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Name the Kink - 6/15/2012 3:53:08 AM

ARIES83

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Name the kink

I thought It would be interesting to have a kind of quiz
and see what comments people came up with.

If a person had the following type of traits and behaviours,
what would you say that person was. (or what condition do they
have, haha)

Also if you relate to a certain behaviour, or have had it
inflicted on you, I would be interested to hear, any thoughts
and feelings about it.

#1.
You commonly like to torment and
frustrate your sex partner, withholding
or decreasing stimulation for amusement.

#2.
You frequently demand humiliating and
degrading acts from your partner during
sex, like begging e.c.t. for them to continue
to receive pleasure.

#3.
You have In the past forced your sex partner
to admit their most vulnerable thoughts and
feelings for your own interest/amusement.

#4.
You make sexual demands on your partner
with little regard as to time or place and receive
greater satisfaction if your choice of time/place
is inconvenient for them.
Example, 3am in the morning, or out in public.

#5.
You have used positive/negative reinforcement
in order to encourage/discourage behaviours in
your partner.

This is just a topic starter, not a survey...
(though it does read a bit like one)

Name the Kink!
- ARIES

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RE: Name the Kink - 6/15/2012 7:57:12 AM

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Dacryphelia?

(It sounds better when read with a whiny tone.)

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RE: Name the Kink - 6/15/2012 8:18:06 AM

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Diverticulitis?

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RE: Name the Kink - 6/15/2012 9:25:43 AM

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Diverticulitis?

That's the cause of a kink, not the kink itself. Now, cervicalgia...!

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RE: Name the Kink - 6/15/2012 6:52:45 PM

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At first this sounded made up to me, Da-Cry-Philia..
I just looked it up on wikipedia, great comment.
I personaly don't enjoy seeing girls cry, though I
dont not like it either haha.
Im sure their are a lot of people who can relate to this kink,
I pasted the wiki discription here for the benifit of those like
me who hadn't heard of this before.

-ARIES

dacryphilia:
may be a form of humiliation in the 'pain/restriction/servitude/humiliation' spectrum of BDSM; for example, a dominant may verbally abuse the submissive in order to elicit a tearful response. In contrast, a Dominant may physically torture the submissive to draw tears in a pain scene. In this way, dacryphilia is a form of sadism.

The psychological aspects of dacryphilia are that the causative entity displays the power to control the psychological response from the receiver. This form of power-play therefore brings pleasure, and for some, sexual arousal. Passive dacryphilia involves a third party who also achieves pleasure in watching someone in emotional distress, usually caused by the scening Dominant, though the reason does not restrict the pleasure - a person may enjoy the tears of others, whatever the cause.[3]

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RE: Name the Kink - 6/15/2012 8:44:34 PM

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Why do you assume begging is by definition degrading? Many people enjoy doing it and don't find it humiliating, but instead empowering.

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RE: Name the Kink - 6/15/2012 9:33:09 PM

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ORIGINAL: DesFIP

Why do you assume begging is by definition degrading? Many people enjoy doing it and don't find it humiliating, but instead empowering.

Hmm couldn't say why I look on it like that, but I'd be interested hearing
what type of feelings being made to beg for something triggers in you.
Do you feel empowered by begging? If you don't get what you were
begging for how do you feel?

All my questions haha, must make a bad conversation.
I can tell you that from my personal experience, I suppose
I like the feeling of... Control? Power? Being the centre of
Attention haha, I don't do it often but sometimes making
Someone beg, adds a little flavour that i like.

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RE: Name the Kink - 6/16/2012 1:28:13 PM

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Questions are always welcome in any form, OP; the hard part for most people, is learning from the answers.

Do that and you'll be good.

I'll venture another guess: emotional sadism. Controlling a person through their feelings can be a touchy thing for some, but it comes down to intent and result. If you both gain from it, then it isn't different from any other variant of sadism.

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RE: Name the Kink - 6/16/2012 2:56:25 PM

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Marriage?

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RE: Name the Kink - 6/16/2012 11:09:45 PM

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ORIGINAL: RemoteUser

Questions are always welcome in any form, OP; the hard part for most people, is learning from the answers.

Do that and you'll be good.

I'll venture another guess: emotional sadism. Controlling a person through their feelings can be a touchy thing for some, but it comes down to intent and result. If you both gain from it, then it isn't different from any other variant of sadism.

Whats OP stand for?

Another new concept for me, sadism having a spectrum of different types.
Very interesting, I suppose you could apply it to alot of things?
Maybe you could call those goddess people that want to be sent money
Financial Sadists?

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RE: Name the Kink - 6/17/2012 5:21:07 PM

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Sorry, it's a short form for Original Poster - in other words, the person who started the thread/conversation.

Interesting take on fin doms. I suppose you could perceive it that way, but I think sadism might be too strong a word, since the money isn't taken as an affliction, but rather as a gift. Certainly, a fin dom could control a sub through his money if she wanted to (and if he let her), but it seems too equal a playing field for sadism to apply.

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