits and soft limits. Something is either ok to do or it's open to discussion. Most people use the terms to mean "Things I never want to/will not be true to myself in order to do" and "Things I will do with someone if I like them enough."

caitlyn -> RE: Hard limits? (6/7/2006 8:32:43 AM)
It's a measure of your hotness on a date ... how long you can keep that lump in your date's pants, while he watches you eat a something smothered in ranch dressing.

juliaoceania -> RE: Hard limits? (6/7/2006 9:07:45 AM)
Hard limit is something I never ever plan on doing. Such examples are in the first response you got. If a dominant wants to be with me he will know that these things are off limits for eternity for me. Soft limit is something that I currently do not know if I am interested in doing. Some of my hard limits are the very things I am burning with curiousity about, but I have a soft limit about them until I progress into a relationship with someone. It is like a trust limit for me, "When I trust you further I may want to try XYZ". At a future date this limit can be renegotiated. It is not off limits in other words

MistressOfGa -> RE: Hard limits? (6/7/2006 9:11:56 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: caitlyn It's a measure of your hotness on a date ... how long you can keep that lump in your date's pants, while he watches you eat a something smothered in ranch dressing. Caitlyn!!! LMAO!! I love it.

SmokeyM -> RE: Hard limits? (6/7/2006 9:25:05 AM)
Hard limit is something that is totally off limits. Soft limits are something that can be talked about and tested. Of course you should always revamp your limits every six months to a years time. Over time your tastes may change and things taken off or added to your hard / soft limits. ~ Smokey

michaelGA2 -> RE: Hard limits? (6/7/2006 11:15:18 AM)
Hard Limits = No Way In Hell

BrattyBottomRN -> RE: Hard limits? (6/7/2006 11:18:08 AM)
Outstanding, totally makes sense.

Tikkiee -> RE: Hard limits? (6/7/2006 11:19:14 AM)
quote: I don't distinguish between hard limits and soft limits. Something is either ok to do or it's open to discussion. I would have to agree with this. Something is either ok to do, open for discussion, or not on the table at all.

crouchingtigress -> RE: Hard limits? (6/7/2006 11:23:00 AM)
Ask as many questions as you want luv, there is no such thing as too much education and information...And in D/s it is especially so, after all, the things we do here literally put your life and well being in another's hands, or thiers in yours, so please never feel odd about asking anything.[:)]

BrattyBottomRN -> RE: Hard limits? (6/7/2006 11:24:50 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: crouchingtigress Ask as many questions as you want luv, there is no such thing as too much education and information...And in D/s it is especially so, after all, the things we do here literally put your life and well being in another's hands, or thiers in yours, so please never feel odd about asking anything.[:)] <smiles> Thanks! It is all about safety. I figured people would get over it if I looked totally green for a while not knowing what things are. I'm still pretty new to all this, and discovering how much I really love it, but I've got a LOT to learn. So anybody who feels like they have something they can teach me or some priceless advice, bring it on! :)

crouchingtigress -> RE: Hard limits? (6/7/2006 11:51:19 AM)
Well there is tons of stuff to learn, that is the best part about it, you learn about yourself, your sexuality, your programing from society, your partner, your fears, your strengths and so many other things that many folks never endeavor to explore... But I do have one piece of wisdom that Master Steve gave me when I first started out, this thing is like a hunger, a ravenous consuming hunger, especially when you are new you want to feast on everything from the banquet...but try to pace yourself, learn to trust yourself, and take your time, keep your mind and your eyes open, the folks here are not any different then the folks in vanilla, mostly good, some bad, and some really really awful, so just keep your wits about you....and remember to always have fun![:D]

KnightofMists -> RE: Hard limits? (6/7/2006 12:17:15 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: BrattyBottomRN ..... It is all about safety. ..... It is ??? Hell I thought it was about having Fun

Mercnbeth -> RE: Hard limits? (6/7/2006 12:19:42 PM)
A 'hard limit' is a list of activities and/or conditions that a dominant-submissive gives their facilitating submissive dominant. Think of it in the same context as instruction you give a masseuse, barber, car mechanic, or anyone you use to provide a service to you. For example, when you go to 'Jiffy Lube' when you complete your check list you tell them to change the oil, but do not change the air filter. You may need an the air filter, if you knew what it did you may really want the air filter; but you can't trust the mechanic since your daddy said NEVER get an air filter from 'Jiffy Lube' because it's a rip off. At some point your car may not run as well as your neighbor's who has the same make/model and comparable miles, and you may wonder why your experience wasn't as good as theirs. The answer is you maintained your 'hard limits'; and never had a mechanic good enough and willing to take the time to discuss them and/or determine if they are in reality hindering the car's performance.

BrattyBottomRN -> RE: Hard limits? (6/7/2006 12:25:19 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: KnightofMists quote: ORIGINAL: BrattyBottomRN ..... It is all about safety. ..... It is ??? Hell I thought it was about having Fun Hahaha... touche.

RiotGirl -> RE: Hard limits? (6/7/2006 2:43:03 PM)
quote: What exactly is a hard limit? Man I should just have a thread where I ask all my annoying questions lmao... a hard limit is saying you will never give Godzilla head

brattysub4 -> RE: Hard limits? (6/7/2006 2:47:11 PM)
i agree with most everyone else it is something in no manner will be done or approached by me

maybemaybenot -> RE: Hard limits? (6/7/2006 2:58:02 PM)
I just want to add that Limits are not soley sexual/play. Limits also can include things such as not allowing your Dominant control over your religious practices or any decision making in regards to your professional life or any other area you do not wnt to give him control of. My profile mentions that "football is a hard limit.. if the game is on, you are not". That truley is a hard limit for me, among other things. mbmbn

maybemaybenot -> RE: Hard limits? (6/7/2006 3:02:03 PM)
deleted due to duplication of prev. post mbmbn

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