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RE: Playing it out to the end - 6/18/2012 5:57:10 AM

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Whether in romantic love, friendships, and even work relationships if the exchange is to unequal it generally doesnt last and it shouldnt. For some 40/60 is good, some might even settle for 70/30 to be happy in the arrangement. There is usually one doing more then the other, in most exchanges.
The closer the percent, the happier the relationship is I imagine.

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RE: Playing it out to the end - 6/18/2012 8:48:36 AM

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eehh...in my relationships where I thrived, the amount of love we both feel for each other is exactly the same...100/100. I don't thrive in relationships that are anything less than that. I've been thankful to have now two of these types of relationship in my life. I feel truly blessed.

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RE: Playing it out to the end - 6/18/2012 9:19:21 AM

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eehh...in my relationships where I thrived, the amount of love we both feel for each other is exactly the same...100/100. I don't thrive in relationships that are anything less than that. I've been thankful to have now two of these types of relationship in my life. I feel truly blessed.

Sounds healthy and truly a blessing. Excellent.
I didnt mean love so much as usualyl someone takes on a bigger load of giving vs taking. If both parties are happy really doesnt matter the percentage of who does what.
But yes, if love is important in the relationship, it needs to be mutual, one cant have one view and the other another view. It fades and dies.

100/100 that rocks!!! People definitely thrive under those conditions. Im truly happy for you two, its inspiring to hear of such dedication.

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RE: Playing it out to the end - 6/18/2012 9:22:17 AM

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We work at it and as He likes to say..we're a "we".

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RE: Playing it out to the end - 6/18/2012 5:59:31 PM

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ORIGINAL: chatterbox24

Whether in romantic love, friendships, and even work relationships if the exchange is to unequal it generally doesnt last and it shouldnt. For some 40/60 is good, some might even settle for 70/30 to be happy in the arrangement. There is usually one doing more then the other, in most exchanges.
The closer the percent, the happier the relationship is I imagine.

this seems intuitive, until you think about d/s counter-balancing that, and plenty of people liking that imbalance, as a match to their own needs. i've always attracted submissive women, because i'm "dominate" (haha, i couldn't resist). they like not having to worry about a lot of things i take care of. it's funny that maybe you're thinking an s is the one who "takes care of the needs of the d", but i don't see it that way. she only takes care of certain needs, both sexual and otherwise.

re unrequited love - not healthy, and any continuation is of course continuing an unhealthy thing. now of course, plenty of us, myself included, do such unhealthy things because we still like the math.

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RE: Playing it out to the end - 6/20/2012 9:15:07 AM

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Whether in romantic love, friendships, and even work relationships if the exchange is to unequal it generally doesnt last and it shouldnt. For some 40/60 is good, some might even settle for 70/30 to be happy in the arrangement. There is usually one doing more then the other, in most exchanges.
The closer the percent, the happier the relationship is I imagine.

this seems intuitive, until you think about d/s counter-balancing that, and plenty of people liking that imbalance, as a match to their own needs. i've always attracted submissive women, because i'm "dominate" (haha, i couldn't resist). they like not having to worry about a lot of things i take care of. it's funny that maybe you're thinking an s is the one who "takes care of the needs of the d", but i don't see it that way. she only takes care of certain needs, both sexual and otherwise.

re unrequited love - not healthy, and any continuation is of course continuing an unhealthy thing. now of course, plenty of us, myself included, do such unhealthy things because we still like the math.

Hi Karm,

Hows it going DOM? lol. Yes I was thinking along the lines of the S type taking care of the Dom. I understand that isnt always the case, it can be quite mutual, so many relationships so many ways, its mind boggling!

THanks everyone for your input, its all very interesting.

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